Friend, 40 years old, is dying of colon, liver and lung cancer?

Question

It has been about a month since they told him, they could not do anything more for him. He looks so good, but he is now getting pain and not sleeping well. We are being strong around him and he is trying to be strong. Great guy!! How will it be from now to the end. I am scared for him at the same time I want him to smile till the end. What should I expect? Thanks

Answer 1

Don't ever give up. There is always hope. I also had colon cancer three years ago. I did have the surgery but refused the chemo. There is a lot of things that are very helpful for cancer. Here's some things I take or have taken. Apricot seeds
Flax seed
Graviola
IP-6
Green tea
Peppers and garlic (thanks to Kelly)
Grape seed
Ester-C
Bilberry
Milk thistle
Raw beets
Plenty of anti-oxidants
Plenty of sleep at night(in the dark)
Exercise
Plenty of herbal teas
Good attitude
Faith in God
Do all this and cancer won't have a chance.

Answer 2

Sorry to hear this; my Mom was only 46 yrs and it's hard.
Unfortunately, this situation is only going to get worst so helping him smile now, while he can, is great.
As for what to expect, well, there will be a lot of pain that increase almost daily till even the medication doesn't seem to work. His memory will slowly start working it's way backwards to the point of no memory at all. He will see things that don't exist/never have as a result of the drugs/cell damage. The body will become un-touchable and probably bedsores once he is un-able to move around on his own. Others having to take care of his personal matters physical. Then there's the depression, helplessness, lost of dignity, actual wanting to die to end it all, etc... and all you can do is have patience and lots of love.

Answer 3

It is not going to be easy -- even i have lost someone close - to cancer. just let them know that their life was a success -- tell him he is loved by everybody -- try and make him feel special as much as possible -- do whatever it takes to fulfill all that he has in mind -- every person has 1 or 2 odd wishes which he doesn't share with anybody -- try and find out those and fulfill them. try and not leave them alone. try and connect him to God by taking him to sermons, etc -- he will feel good.
its going to be equally hard for those around him -- everybody knows the end -- but we dont want to think abt it -- and we hope that may be that does not happen -- but....
dont talk abt the end to him and just talk abt the happy moments u have spent..
So Sorry

Answer 4

Hi Ann,

Your friend has nothing to lose. He could try what I did when I had Stage 4 cancer nine years ago.

I got rid of mine in two weeks. He might want to take longer so that he doesn't overload his kidneys.

I used grated habeneros peppers, grated garlic, and emulsified cod liver oil. If I'd been losing weight, I would have replaced the cod liver oil with evening primrose oil.

Put a little pepper and garlic on bread and cover it with butter.
I took a tablespoon of the oil each day. If he could never tolerate peppers, replace with grated ginger.

This isn't some wacky idea. In the last couple years, researchers at UCLA discovered in separate studies that peppers and ginger used by themselves reduced tumor size 50 to 80%.

By adding the garlic, it's one-two punch that cancer cells can't survive.

I'd go slow...using just single clove of garlic and a single pepper each day. The oils are important, too, to correct the metabolic imbalance.

Let me know how this works for you if your friend chooses this route.

Good luck and be well.

Kelley

Answer 5

So sorry to hear of your friend cancers. Recently I read about a study that was done regarding doctors not dispensing enough pain medication to people with illnesses such as your friends but, things I understand have changed and they are in fact doing just that allowing people to regulate their own morphine dosage and other medications to ease the pain of their suffering. My mother suffered tremendously before passing on from cancer, this was back in the '60s. Encourage your friend and his family to seek medications from his doctores. that will ease his suffering so, he will be more at peace. God Bless!

Answer 6

First of all when you say YOU want him to smile till the end, that is not your place. It is not about you. So realize he will be on more and more morphine until he is semi conscious and fades. That is so sad at such a young age. Respect his wishes. Some people do not want others around.

Answer 7

He should be on hospice care for their support, and help with pain management...in this day and age no one should be in pain. Hospice is a great organization. Help him look into in. They will come to his home, or where ever he is. They are also very supportive to the family and friends. Be strong, he will need it. So sorry.