am just sick and don't know what to do. My daughter lately has had sores on her face that she swears is just from "picking the zits" on her face. But these are not the angry red spots from that--these are downright SORES. So I looked it up on the internet and oh dayumnit. I am so sick now with fear and worry and even anger that i could be so easily duped. What do I do? How do I get help for her and for me to deal with it realistically and helpfully (for us both)? Are there some websites you can list or maybe some personal stories of how you dealt effectively or ineffectively with this? Please help me.
2007-07-23 06:08:04 · 9 answers · asked by persaunna 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You have a difficult time ahead of you. I know exactly how you feel. This is what you NEED to do... go to the Alanon website http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html and click on "how do I find a meeting". This answer is probably sounding strange to you already but you need to do this. You will likley not understand what Alanon is in the first place, it's not just for people that have alcoholism in their families, it's anything addictive. The behavior resulting from any addiction is the same...it causes destruction in families which is what is happening to you. Your situation could go either way..she could stop using and this could be over but it can also more likely continue and get worse. Then you'll feel like you have to do something to get her to stop. You might kick her out or try to ground her...hopefully it works but usually it doesn't. In Alanon you will learn to cope and how to best approach things with her.
p.s. The sores on her face are very likley from meth use. They stay up for days and hone in on small things and don't stop for hours. Look for other sigs..does she eat regularly? is her weight normal? how long has she had these sores? how much time does she spend at home? have you searched her room for clues?
Remember...go to Alanon.
2007-07-23 06:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by smarttmelanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would make her take a drug test to see if she's even on something. When my older brother was on Meth he would spend a lot of time sleeping when he was coming down off the drugs. Does she sleep a lot? He never had sores than I'm aware of though.
Took him years to accept he had a problem - he was right and everyone else was wrong. Very arrogant.
Unfortunately, after working at a drug rehab center I never saw forced admissions work. People really do have to want help for it to work. If she doesn't acknowledge there's a problem then no amount of convincing her she has one will work.
You're just going to have to watch her closely and maybe keep giving her weekly drug tests. You're in for a long, hard road but it's your daughter so no matter how hard it gets, be there for her. Don't enable her though. Tough love but love all the same.
2007-07-23 06:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have her tested for drug use. Take her to a professional to have it done, since drug tests can be beaten to make it look as though she isn't using any.
It will help settle your mind as to weather she is or isn't using them.
Kids these days are a lot smarter than parents give them credit for, believe me she will and can find a way to beat the test if you do it. That is why I say have it done by some one who knows what to look for when the test is being done, so that she can not get over on you.
I worked in a prison for 16 years where we had to drug test inmates all the time, it was essential to know that the test were accurate. Inmates were very good at attempting to beat these test. This information can be looked up on the Internet to see how to beat the tests. Also children will share this information with others to help them get away with it. It is very simple to beat a drug test, to make it useless so that it will fail.
A simple test can be done at your doctors.
God bless you, I pray that all works out well for both your and your daughter and that she isn't using drugs.
2007-07-23 06:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crystal meth it arranged for smoking yet have you ever seen people make exciting lights a substance on a spoon? Crystal meth desires to be boiled so as that it particularly is injected into your blood stream which makes it meth.
2016-10-09 07:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need someone to have a two-way conversation with, so you can act wisely out of knowledge,
rather than re-act in haste, scaring her away.
Open your phone book
Near the front you will find "Community Service Numbers"
Find "Substance Abuse" there should be an appropriate organization and phone number you can call
to help you understand what problem you may be facing
and what may be the wisest method to address it.
There are Drug and Alcohol counselors in every community.
If you have trouble finding one to speak with, call
Your local police / sheriff department and ask for the number or speak with your local "drug task force"
Another option is to call your local hospital and ask for the number.
Usually you can do most of these things anonymously.
She is so fortunate to have a mom who loves and cares.
2007-07-23 06:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO!!!!??? COULD BE THE VERY DRUGS YOU ALLOW HER TO DRINK TO THE VERY CHEMICALS SHE SLATHERS ALL OVER TO CLEAN AND FRAGRANCE HERSELF!!!!! SYNTHETICS ARE INDUSTRY MADE CHEMICALS AND INGREDIENTS THE CHEAP MANUFACTURERS USE BECAUSE THEY CAN AND WELL THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES KNOW MATTER WHAT YOU THINK OR THINK YOU KNOW!!!!
PASTEURIZED MILK/DAIRY CAUSES SKIN RASHES SUCH AS ZITS, ECZEMA ETC!!! I KNOW AND FACE IT IN THE MIRROR AND HAVE FOR 8+ YRS ONLY NOW AM I ON 16 DAYS WITHOUT ANY DAIRY AND MY FACE HAS CLEARED JUST SLIGHTLY...WHAT YOUR SKIN LOOKS LIKE IS A MIRROR INTO WHAT YOUR LARGE INTESTINE LOOKS LIKE!!!! FACT NOT OPINION!!!! EVERYTHING YOU GREW UP KNOWING HAS BEEN A LIE AND IS A LIE AND IS DONE FOR THE SOUL PURPOSE OF MONEY!!! SHE MAY BE TELLING YOU THE TRUTH EVER CONSIDER THAT??? WHAT REASONS DOES SHE HAVE TO BE DRUGGING HERSELF OUTSIDE THE LEGAL **** GIVEN BY DOCTORS EVERYDAY AND THEN THE SOAPS AND LOTIONS,DEODERANTS,OILS,SHAMPOOS, FOODS AND BEVERAGES WE ARE ALLOWED TO EAT WEAR AND INGEST IN EVERY WHICH WAY LEGALLY WITH NO WARNING AND PARENTS HAVEN'T A CLUE...ITS JUST NORMAL!!!! DOESN'T MAKE IT HEALTHY NOR GOOD FOR YOU OR YOUR CHILDREN...I KNOW THIS FROM MY OWN CHILDRENS HEALTH ISSUES AND MY OWN INDEPTH RESEARCHES I DO FOR THE SAKE OF MY OWN AND YOURS!!!!
2007-07-28 19:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Allen13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a very loving parent. Bring her to the doctor and let her know how dangerous it is to be doing these things. Just by a simple conversation starting like what did you learn in D.A.R.E. or along those lines. And of course a drug test should be in order. I hate to break it to you but I don't think it's just the acne. : (
2007-07-23 06:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't sleep too.. see a shrink. I had a little too rowdy of a college life in the past and leave at that. Wish you best of luck.
2007-07-23 06:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by sparkles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a drug test, they are super cheap from this website
ipassedmydrugtest.com
2007-07-23 06:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋