My fiance and i are getting married in 7 1/2 months and we're putting our list together. How do I handle inviting my co-workers. I am only close to a couple however, my department has only 6 people (who have spouses).
My wedding is only going to include about 60 people MAX. How do i invite or not invite? How do I avoid hurt feelings? How to get our list which is currently 100+ down to 60 without hurting feelings... Help!!!
2007-07-23 06:56:18 · 21 answers · asked by shelliej01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I only invited about 4 people out of the 30 people I worked with. I chose who I was close to (who I ate lunch with on a regular basis, who i would hang out with outside of work), and just invited the others to a pre-wedding picnic. Its a lot cheaper, and nobodys feelings seemed to be hurt. Hope this helps.
2007-07-23 07:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by armywifeftriley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was married we only invited a few people we worked with because we both have large families and were having a small wedding.
Friends of ours just got married and a majority of the guests were coworkers. So it really depends on your priorities. If you are having a small wedding then don't invite anyone from work. Or if you are really close to 1 or 2 people only invite them, but ask them to keep it quiet so not to hurt anyones feelings.
Also keep in mind that not everyone you invite will be able to attend. So if you are inviting 100+ you will probably get yes replies on 90. I would only invite close family and friends, If your parents want specific people invited over your limit ask if they can assist in paying for those extra plates for the reception.
I am sure you will figure it out. The guest list is easy wait until you get to the seating chart!! Have your maid of honor and bridesmaids help too, that is what they are there for.
Good luck!
2007-07-23 15:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have your answer on if you have to invite co-workers and their spouses. I agree with most answers you got. I too, had a small wedding (73) and only invited 2 people from work. I tried to keep my "wedding talk" limited at work to minimize hurt feelings.
Nobody however has seemed to answer you about how to cut your list.... Some suggestions.. If you are inviting people who are married/engaged, you are obligated to invite their spouse/fiance. However, if you are inviting single people, you are not obligated to invite their boyfriend/girlfriend. You can cut all children from your list. Most families understand you have a budget and would probably be happy to have an evening out without their children.
If children aren't your issue, you start cutting the people you don't consider "mandatory". Friends of your parents, distant relatives, friends you only speak to on rare occasions, etc etc etc. If you still find you can't get the count to where you need it to be, you may want to think about a different venue. Someplace less expensive where you can afford more guests.
There's always eloping!
Good luck.
2007-07-23 08:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by geistswoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
60 people is not a lot. That wouldn't even cover my close family and friends, or my Fi's.
For that reason, I would not invite any co-workers. If you can't invite everyone you are close w/, don't invite any. This includes your boss.
I don't really understand why people invite their bosses in the first place. I have lots of work friends and a good relationship w/ my bosses. However, those relationships are work based only.
I don't see the need to invite my boss. I'm not one for mixing business with pleasure.
I would be upfront. Just tell people you are having a small family wedding w/ only 60 people.
They should get the idea.
2007-07-23 07:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty easy. All you have to do is invite the few people that you are close with at work. Like really good friends. But anyone else in the department you don't do that. If you want to keep your work life seperate from your personal one. And pretty much I'm sure when you explain that you want to keep the wedding small andintimate then I'm sure some would understand and back out if you have many family members coming. But you can always invite them to the reception anyway. After all some people can make that before they can make the wedding.
2007-07-23 07:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
60 people; your going to hurt someones feelings no matter what you do. My brother had 50 at his; he tried really hard to pick only the closest people but it was near impossible not hurting someone or others feelings. You can always send out a reminder to all your friends and family that you got married and that although you would have loved for them to be there that blah blah blah (whatever reason you only had 60 people).
As far as your co-workers; invite only those you really want to go. The rest will understand if you tell them that you are only inviting 60 people. Good Luck!
2007-07-23 08:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jose M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is how I feel about. There are going to have thousands of opportunities where it calls for making everyone happy...your wedding is not one of them. If anyone has the nerve to ***** about why they were not invited i would just explain that is was a very small wedding with only a few close freinds and relatives. You are not going to be able to control how people act and I would just say that you wish you could have invited everyone but you had to have a cut off point. It can definitely be done. You just need to stop worrying so much about hurt feelings. Hopefully they will be mature enough to understand. I feel your pain though. I am currently planing my wedding and I am having the same types of issues. Good luck!
2007-07-23 07:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read an article once that stated your wedding should be filled with the people you treasure in your social life. If you are social with someone outside of work, then yes invite them. Otherwise you do not have to. I also had the same problem and I chose to invite no one from work, much simpler, less expectations. If i've also learned you are going to hurt someone's feelings or offend at least person in the end, make this your wedding dont worry about other people.
2007-07-23 08:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by bekaj13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will help . .
You only invite the people that you socialize with "after working hours."
And if you only "go out and have a burger" with one or two of them, then that's who you should send an invitation to. If they are married or in a serious relationship then you should invite their spouse or partner, also.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-07-23 09:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a wedding about your size and chose not to invite any of my co-workers. I would say only invite those you really get along with and maybe hang with outside of work. Maybe mail their invitations to their home address so their are no hard feelings at the office. After all your personal life and business life are 2 seperate things.
2007-07-23 07:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by 2littleiggies 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋