I've recently started dating a man who seems to be very nice, very quiet but very respectful and thoughtful. He seems to really care for me and want to spend time. My concern is that he never asks questions about me even though I ask him. I have asked about his marriage, divorce, job, friends, family etc... He will freely answer but never asks me in return. I took him out for his birthday, he never asked me when mine was, he has never asked about my family or where I'm from or what I even do for work. Any thoughts?
2007-07-23 04:26:31 · 8 answers · asked by SB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he is shy, and feels that you might have a sensitive spot if he asks a certain question. Maybe he thinks something bad could have happened with your family, and doesn't want to bring it up, and make you feel bad.
2007-07-23 04:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should flat out ask him. He could be shy but he could also be disinterested. He might not ask because he does not care or he could just be some poor lump that can't get a clue or take a hint. Tell him what you told us and see what he says then you decide if you want to deal with the silence or not.
2007-07-23 04:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt sound interested. Ive had that happen but it only last for the first few times we talked...not the whole time. Id stop asking and see what happens. those must be some interesting conversations if he dont ask questions back....when a guy does that to me i just tell them i gota go cuz it make me feel as if im not fun to talk so id rather save my breath.
2007-07-23 04:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Neva_Rain'z_N_Heaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really shady i think... even a guy who is quiet and shy shouldnt have a problem saying "do you have brothers and sisters?"... espeically if you are asking him and therefore opening it up for him to ask back. I think its a little odd and you might want to subtely ask about it. Or maybe just start talking about yourself (not in excess) to get the ball rolling.
2007-07-23 04:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he was raised to not ask personal questions and so is waiting for you to volunteer the information.
Or, it could be that he just doesn't want to know. Have you been dating for a few weeks, a few months, longer? If he doesn't start asking questions, and you want him to, decide if this is the relationship for you.
2007-07-23 04:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by tmhd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I had one experience like that and it turned out the guy was married. Make sure your verify what he's all about.
2007-07-23 04:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sara_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guys is either totally into himself and loves talking about himself.. or he's just dumb.... maybe even unintrested in getting to know you... maybe he's afraid of getting to close to you because he doesn't want to care about you and then get hurt... I wonder what your conversation would be like if you didn't ask anything about him.... would it be silence??? or just meaningless talk.... you know.... nice weather.... did you like that movie...
2007-07-23 04:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not really interested in "who you are". What does that tell you?
2007-07-23 04:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋