Why is cheating considered acceptable by many?

Question

My boyfriend of five months (and best friend of a year and a half) were talking after work tonight. We both work in a restaurant (he works in two) and he was telling me how several of his male co-workers cheat on their wives/gf's and how some of the females know they have wives/gf's and they don't care. I also know men and women who have cheated or been cheated on and I think it's one of the worst things to do to someone. It scares me (although I love and trust my bf) because so many people seem to think it is normal and okay when it isn't, it's the ultimate betrayal. Is it normal for me to have this fear seeing how it seems the majority of people are unfaithful. Am I the only one who feels this way?

Answer 1

We live in a hedonistic society. So many people in our country have lost their moral compass; That internal knowledge that guides them in the direction as to what is right and wrong primarily because they were never taught or have seen, by experience, that their parents and peers don't have it either. They see this behavior in movies and on TV and think it is acceptable behavior for real life. What it causes is social chaos.

Your level of comfort on this issue is going to be directly related to your trust of your boyfriend. Trust is the primary block in the foundation of a relationship. You have been dating for 5 months which is not very long and being concerned about his commitment to you is normal. You will have to discover his level of commitment just as you will have to discover other aspects of your relationship.

And no, you are not the only one that feels that way.

Answer 2

In Most Cases It Is Not That They Think Its Normal Its Just That You Are At A Point In Your Relationship Where You Don't Want To Lose Tht Person So You Let Him Do Whatever He Wants Because You Become Desperate And Feel Like There Is No One Else Out There But Him.. And Also In My Case My Ex Used To Tell Me If I Didn't Let Him Have Intercourse With My Female Friends Then He Would Break up With Me.. He Had My Mind And I Was Young And Dumb So I Would Let Him..

It Is Scary And I Don't Agree With That Stuff


In Your Case You Have Nothing To Worry About Because You Trust Him...

So Put Your Heart And Mind At Ease And Just Love Him More And More Each Day

Answer 3

No, not a lot of people think it's normal and okay. They only say so because 1) they're doing it or 2) they have never experienced being cheated on. They will sing a different tune when they are the victim.

I understand your concern, I am scared too at times. Especially after being cheated on. But I try not to be jaded if I want to be happy.

Answer 4

NO. More people feel the way you do than people who do not feel that way. Cheating is not normal social behavior because it destroys trust, unity and intimacy between two people who, would otherwise be committed to each other, exclusively. The male gender is more predisposed than the female of animal species to have the capacity to become interested in numerous females, however the mind and the will of an emotionally stable and socially responsible male will inadvertently, be used to control these animal urges in favor of carrying on human lives decently, and in order. Cheating leads to social chaos and confusion in every single instance. Cheating is only acceptable to people who do not have much self esteem or concern for others in their lives.

Answer 5

It's because cheating by men and women has been going on since people walked the face of the Earth. Some would say cheating is not wrong, it's standard. It's marriage that is unnatural.

Answer 6

Cheating is always WRONG. However, when you get married, you really do have to work it out...for your sake. If your husband continues to cheat, and doesn't stop, then you have to get out of the realtionship due to the disease factor...There are two books I suggest to read---The Five Love LAnguages by Gary Chapman and Power of a Praying WIfe...These two will answer your question.

Answer 7

It is never acceptable. I just got back from Afghanistan and found out my GF, who was my best friend had cheated on me while i was gone. If you are best friends then you should know a little about his past and if has any instances of this before... IF he doesn't then I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Answer 8

It's typically only acceptable to the ones that do it...they are selfish people who think only of themselves and their desires, and aren't concerned with who might get hurt or what consequences there might be.

Hopefully your bf isn't the cheating type...time will tell...and yes, it's normal for you to be somewhat concerned, esp since you say he works with others that think cheating is acceptable.

Answer 9

HELL NO! I totally agree, in my eyes it IS in fact the most disgusting thing you can do to someone you love or someone that thinks you love them. I hope the souls of the ones that cheat and don't BEG for forgiveness burn in a fire made especially for them. I've been cheated on and it was done in a fashion of premeditated cheating, she did it to manipulate my emotions and as a way to make me want her more, like I was not good enough for her so she went with someone else, then came back to me and apologized. I told her she was a piece of **** and told her to make sure I never saw her again. ~~Thats how you tell cheaters off, you tell'em what they are worth, you turn your back on them, and you move on and NEVER look back.~~

Answer 10

No ur not the only one, everyone feels that way and I guess that "fear" makes people think that they are going to be cheated on sooner or later, so they decide what the hell and do it to. It's the whole "everybody's doing it" mentality that has dulled our senses to believe it's wrong.