Everytime I argue with someone, I get very upset. I feel hopeless, I cry, I obsess about it. Even if I know it wasn't my fault or it's not a big argument, I start freaking out. I keep telling myself that it is temporary and things will get better, but it will still ruin the rest of my day (or sometimes week). How can I stop getting so upset?
2007-07-23 03:58:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't argue with people often, but I think it is unrealistic to think that you can never argue with someone. Most of the people I know who say they "don't argue," quietly stew about things and then take it out passive aggressively or eventually explode.
2007-07-23 04:23:48 · update #1
Sounds to me like you must be generally a little upset with life for some reason & anything else extra just tips you over the edge....
I agree with the person who suggested lexapro.....see your doctor & they will probably prescribe an anti depressant or some counselling either or both should help you cope better...........Good luck !!
2007-07-23 04:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Remember that every one is entitled to their opinion and that you don't have to like every thing that they say. We are not always going to agree with each other in this world, but we must except that every one is entitled to see things as they see them or feel the way that they do.
The best way to stop getting so upset is to stop having arguments with others, just except that they may see things differently than you do. You don't have to argue about any thing, since you should be able to control your emotions.
If you can not control your emotions then you may need to seek some counseling to get help with this, so that you will understand why you argue with others. Why your opinion is more right or more important than others.
You need to understand that if some one says some thing that you don't like you can either choose to respond or not. If you respond you can just say I'm sorry but I just don't agree with that and then leave it alone. If they want to drag it out with an argument, say I don't want to fight about it. Then say let's just agree to disagree with each other and leave it at that.
It will take work on your part not to argue with others. Really what is the point of arguing with others any way? Just so that you can be the one that is always right, it isn't all that important.
Get some help with this, that may be the best thing that you can do for your self.
2007-07-23 04:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
LIsten its possible that your going through a rough time right now or maybe your just not having it your way and thats normal. What you have to do is just stand back and look at your life as if you were looking at a TV. You have to understand that there will always be obstacles in life and just accept it and say to yourself ok if something happens well ill just resolve it and keep on living my life. You have to have a very open mind and instead of treating a problem like a problem treat it as if it was any other thing dont give it importance and move on. Hope this helps you.
2007-07-23 04:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by mr 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should walk out when you get upset. Take a deep breath and take a fresh walk about 10 -15 min or more until you feel relax. you have to get away from everyone and you need to spend time alone for short period. When you ready come in the house and turn on your favourite songs or music it helps you to relax. Just think of positive things instead of negative things. [Meditation] Practice taking deep breath in through your noise and out your mouth ( your stomach puffing out)
2007-07-23 05:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every one is unique and has different level of tolerance when it comes to feelings, especially conflicts with other people. Some persons are really sensitive. If you think you're really such, it would be better to have self-awareness. Simply, avoid things or events that would make you upset.
2007-07-23 04:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jason M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you over react because you are carrying around a lot of emotional baggage that you haven't dealt with, it all comes out whenever you are upset. You need to maybe consult a therapist to identify your issues, then you can be helped to rid yourself of all that baggage. I teach the Lyvere method to this end, drop me an email when you are ready to work on ridding your self of all that emotional baggage.
2007-07-23 04:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Say to yourself: "How important to me will this be in 5 years?" Practise either one of the relaxation techniques, or the EFT, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2.
2007-07-23 04:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry and try to ignore it.im like you myself i think its because were more sensitive.when something good happens we get really excited more than other people would but when somehing bad happens we feel far worse then others. check this website out:http://www.2knowmyself.com/emotional_sensitivity
2007-07-23 04:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by mugglegyal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make urself calm .. mingle wid ppl u go along wid ur character ..listen 2 music or do sumthin dat u wud luv 2 do ..den everythin is in ur hand
vell try dis also ppl say
count 10 to 1 wen ur angry ...
lolz
2007-07-23 04:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sakthi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know how you feel! I'm the same way. I've been doing allot better now that my doctor gave me lexapro.. it really does help.. you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling.. good luck.
2007-07-23 04:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋