My boyfriend went to NYC for 2 weeks,and he hasn't messaged me or emailed me or called me since he left. And also,I am gettintg tired of being the one that emails him and says like,"Hey,what's up" and stuff like that. It's getting kind of annoying,being the one that has to do that. And,I don't know what 2 do...has anyone ever been in this situation? Can someone please tell me what I should do?
2007-07-23 06:02:42 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay,so I actually have stopped trying 2 contact him,the last time i called him was 3 days ago..I just wanted 2 know what i should do..&& if anyone else had been in this situation. && he is in NYC with his dad on "Vacation". That's all he told me..
2007-07-23 06:22:19 · update #1
Forget about him... move on youre so much better than him and acts like a child.
2007-07-23 06:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Denice Kitty Hawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to just stop trying. Seeing that he is too caught up in whats going on in the NYC to talk to you, then you should be to caught up in yourself to take the time to see what he's doing. I was in this situation before and when I asked him why he felt the need to ignore me he said that he had nothing to worry about because every time I text'ed him or emailed him or called he knew that I was OK. He also said that if he hadn't heard from me then he would have called or something, but he didn't have to because I did all the work for him. So stop... Give him a reason to get a hold of you... let him miss you (and if all else false drop his sorry *** for not being a man about his mess and telling you that he doesn't want to talk to you). GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-23 13:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by punkin1427 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him back . He's probably tied up with some other female, so he cant pick up the phone to talk to u with her near. U sure he doesnt have a double life out in New York? Maybe sure he didnt meet some chic off of Myspace who lives out there, whats the REAL reason why he's thre in the 1st place.
2007-07-23 13:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone. Continue on with your day- don't let him rent space in your head. He knows he's driving you crazy because he hasn't contacted you. So, switch the game around, and continue on your day as if you had already talked to him- and when he does call, text or e-mail you-you won't be bothered because you had your own day to yourself. Don't let men rent space in your head when they play you like that.
He knows sooner or later, you're going to contact him- think about what that does to his ego- it builds his up and brings your downs. Do you always want to be the one that has to reach out to him??? It sounds like you're fed up with doing just that. So change the game around, get on the phone, call one of your friends, and go window shopping go to the beach, do something so you're not waiting for his reply to you!!
Go get out have some fun!!!
2007-07-23 13:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dignity is the key.
You would be surprised to know that many men believe that if women are treated like dirt, they get attracted to them. I am very disappointed in girls that they chase fools. If he has not responded to you in 2 weeks, get a hint. Either he is trying to play hard to get or he doesn't care about you. He is probably bragging to someone how you e-mail him and you are dying to be with him and he could care less.
You know what is sad..............even after treating you like this, he would come back ...say in 2 months and he would make up a crapy excuse for not calling you, you would take him back. I have seen my friends do it..........and you prove them right....treat me like dirt, ignore me, don't care for me, and I will love you forever!
2007-07-23 13:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by keera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Melissa. He's just not that into you.....it's a painful, terrible truth, but if he was, he would have called by now. Stop killing yourself trying to get him to communicate....
If I were you, I would totally back off and do not contact him again.
Listen, don't you want a man who wants to talk to you when he is out of town? Don't you deserve a man who will respect you and respond to your contacts, and let you know he is thinking of you? That's what we all want....this one is not giving it to you.....so....my advice is:
NEXT!
2007-07-23 13:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by sunshineday2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i were you would not call or write,maybe he want sometime for himself.I kwon that you miss him.But give him time and when he calls ask him why he did not call.He should have a very good excuse.Do you stuff go to a movie,hang with your girlfriends.
2007-07-23 13:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by june 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book "He's Just Not That Into You" sorry but you know as well as I do that when you love someone you miss them like crazy when they go away. Case in point, you miss him and are messaging him like crazy...is he doing the same??
2007-07-23 13:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he's really giving much thought to the situation. There's nothing you can do to get him to talk to you. You'll either have to deal with it or find a new bf.
2007-07-23 13:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with a lot of guys, it's out of site; out of mind. it's rude but that's just how most of them are. just back away, don't message him or anything, eventually he'll come around. if he doesn't he's probably a jerk...you sound young..move on.
2007-07-23 13:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋