2007-07-23 06:15:55 · 22 answers · asked by kystik83 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i just found out i am pregnant. my husband makes enough to support us, although we will have to budget. i just want to do what is best for the baby. I know i wouldnt feel good about leaving my baby in daycare. i just want to get feed back from other mothers before i make my final decision.
2007-07-23 06:27:06 · update #1
well if you have kids then YES.If you are responsible enough to have them then you should be the one raising them.Why give into corporate greed to send them to daycare.Some CHOOSE to pay someone else to raise their kids,it is ABSURD>>>>>>
Look at it through the childs eyes..
I have heard every excuse in the book about why someone chooses to go to work vs stay home ,,they are all selfish.
The best the you can do for your kids is to stay at home..
Don't have them for someone else to raise you will just be contributing to the downward spiral of society.
2007-07-23 06:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by my2cents 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You know, I wish I had someone like you sticking up for me. Some days I will slack a little bit cause I have worked so hard the other days I have to give myself that break. I have a 3 yr old and 2 yr old with another on the way so I get exhausted easily. My husband complains that i need to be cleaning when the kids nap instead of napping with them. But you know what. The house isn't PERFECT, but dishes are done, I have a plan for dinner, the laundry is done, ect. My house is clean and sanitized and I feel that even though I know he goes to a hard job for 10 hrs a day I have a hard job here to. Yeah I get more breaks to sit on the computer for awhile. But I keep my butt moving on other stuff most of the day. I wish my 16 yr old brother was as smart as you. He wont pick his own laundry off the floor and both of my parents still work. You are going to be a wonderful husband and father someday! Just don't rush it! Enjoy your single life for a bit after high school or at least don't marry for awhile. I don't regret it but some days I wished I had let myself party a bit before I settled down. Tell your mom many people out there are rooting for her! And way to go to you for helping her out. Your dad should do it sometimes too. ( I have to admit that my husband can be a big help on Sunday's if he isn't fishing.)
2016-04-01 09:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! I have seen it start out as an agreement between spouses (my parents and my husband with his ex) that the man will be the bread winner and the woman will be a stay at home mom and then when money gets tight it turns into resentment because while dad is out making money mom is at home.
It also causes problems because when money is tight or the kids are out of the house (gone to college) and you could use that extra money, the woman has been out of the work force for years which means no experience and most employers want experienced workers!
I would never do it!
2007-07-23 06:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 7 and 5....my husband makes a great living....and travels a lot.....We decided together that I would give up my career to stay at home to raise them....I have not regretted that decision for a single minute...I have the best kids that both ooze confidence and have the house that all the kids flock to.....I currently have a gang of 8 hanging out....I wouldn't change things for the world......it has to be something that you both want though or it can get messy....my husband thanks me atleast twice a week for making the sacrifice to stay home and I remind him just as often how lucky we are to have a husband equally willing to make the sacrifice.....there are days when I'm sure it would be easier to go to work....but in general....I wouldn't change a thing...
2007-07-23 08:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jaxchamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom. I love it. I get to see them change every day. I also breast fed them (2 kids, 4 years total). They are happy, healthy and smart.
I also work part-time (one day a week, what ever day my husband is off--just to get out of the house and feel accomplished getting stuff done).
I also opened up my own home daycare business so I can watch other people's kids while I stay home with my own. It's a win-win situation all around!!
2007-07-23 06:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a stay at home mom for 12 years. I loved every minute of it. I raised 4 kids, all of which are well-rounded, smart, articulate and just good kids. My oldest just graduated with her masters degree in business & finance and works for a big bank in Pennsylvania. We have 2 others in college and one in high school.
I have absolutely no regrets.
Of course, I had a very supportive husband who was willing to be the sole provider financially. We did struggle sometimes to pay the bills and buy Christmas presents, but it was all worth it.
2007-07-23 06:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom. i mean if u are not comfortable with putting your child in a daycare then dont. but if u still want to have a kind of a job. get a job u can do at home or go to school in your spare time trust me becuz once u have a child and u have to work u will have no time for your self. i say enjoy yourself becuz this chance may never come around again. trust
2007-07-23 06:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by rosieangel1224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! If I could afford it, I would definitely prefer to stay at home with my kids, at least while they're little. When I was young my mom stayed at home with me & my sister, and once we were in school she got a part time job (for extra money and for something to do for herself) but was always off by the time we got off of school. As we got older and more self-sufficient she worked more, but was always available when we needed her. I wish I could do this but at this point can't afford to... by the time I get home from work it's almost time for my daughter to go to bed and sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on so much! Not everyone can do it though... some need to work for their own sanity, but if you feel like you can, at least in the short term, I would say go for it!
P.S. Don't forget that a lot of money you would be making by working will be going to daycare anyway... so is it worth it?
2007-07-23 07:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - I wish I could but my bills wouldnt get paid, my kids wouldnt eat, my husband wont help so its all up to me to be the "responsible party"
If I could find someone willing to take over monetarily then Heck Yeah!! I'd love to stay home with my kids - they're the goofiest bunch of people I know and a lot of fun to be around which is a heck of a lot better than being in my stuffy old office all day.
2007-07-23 06:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by mizryLayne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it would be nice not to have to work (in an office), I don't think I could a full time 'home-maker'. I find most housework a drudgery and not intellectually stimulating nor satisfying. I love my kids, but I would go nuts if I spent all day, every day with them. And, do I find other home activities (gardening, crafts, decorating, cooking, PTA) interesting enough to keep me busy.
Ultimately, I would not find being a %100 home-maker very fun. I would want to work at least part time.
2007-07-23 06:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the PLUS SIDE: be with my daughter all day, have my house sparkling clean, feel free(for some reason).
NEGATIVE: not enough money to get what i want, have to ask for money, explain what i need that money for, work 24/7 in the house, more work than a real job, boring at times, not have the car i want, or cell i want, get to go ou where eer i want.
there are alwasy pros and cons for everything but i think i would love to stay at home but i cant since i have a car payment and bills and cell phone and all that i need to pay
2007-07-23 06:22:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋