2007-07-23 03:07:18 · 32 answers · asked by sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
awwwwwwwwww than it is their loss sweetheart. Just pray for them and put it in Gods hands.
God Bless you on your special day.
Peace
2007-07-23 03:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by moondego 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, there are many reasons this might happen...your parents may be ill, may not approve of the wedding...may not be able to travel to the wedding....
But, no matter what the reason, I'm sorry your family will not be at your wedding. I'm sure that is difficult.
When everything is boiled down, though, as long as you, your fiance and an officient are present, your wedding can go on. No matter what guests attend...those 3 people are the main individuals at your wedding.
For your family, I recommend having a videographer make a video of your wedding, and make copies for your parents afterwards.
2007-07-23 05:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
There could be many reasons your parents don't come to your wedding, but probably only a couple of why they don't want to come.
If they don't want to come because they don't like your fiance or because it is like your 3rd wedding, just accept their decision and enjoy your wedding.
I am re-married. My parents didn't want to come to my 2nd wedding, so we had it before a Justice of the Peace. Their reason? I hadn't known my intended for very long, he had been in the middle of a nasty 2 year divorce (started long before I ever met him) and he had a son with his 1st wife. If I had listened to them, my husband and I wouldn't be the happy people we are now.
It has been 15 years and my husband and I proved them wrong. We are more in love now than when we first met and you know what? My parents absolutely adore him. They now say he is the best thing to ever happen to me.
Don't spend your life trying to please others. I'm 45 years old and I know there are some decisions I make that my parents will never like. But that is their opinion to which they are entitled. It does not mean that is how I have to live my life.
If your parents don't want to come to your wedding, tell them you are sorry they won't be able to attend, they will be missed and go on with your wedding. In the long run, they will be the ones who have to answer questions; especially if the rest of the family and family friends are in attendance. It will come back to them, not you.
Enjoy your wedding day!
2007-07-23 03:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by palmyrafan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents have been a loving and supportive part of your life up until now, then you need to take a step back and find out WHY they do not want to be there.
If they are that set against the marriage and really dislike the man you have chosen, this is something to consider.
TALK TO THEM - have an open and HONEST dialogue with them.
LISTEN TO THEM - they may have legitimate concerns that you need to hear.
BE PATIENT WITH THEM - they have been around the block a few more times than you have and their wisdom is something that you should definitely take into account.
USE YOUR HEAD FOR A MOMENT - it's easy to follow your heart, but it is MUCH more important to listen to your head.
If after a long discussion with them, you still do not agree with them, then you have a HUGE decision to make: follow your heart, go against your parents and marry him.... OR postpone the wedding until you can make a choice between them.
If you parents have not been around, or haven't been a supportive force in your life, I would still take the time to hear what they have to say, but give it much less weight.
Of course, it is your life and you don't have to listen to anyone's advice. But you owe it to your parents and to yourself to listen, think carefully and choose wisely.
Good luck!
2007-07-23 03:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your parents want to come to the wedding? are they unhappy with who you are marrying? Are his parents coming to the wedding? For all I know, maybe your parents could both be very sick. If they don't come to the wedding you could get a brother, uncle, or someone you are close to to give you away. The wedding can still go on, but it sure is nice to have the parents' blessings.
2007-07-23 03:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it anyway. When I get married one day it will probably just be me and my fiancee on an island somewhere. I mean we may have a party a month after we get back or something for the fam and friends but the important people to think about at the wedding is you and your future spouse. Y'all are making a lifelong committment to each other :)
2007-07-23 03:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by CSSW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first i'd think long and hard about the reason they don't want to come. i'm sure you know the reason already. most GOOD parents will celebrate this special time IF they feel like the man you're marrying is good for you, will treat you well, and love you as they have loved you. for them to not attend is a very big statement. perhaps they are right - this person you're marrying isn't good for you. i have no way of knowing. but i do know most parents wouldn't do this without a good reason so you need to contemplate that.
2007-07-23 03:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine didn't come to my wedding, and I knew what their reason was. His ethnicity was different then mine/theirs, even though he is a loving man, caring, respectful, intelligent, and successful. The things most if not all, parents want for their daughter. Though it saddened me deeply that did not take any part in my wedding, I didn't let it show. Their sole decision of not being part of my wedding or my life was totally based on he being of a different ethnicity than me and my family. I love the man I was marrying more...
I believe and respect other peoples' choices, even when I do not agree... Exception though: I do step in when it is a minor
(or someone under the strong influence of drugs or alcohol), who is making a not so proper or smart choice.
I understand if my/your parents chose not to attend, if they felt that I am waaaay too young to marry (I was already past my mid 20's); or feel my soon-to-be husband does not treat me right; or he has a half dozen or so illegitimate children with 3 or more women; or known to be a thug with a conviction; or question his ability to provide for me and our future family. And we all know someone who has married someone like I just described. We may be happy to marry them at the moment, but sometimes I think our parents know something we do not.
You may consider the reasons your parent's choice of not coming to your wedding. But by all means, this is YOUR choice, YOUR day, YOUR life, YOUR happiness, it is THEIR LOSS if your parents do not come to your wedding.
Just don't expect any financial assistance on your wedding plans from them. Mine didn't come, and I did not ask for a penny from them to help pay for the wedding.
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-07-23 03:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by NAB 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh, that breaks my heart...
You know, their loss (as many have said before me).
A similar thing happened with the neighbor's girls. Their mom had died and the father's an idiot. The sisters gave each other away, and it was sad, but the wedding went on, and they lived happily ever after.
Go on with your day. I know it will be awful for you, wanting to share this day with them, and not being able to, but just keep going.
*hugs*
2007-07-23 03:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by Kim U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have resolved to marry this man regardless then carry on with the wedding without them. Let them know that they will be missed however the wedding is taking place regardless.
2007-07-23 04:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother didnt come to mine..the strange thing is that I have managed to stay happily married for 11 years without her.Yes I was hurt,but it had no outcome to my happy life with my wonderful husband so..her loss I guess..OK look P.S. this is your day!!! It is not YOUR responsiblity to take care of anything but you...If they are being so cruel as to put their own feeling into your day..then sweetie..you dont need them there.A wedding day is stressful enough without the drama from the people who profess to love you
2007-07-23 03:21:07 · answer #11 · answered by Tammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋