Been in love with this girl for so long and nothing I do is good enough for her?

Question

No matter what I do she doesnt seem to care, or is never enough, I have been with her for 2 years and care alot about her. yet she seems like a robot with no emoitions and everything ends up in an aruement. But when we are good togther we are great togther and I dont want to lose that. and when I try to talk to her we end up arueing again. Please advise

Answer 1

Leave her. Simple.

Answer 2

Since you two can't seem to talk it out, probably because neither of you has enough understanding for eachother's views on things, i suggest that you try not to overdo the loving part. Don't put too much pressure on her and don't hang around her neck the entire time. Let her show love for you when she feels like it, don't make it a chore for her and force her to.
She'll come to you when she's ready to talk and it probably won't end nice, so be prepared. Until then give her a little space to breathe, people can "suffocate" their partners in relationships easily without realizing it. Show her you care about her more than yourself when the time comes and don't argue too hard, even if you win the argument and get an ego boost she'll hate you more and you'll end up without her in the worst case.

This was just a guess but yeah, maybe i scored.

Answer 3

Dude, what are you doing wasting your time with a woman like that when there are a lot who are better, who would listen to you, and understand you? I understand you're feelings towards her but the question is, does she feel the same about you? What's the use of being with someone who doesn't feel the way you do? You're being unfair to her and to yourself. If you really care about her and love her, set her free so both of you can find the right people for each other. Anyway, if she comes back to you someday, then maybe she's the one.

You deserve someone so much better. Someone who would appreciate all you've done for her. If she's like that to you now, how much more when you get married, if ever it does reach that point.. Think about it.

Answer 4

Well first and foremost, try to get to her that you really care about her, and that the best way for you guys not getting into arguments is communication. Finding out what she likes and dislikes about the relationship will help in the long run. Be patient with her and tell her that you care deeply for her, but that she needs to let you know how she is feeling that way you wont be arguing as much. Be honest with her and tell her that you enjoy being with her when things are good. Hopefully you two can work this out without further arguments.

Answer 5

Sounds like me! My boyfriend is lovely yet I put obstacles in the way as a test! I've promised myself to stop cause know 1 day he will draw the line and that place he's at I will not be welcome! I can only say stress ur situation! But if thats fails...think and ask urself "AM I HAPPY" Someone else out there could appreciate u more! Its scary thinking about moving on but sometimes we have to take that step, that one step is holding u back after the first one the other foot WILL follow!! xxxx

Answer 6

Try dropping a casual hint about wedding bells! You don't actually have to propose - just test out the water, so to speak.
It could be that she is on edge because there is no commitment in the long term from you.
I went out with a guy off and on for 4 years and he seemed to be content with that (apart from having a lot of baggage in the shape of Religion and his Mother who didn't like me) - so, in the end, I married someone else. Things might have been different if he'd given me a clue that he saw his future with me, long term.
Or maybe you suggest a cooling off period - she could realise that she wants to stay with you.

Answer 7

sorry to hear about that. I know that feeling, having someone you care about not give you credit for anything you do. it really hurts.
Well, if you're sure about wanting stay with her, and you love her, then you need to fight for your relationship. You should be completely honest with her and tell her how much she hurts you when she does what she does,,,,
There will come a time when you absolutely can't take it anymore, so whatever you want to fix with her, you fix it now otherwise, your relationship will go down the hill from now on.
If she can't see what you're going through or even understand how you feel about this, then she is not worth it. Don't waste your time with her,,,

Hope this helped,
Best of luck!

Answer 8

I realise you love her so much but there is something wrong. she sounds like she is getting board and not interest in the relationship. she want to get out. she wants to leave.
you need to have a serious conversation without arguing. ask her if she wants to break it off. let the ball be in her court to make the final decision. there's is nothing you can do if she wants to leave. its hard especially if you lover her that much.
but you heard the saying "if you let it go and it comes back to you then its always been yours,but if it doesn't come back then it was never yours to begin with" or something close to that.

Answer 9

My dear friend,
love is natural.love is not force so i think that your lover is not in love with you.let nature have its natural course and lets see what happens next.As an african lady,i will advise you looked else where ok .else who ever it is will cheat on you even when you get married.if you are a low profile person keep the tone up for that makes you the more gentle.You shall surely find your rib one day.
I HOPE YOU BELEIVE THE 'SAY' GOD'S TIME IS THE BEST.

Answer 10

DUMP HER ASAP you will spend most of your life like this, Life is to short so find a girl who likes all the things you do even the great things.ok

Answer 11

Imagine how much better it would be to find someone that would ALWAYS be good? It's only a matter of time til she meets someone else and dumps you.
Find someone else that will appreciate you wholeheartedly. She doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve to get your feelings hurt.