My husband thinks since he doens t do phsyical he is not cheating but if I were to do the same thing it would be.
2007-07-23 01:37:12 · 21 answers · asked by Lamontslady 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
REAL Christians don't enjoy porn.
REAL men don't enjoy porn.
REAL men enjoy sex.
2007-07-23 01:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Seeker 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
This is a very common thing in our world. Not just in Christian men, but other men of other faiths. It is adultery, even if it is just looking and no physical contact.
In truth, this is an addiction just like drugs, alcohol, etc. It may take a therapist to try and break the habit. Setting really, really tight security on a computer if that is the main source of the problem.
This is bad whether a man or a women does it...And the flat answer is that it is an addiction.
2007-07-23 01:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by tribmartyr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those who make idols of wood and stone are just like them, they have eyes but cannot see, mouths that cannot speak, ears that cannot hear. Those who worship them are just like those who make them.
The reason why MANY Christian men don't see this problem, is because they have something else before their relationship with Yahuwah our father. Whether it be their Car, money, job, even their families, wives, or even a church, these things become thier idols. And Idols blind you to the truth, and compromise is the order of the day. Its easy to justify pornography when you don't actually do anything but look. But this is just another way we defile the temple that we are, and drive Yahuwah far from our hearts, making us desolate.
I can tell you this not as a pious and perfect keeper of the commandments, but as one who has fallen over on this exact same problem time and time again. It is only in recent times (the last year in fact) that I finally realised the truth in this matter and asked Yahushua to guard my heart from this wealkness of mine, and from what is a sinnful abomination before Yahuwah.
Let him know how this behaviour hurts you. You might like to show him how Israel hurt Yahuwah by entertaining forign gods in its midst. Show him how Yahuwah responded, and purified his people by putting the wrongdoers to death, or exiling them into captivity in forign lands.
It is not what goes into a mans mouth that makes him unclean Yahushua said, but what comes from it, for this is the overflow of the heart. He also said that if your hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it away. If your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out... better to go into paradise blind or maime than to go to hell whole. Yet we know that in paradise there will be no blind, no maimed. And your hand or your eye cannot cause you to sin, because neither have a heart. So this teaching was not a direct instruction to commit self harm, but rather a warning. You see we as members of his body, each have a heart of our own. And if we cause the body to sin, he has the will and the strength, hurt as it may, to cut off those members who cause the body to sin, so that he may present his body (with us), as a perfect and sinnless offering to Yahuwah his heavenly father.
Repent does not mean saying you are sorry, its about changing your ways and sinning no more. Perhaps if your husband would open the scriptures as often as he currently looks at porn, a change might happen.
Yahuwah bless and keep you, and cause his face to shine upon you. In Yahushua's name.
Stephen
2007-07-23 02:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Stephen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then your husband is a great fool who is blinded by his own sins.
Porn is not OK for a married man. Checking out girls is not OK for a married man.
What is OK is that he disciplines his eyes and controls his lust. Otherwise he will degrade you and himself.
I don't care what any Christian man says, you lust in your heart it is still adultery no matter if you are looking at a girl in person or on a screen or in a magazine. The effect is still the same.
Matthew 5:27- 28 "You have heard that it was said, `YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY'; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
-- Thumbs down huh? Truth hurts.
2007-07-23 02:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Peggie,
It is NOT right, it is a sinful thing. He needs to read what Christ said in Matthew. True Christians would not even consider looking at such TRASH! Have a wonderful week. Find a good preacher to speak with your husband then begin a Bible Study with a group of Non-Denominational Church members near your home. Have a wonderful week!
Thanks,
Eds (A simple Christian)
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2007-07-23 01:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A son /daughter born to parents of Doctor profession IS NOT A DOCTOR until they educate themselves in the same career. Similarly to Christian children, they are born to such parents but are not Christians.
You become a Christian only if you follow the commandments of Jesus Christ - that includes not to look at porn coz its a sin.
Repent therefore and get back to JesusChrist never do it again. He will forgive. God bless
2007-07-23 01:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Potter'sClay-Isa 64:8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to Christian belief, looking at porn is equally wrong to committing adultery. I'm not sure of the chapter and verse but the Bible states that if a man looks at a woman other than his wife with lust he has already committed adultery in his heart.
2007-07-23 01:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
If I were you I would ask your husband to specifically show you in the bible where it states that men are allowed to lust after another woman other than his wife. Then ask him to show you where in the bible it says that a woman is to be treated that way. After he tells you that your full of crap, he is right, etc. then suggest to him you BOTH discuss it with your preacher for resolution. I GUARANTEE he absolutely won't go. Then tell him, "If it is something your not willing to go before the pastor with, then you know it is wrong-end of discussion!" He will have to come to terms that what he is doing is wrong.
2007-07-23 01:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by TiaRanita 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since when does your imagination become fact? If you are as christian as you say, did you never realise that your 'conscience' is never to be used as a 'law' to others? Each has their own, and your 'judgements' are erroneous, whether you deem something as 'good' or 'bad'
Admit the truth for a change- you feel threatened, and this is all about you.
2007-07-23 01:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Christian men who do as your husband is doing are studying porn from a different perspective than lust. It's okay.
Your husband, and any other Christian man who watches porn is able to maintain pure thoughts, allowing him to examine the audio-visual aesthetics, to prepare them to be better soldiers for the Lord.
2007-07-23 01:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jack P 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
A lot of us try to make excuses for it. I admit I struggled with it too at one point.
Show him Matthew 5:27-29
27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery. 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
Hope this helps
-B
2007-07-23 01:42:19 · answer #11 · answered by The Brian 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋