I am not at all into sex and am a virgin and plan to stay this way. Why do men give up and look somewhere else when they say they care about me. If you loved someone you would at least remain friends with them, right.? You wouldn't give up just because they don't want sex. You would at least if you cared about them remain their friend. And why are men so abrupt in trying to get what they want? Why are they so aggressive when I tell them I am not into sex. I just want love and companionship from a man. Not sure if sex goes in the equation, But it has NEVER felt right. I get lonely for a man's company and protection. I feel I did not have this much from my father. Am I normal?
2007-07-23 02:09:50 · 15 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 30 years old
2007-07-23 02:31:28 · update #1
There are a couple things in your question that are disturbing or at the very least confusing. Since you don't say how old you are it is difficult to answer the "Am I normal" question. Normal for someone who is in school, not so much if you are 30, for instance. You say you plan to stay a virgin. Does this mean for all your life or until you are married or what? Why has sex never felt right? Do you mean having sex with men or with both? "Lonely for a man's company and protection" sounds like you are looking for a father substitute instead of a "boyfriend", which would certainly explain the "never felt right" statement. Perhaps you need to explain up front that you are only looking for a platonic relationship when you meet a guy. Again, it is difficult to give you any real answer without knowing your age, or at least age range.
2007-07-23 02:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Wiz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, pardon most of the human race, their main drive is for food, water, and sex.
You want a relationship, which was created as a cultural bond to encourage sex, and procreation. So it is like saying you want to own a car but you want to just own it, not go anywhere in it, yet you keep telling people hey, come see my new car I bought.
They come over you sit down you dig out the keys, they go okay let's go for a ride, and you act all shocked, because you just bought it to look at and own, because you do not know how to dirve, and you don't want to crash, and you are not ready to in either case.
So people think. huh, there's a problem with her. They then move on because being your therapist is a big non priority in most people's lives where they are seeking a give and take relationship.
if you feel lonely for a man's company and protection.. fine. what then? protect you from what? Certainly not other men who would steal you away. Certainly not to protect you, and future children since you won't have any.
Most guys are not seeking platonic relationships, though they do exist.
Maybe you can become friends with a macho gay guy.
Good luck.
2007-07-23 02:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a hunter and you are the prey. If he can't hit you with an arrow or his silver bullet, stuff you, and mount you on the wall to show to his friends while drinking beer, he'll find another target to nail; plain and simple. Is that so hard to understand? What's the point in the hunt if you can't make the kill and take home the prize? Yeah, you want protection and to cuddle with a man, well what about what HE wants? I bet you've never considered his needs, only thinking about yourself all the time! How selfish!
2007-07-23 02:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-10 04:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can keep a boyfriend & not have sex, if you meet the kind of man who is willing to wait for you & not only after one thing.
2007-07-23 02:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can except you are only attracted to the selfish good looking guy that treat girls like possessions.Almost all young men are nice and considerate. Why cannot you find any of them attractive?
2007-07-23 02:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're very normal, I'm a virgin as well and understand you completely, I feel the right person for you will come along soon, who will accept you just the way you are...I have found that sum-one
2007-07-23 02:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah baby ofcourse u can and believe me if u wait ur dream guy u will get him and let me tell 1 thing i really wish that i can find a girl like u that only thinks about true love and nothin else (cuz it's hard 2 find a girl like that now adays) .
so keep it up honny and dont ever give up
2007-07-23 02:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Muslim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, if he loved you he should respect that and wait till you are ready or married what ever you are waiting for
2007-07-23 02:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by Edward M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lou,
Any guy that trly cares for you and your wishes will respect this. There are guys out there like this, just a matter of finding them. Please don't give up looking.
2007-07-23 02:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋