Ok. All I know so far is that I can't have sex before marriage. I want to be a good Roman Catholic and not go to hell or anything. Please help. Can I do any of these without it being a sin?
1. Kiss
2. French Kiss
3. Touching each other
4. Having him put his fingers in me
That's as far as I've gone and will go with him. Have I already committed sin? Will I have to confess? If one or more of these aren't allowed then I'll stop doing the one that I'm not supposed to. I'm just really worried that I did something wrong. Please answer all of my questions. Thank you so much.
2007-07-23 05:18:03 · 15 answers · asked by Honey 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Btw. Touching each other everywhere...
2007-07-23 05:30:28 · update #1
Ask yourself this question: If your heavenly Father were there, would you do any of that stuff in front of Him? Guess what? He is always around. A hug and a kiss on the cheek is ok because before you guys are married, you 2 are brother and sister in Christ.
Another thing, don't put yourself in a situation where the devil can set you up to sin. Meaning don't be alone with Him. Its for your own good. I don't want you to sin against God either.
God Bless
2007-07-23 05:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by pattscool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former catholic I can say you are in bad shape with 3 and 4 you better get to a priest right away and make your confession, and hope a car doesn't run over you before you get to the church. You are living in sin so be careful. However, after having broke away from the church I can tell you what you are doing seems pretty normal for people in a relationship.
2007-07-23 05:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, these are sins and you must confess to a priest . Stop physical contact after confession. If your boyfriend truly loves you he will wait till marriage. If not he will dump you for the next available person. That will open your eyes about what he really wants.
It is better to avoid all four since even a kiss leads to more physical contact.
2007-07-24 03:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we get married without anyone criticizing me and thinking he made a bad decision" If you live your life worried too much about what other people think, you will lead a miserable life and will not please anyone. If you believe in Catholicism, then talk to the priest about converting. You're lucky your bf doesn't want you to convert.. he's right, if he wanted a catholic girlfriend, he wouldn't have started dating you. Catholicism is changing and Catholics are becoming much more open-minded. If your boyfriend doesn't believe that he needs to marry a Catholic, then that's his choice. If his family has a problem with it (and it doesn't sound like they do) then that would be HIS problem to figure out, not yours. what does a catholic family require someone like me to do to marry into their family? You' have to get a catholic man to agree to marry you. The rest of the family will come as sort of a "package deal" once you marry. They may not be happy, but if you're in love, then that won't matter. It doesn't sound like they will be bothered. Just be nice to them. do you think he doesn't love me? I have no clue. Obviously, if this is an issue that's really bothering you but he can't find the time to explain it to you, then I'm concerned that he's not taking your issue seriously. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you. If he does love you, then he loves you for who you are and doesn't need you to change or convert. If he doesn't love you, then converting won't help you. If you want to convert, then do so because it is something YOU need in your life, with or without him and his family. Blessings, -Scarlet
2016-05-21 01:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first two are ok, the second is questionable (depends on how much 'touching' you do and where you do it) and the fourth definitely needs confessing.
You want to avoid the occasions of sin, so I would stick to the first two. Remember to confess out of your love for God and wanting to make your relationship a reflection of His love.
2007-07-23 05:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by lawlzlawlzduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How far is too far" depends on the individual.
There is a very fine line between love and lust. Love is when you care more about the other person that you do yourself. Lust is when you are using the other person for your own pleasure. You have gone too far when what you are doing is being done to bring yourself pleasure or to get the other person to give you pleasure rather than an expression of love.
If your thoughts while kissing him are about having sex with him, then the kissing is wrong, even if it does not involve the tongue.
What causes your boyfriend to go from love to lust may be different from what causes you to go from love to lust. He does not place the STOP sign for you. You place the STOP sign for yourself.
If he tries to convince you to do something that you feel is morally wrong, DUMP HIM! This will be a sure sign that he is thinking more of himself than you.
2007-07-23 05:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Jesus teaches that even the thought is a sin doesn't he? So your a sinner but you will only go to hell if you don't repent and avoid the sin until marriage where it no longer is held against you. Aren't you glad you asked?
2007-07-23 05:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you're okay up to #2. Beyond that is getting into sexual contact. Look, I'm not unrealistic. Its very difficult to be a teenager. Your desires are running high and there are boys around who want things even more than you. But the difference between contact at your age and contact with your husband/wife is incredible. Wait till your married. Its so worth it.
2007-07-23 05:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first on the cheek is a sign of respect, the other 3 you mentioned, well, lets just lets say your in trouble.
Do not lust.
If you kissed because of lust, then you sin. The isn't the kiss, but the lust.
Jesus was tempted by the devil 3 times. The things Jesus was asked do do were not the temptations itself. Turning the stone to bread for ex.. wasn't the temptation, for turning the stone to bread wouldn't have been a sin. Nor the devil telling him to do so was a sin. The temptation wasn't the act itself, but the purpose for the act. The purpose wasn't to turn the stone to bread, but to get Jesus to lie. If Jesus had turned the stone to bread, then by doing so would had been an act of lying. So Jesus would have been lying if he turn the stone to bread. Like wise with the other two things he would had done. So, lying would had been the sin Jesus would had committed.
With each of the 3 temptations by the devil what was the first thing the devil would say to Jesus? Every time the devil tempted Jesus he would always first ask, "If you really are God's son,....". By turning the stone to bread, Jesus would had been confirming that he actually is God's son, because that's the purpose for the devil asking him to do so. The devil didn't ask Jesus to turn the stone to bread to see if he could, but to trick him into confirming that he actually is the son of God. If Jesus had turn the stone into bread and he wasn't actually God's son but an actor portraying God's son, then he would had been lying. The bible warns that the father will manifest in the flesh to appear in the image of his son. An image is a likeness, not the actual. So, did God the father wear a suit (human body) to look like he is his son, so that people would believe his son had already been born on the earth and lived among the people? So that God could put his real son on the earth through birth in the last days, so that none of the people nor angels would know when, where, or how he returns in the last days. Also, that not one man would believe him when they see and hear him?
If Jesus was actually an actor,not the actual son, then he could have spoken in the same manner as an actor in a movie or on stage would speak.. He could had been speaking in the place of the real son so that people and angels would had assume he actually was the real son.
Could that be why Jesus said God's son is in heaven and his father is walking the earth. The bible warns that God's son will make 3 appearances on the earth. First time as a man. Second time in the image of God, 3rd/ final time as a man..
He'll first appear as a man. second time in the image of God. His second appearance as a man, which will be his 3rd and final appearance in the last days. He'll return through child birth under a new name, no man nor angel, not even the son himself will know who he actually is. Only God will know who his son actually is for the first thirty-something years he's living on the earth among the people.
The bible clearly says God's son will return to the earth through child birth as a man.
Jesus, whom was called the Son of God, only appeared once on the earth as God's son.
Adam, whom actually was God's son, appeared first as a man, his second appearance was in the image of God. (Remember when Jesus was baptized, a spirit descended from heaven in the from of a dove and said, "This is my son, I'm proud of him". the spirit that people assumed was God speaking because of the words that was spoken, well that wasn't God, but only an image of God, That was actually God's son Adam making his second appearance in the image of God). Remember Jesus saying that God's son is in heaven while, his father is walking the earth? How could God be descending from heaven when he was standing on the ground? How could his son be standing on the ground when the son in heaven.
The bible warned that God will delusion sinners to believe a lie. That way the sinners ( the people) would be convinced of the false teachings in the last days they have been brought up to believe.
The bible warns: in the last days, there'll be only one man on the earth among the people who'll know better than to believe the false teachings. he'll be the only one true priest to walk the earth. The people will be hardheaded. Believe me when I say that the people on the earth now are hardheaded. That's one of the signs of the last days.
2007-07-23 05:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by tiscpa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get saved before worrying about how far you can or can't go with your boyfriend.
2007-07-23 05:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by 1saintofGod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋