If a guy asks you to go to a hotel with him after 1 year of knowing him, is this considered disrespectfull? Does he think you're easy and trashy if he asks you to do something like that? And if the girl agrees but changes her mind and tells him no, does this make her appear lady like..or is it too late to appear lady like since she already agreed?
2007-07-23 04:12:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm..I think a year is more than ample time. You're thinking way too much. Either lighten up and have some fun, or don't. Its that simple.
2007-07-23 04:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That completely depends on your self respect and standards. If you believe sex before marriage is not your standards, and you have been clear about this, then the guy is out of line. But if you haven't discussed that after a year, then you can't fault a guy for trying. A hotel is nicer than the back seat of his car. However, what's wrong with his place? If his place is his bedroom in his parents house, then you are too young to be having sex.
A lady is always up front and clear about her intentions and her standards. Everyone can change their mind, but sending mixed signals and teasing is immature and immaturity has nothing to do with being a Lady.
2007-07-23 04:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disrespect is a matter of opinion in this case. For example, it would be flat out disrespectful if a guy asked a girl to go to a hotel with him the first day they met. The bottom line is: it doesn't matter how long the people know each other, if anyone feels uncomfortable in that situation, then they have the right to back out and not feel like crap about it. Something like this is purely circumstantial.
P.S. Any time a guy invites a girl to a hotel with him, it is usually for sex, even if he says it's not. The same applies for girls.
2007-07-23 04:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Drowzeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After knowing a guy for a year (I take it through regular dating), most guys these days come to expect the relationship to go a step farther. And if you agreed to meet at a hotel, he has only one conclusion to draw from that. If you say no at first or change your mind, that is lady-like since nothing occurred to make you appear compromised. He may resent you for turning him down a bit, and frustrated, but there's no harm, no foul. It's never too late to say no unless you actually go through with it.
2007-07-23 04:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "going to a hotel", do you mean having sex?
It takes 2 people to have sex, anyone at any time can stop it. Once you say no, it means NO, and should stop. It doesn't matter when you change your mind. Who cares if he thinks you're a lady or a slut. What's important is how YOU feel about YOURSELF.
Don't let him push you into having sex if you are not ready. Specially if you don't feel right about it. Don't go to the room. But if you have to, then bring a friend so you are not alone.
2007-07-23 04:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over-analyzing this.
He has known you for a year and what's too hang out with you alone. What are you worried about? Yeah, he probably wants sex. How about you? Does wanting to have sex with you make somebody disrespectful? Is the hotel the problem, and if so, what is the correct venue for this activity?
A woman (or man) have the right to change their mind at any time, so don't worry about that.
Lady-like? I don't even know what that means in this context.
2007-07-23 04:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is disrespectful of him to ask. It would be disrespectful of him to pick you up for a date and bring you to the hotel instead. As for your acceptance or rejection of his offer....don't make the choice in order to appear to be anything. Make the choice based on how you feel about him and if you are ready for sex. Keep in mind that the best birth control methods can fail and you might get pregnant anyway. It's ok to change your mind if you have already accepted, just tell him as soon as possible.
2007-07-23 04:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disrespectful is when that person assumes you want to spend time in a hotel and plans it all. The fact that he has known you for a year already doesn't mean anything.
If you both genuinely like each other and want the friendship to go to the next level then this is the perfect opportunity
2007-07-23 04:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, but it's an odd thing to ask someone out of the blue. I don't think it means he has any particular thoughts about you other than he wants to have sex. If you don't want to, say no. Your decision to change your mind or not has no bearing on your status as a lady. It is your right.
P.S.- Agreeing to have sex doesn't make you any less of a lady. You should make your decision based on what you want to do, not what some jackass thinks.
2007-07-23 04:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least it was a year and not like 2 months. I think in a way its a little nice to get a private escape away to be alone. He seems like he wants it to be nice for you two. So I think he is respecting you. It wont make you look trashy or easy! I think you should go for it!
2007-07-23 04:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by rachael m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you've been dating for a year then No... it's not disrespectful. It actually could be a "romantic get away". However, if you haven't been dating and he's just trying to "hit it" for the first time- I'd say yeah... it's disrespectful. Having said all that- if you two consenting adults want a roll in the hay... I say go for it. As long as you're using protection and no one else is getting hurt.
Slainte,
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2007-07-23 04:17:14 · answer #11 · answered by chicagodan1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋