I proposed her and expressed interest in marrying her immediately after her break-off. She is not interested in me but considers me as a friend. She is now irritated by my hammering. How do I attract her towards me?
2007-07-23 04:56:50 · 15 answers · asked by shamik j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, You moved way too fast.. You proposed marriage to a girl you aren't even with yet.
2007-07-23 05:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have given her time to get over the break up before moving in like that. It shows that you are insensitive to what she was going through. Also, girls think you are desperate when you propose like that. You should have waited until you knew she was interested in you first. I don't know how to tell you to attract her to you. I would just suggest that you back off for a while, and maybe try things again in a few months, but this time go slow and don't act desperate.
2007-07-23 12:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by lookoutthewindow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try further. When she was ditched, you should have ideally offered her your friendship and companionship instead of offering to marry her. She needed a true friend to put her bits and pieces together at that time. When the relationship steadied, you could have offered to marry her. But you acted in haste, which gave her the impression that perhaps you were trying to take advantage of her situation. With that kind of an impression, don't expect a favourable reaction from her. It is better to leave her in peace instead of irritating her with your proposals.
2007-07-23 12:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, that's way too soon to make a move. Especially the proposal move. You've probably screwed things up beyond repair.
But for the future, know that you gotta wait after a girl has a break up to ask her out. I usually give a minimum of two weeks. This gives her time to get over it and feel ready to date again. It also gives you time to make sure that the break up is going to stick. Sometimes couples get in furious fights, "break up" but wind up "back together" all within a week.
2007-07-23 12:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by asig33882003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her some space...she just broke up in a relationship and needs some time to heal from that....be her friend and support her...you being there threw thick or thin will make her realize your there for more than one thing this may take 3-6 months but if you love her and she realizes what your doing she may be attracted towards you even more because of that...if by then shes still not interested you need to continue to move on and not waste years thinking she may turn around....if you do move on and cut down on being available whenever she may need you maybe then she will realize she does...gl
2007-07-23 12:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by GA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, she needs a friend, NOT a lover. And if you are really in love with her, you can be the best friend she's ever got. Give her space, give her time and give her your shoulder to cry.... Ya, she will keep crying over her ex- which might really get you mad with jealousy but as her closest friend, you will understand that she needs time to forget these things. Take her out, preferably with other friends for a ride or movie.. so that might just change her mood. And if you keep being her best friend, even you wont realise how she fell in love with you.... And remember, you are responsible to help her forget her past. Th more she talks about it, the more she will help her forget it and these small trips also might help her get over with her past. Also, tel her from time to time, whenever she cries abt her past, that she is a very nice girl but he was just not made for her. And that it wasn't her fault at all.
2007-07-24 00:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by goddess_of_fame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have patience and be compassionate to her; try to feel for her sorrow, let time pass as you perhaps know that time is the best healer. If you propose now she will equate you with the person of her past relation and naturally discard you. If she can feel your compassion towards her she will build confidence in you gradually, then comes the time of your proposal. Best of luck.
2007-07-23 12:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by d kundu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first see how older you, are u in the state of getting marry, what is your source of income, are you able to look after your wife, if so then go to her and don't say anything about marry. Just be friend, behave well with her, try to help her in need, but not with the money if you do so, you will lose her. Talk very lovingly without reveling your weaknesses. But, after all pray to God if it is His will, He will bring her in your life, don’t worry!
2007-07-23 12:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy thats my love story !!!
anyways after he proposed me it was a big shock to me. but a gradual interest grew in me to know him better, for 9 months i could not decide... i must say he was extremely patient, loving n caring all this time, never tried to took advantage, just remained friends...i did not realise when exactly i started loving him. i remember he went out witha another girl n i became extremely jealous n possessive n in the heat of the altercation i shouted at him, 'because i love u stupid' !! he smiled, came close to me took me in his arms n kissed me in my forehead....awwwwwwww that was the best moment of my life !!!
best of luck buddy, just have patience, dont try to be the lover, be the best friend ever u can be. dont ever hurt her coz she is already broken n show ur love n concern in ways unsaid.
2007-07-23 16:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by $rEeJ@t@ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lover her wait for some more time, let her come out of that shock. Its good that you expressed your feeling, dont force her, just tell her that you will be always be with her to help you, to make you smile, to be with you weather you love me or not, weather you marry to me or not.
2007-07-23 14:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by sachin sahu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋