should I spank my kid?

Answer 1

For what?

In general YES as a last resort, or major rule breaking.

Answer 2

Hi louis,

I would have to ask you what types of punishment have you used, leading up to spanking.

If you are a consistent parent, communicating with your child, setting an example of good behavior, rewarding the child for good behavior, and pointing out bad behavior right away - if the punishment(s) you are using are losing effect, and the child is under the age of 10, I would recommend spanking.

with most children, if the parent is consistent, does not resort to raising your voice, does not show broad mood swings, other non-contact punishments are effective.

Have you tried having the child do push ups?
This is a good way to break their will power, yet you do not lay a hand on them. They get exercise and yet the energy to disobey you will lapse.

Spanking should be the last resort. But if you are going to spank, be consistent. Don't threaten a spanking and then back down. Use it as a discipline tool and not to act out your frustration and do not use it as a substitute for open communication and encouraging good behavior.

good luck ~

Answer 3

I agree with never spanking your kids out of anger.I would however use some type of paddle because the force and momentum of the hand continues after making contact(i.e when you swat their butt) and can sometimes cause problems with the back. Alot of peolpe want to be the childs friend and not the parent. I wouldn't spank the child because they didn't wash their hands after they sneezed or anything like that and don't repeatedly spank them(20 spanks in a row is way uncalled for and is abuse) but 1 or 2 even 3 swats to the backside ....do it ....we had it done when we were kids and look how we turned out

Answer 4

Long ago spankings were frequent and common. At that time America was raising children who accepted responsibility, didn't expect a free lunch, respected the rights of others, didn't turn to drugs for release from everyday tensions, actually learned something in school, and didn't live by the credo that "if it doesn't feel good, don't do it." Then along came "experts" like Dr Spock and super-educated know-nothings who spouted off about how corporal punishment was all wrong and did unspecified damage to children's psyches.

Spanking should be a last resort when other less harsh punishments don't work. Never, never, never spank your child out of anger!

Answer 5

As far as the lie that spanking teaches your kid to settle things with violence and makes kids fear their parents, total hogwash. I grew up getting spanked when I needed it, and I never once feared my parents. I have a wonderful relationship with them. Spank your child when needed. If you start when they are knee high to a grasshopper, you will only need to do it a handful of times. Don't let it be the first thing you do. First thing, try time out. If they don't behave, tell them do it again and I'm going to spank you. Then spank if it happens again. No need in letting your child scream it out in time out for two hours when a smack on the butt will stop it in seconds.

There will also come a time when time outs won't work anymore. Try telling a 12 year old to go in time out, and watch them sass you. If a 12 yr old knows what's coming when they sass you(a smack), they'll be less likely to sass.

There will also be times in a young child's life where time outs won't be appropriate. Like one lady mentioned, if you are at the beach, your kid runs off and you spend 10 or 20 minutes looking for them, a 5 minute time out is hardly punishment. They'll just get up and do it again.

At the grocery store, if your child starts having a tantrum, what are you going to do? Time outs won't work there, and waiting until you get home just means the child can be as mean as they want at the store. A smack on the butt will take care of that problem right at the store.

Answer 6

H_ll yes!!! spanking your kids defines the the bounderies. I spanked my kids, not hard and just with my hand, starting when they were 1 1/2 years and now i don't have to spank them at all because i layed down the law. My girls are now 7 and they are the best behaved children hands down. I never have to worry when they are away from home.
I contribute it to thier discipline. Look your child in the eye and gave him/her one good firm swat on the hand or butt and say you will not do that, but you may do this. When they comply say good job or something nice. If they repeat the bad behavior you must keep up your discipline also. It is very important that both partners are on the same page----good luck!
sucessful with 2 girls and 1 one the way.

Answer 7

Spanking is a disciplinary tool that I believe that should stay in a parents back pocket. It should be reserved for major things like hurting themselves or others or when other things just plain fail. When spanking is used in moderation its a very effective tool, when used too often you get the opposite effect. The child can become either fearful, resentful, or just doesn't bother them anymore and it looses effectiveness. I also believe its good to keep in back pocket for ALL ages. not just little ones.

Answer 8

Spanking's like any other punishment tool, except it's way more frightening for the kid. If you use it, it would be better to use it very rarely and in cold blood - no yelling, no scary stuff. That way it is both more effective and less terrifying for the kid. Remember the purpose of punishment - to train the kid, not to scare him or to make you feel better.

Answer 9

Did your dad spank you? Did he spank his other kids??

What age is your kid?

Why do you think he should be punished?

Why would you think a spanking would be suitable punishment?

Answer 10

yes. every parent will spank or hit their child at least once in their life time. you see telling the child to go in the corner for "time-out" isn't going to do anything. no one likes being hit and in time your child will learn to listen to you and not break the rules.