I was recently invited to dinner at an acquaintence's house.When I asked what shall I bring,she told me she wanted me to cook for ten people! Some invite! Let me know if you think this is acceptable behaviour,she is NOT a friend.
2007-07-23 01:22:35 · 42 answers · asked by Barbara D 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I asked her if it was potluck. No it isn't.I live in Italy and cook Thai,some Chinese Indian,Mexican...where I travelled I got receipes.As I said this is someone I don't know well at all.Why invite me for dinner,just ask me to cook dinner!
2007-07-23 01:35:14 · update #1
Barbara,
If you think there is a chance that they want to hire you as a cook, then clarify. They may look up to you in higher regard for your worldly cuisine experience! Since they are not friends, you can easily charge for your work and time.
But, if you think that they are just inviting "their" friends, on a night that is convenient for "them" over at "their" house....
then I would say that they are quite nervy!
Please don't give in just to "sound" polite. It is obvious that they are not interested in politeness if they beg you to cook for strangers in their home, for free.
Since she is not a friend, you can gently decline and tell them how uncomfortable you are in being asked. Then, you will lift a load of worry off your shoulders. You won't appear nasty.
2007-07-23 03:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is extremely rude. Typically the HOST/HOSTESS provides the main course and some side dishes. Guests are not required to bring anything but a dessert, a side, or a bottle of wine would be appropriate IF the guest asks to bring something. I would tell her that you are busy that night and that she will have to figure something else out OR you could say typically when you cater you charge between $50 and $100 per plate, but since you know her you will charge $50 plate....see what she says then.
2007-07-23 03:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't invited as a guest. I would graciously decline the invitation.
Now, if she HIRED you to cook for 10 people, then I'd submit a bill.
But this sounds like someone wanted to throw a party with you as unpaid help.
You have other plans for that night - even if it's only playing solitaire.
2007-07-23 02:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An invite to dinner does not mean you should be cooking for 10 people. Decline the invite.
2007-07-23 01:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Machaira 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is unacceptable on her part. You don't invite someone to dinner and expect them to cook it. She is obviously aware of your abilities in the kitchen, but the proper thing to do would have been to politely ask for your assistance with recipes, and for her to cook them herself.
I think I would have to decline such an "invitation", especially since she is not even really a friend.
2007-07-23 02:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if this happens to you a lot maybe people see u as a soft touch and exploit you.I am not saying that it is a bad thing to be kind or helpful to people,i do it and some people see it as a weakness to be exploited to their advantage,but i dont let it stop me helping people.On the other hand and not knowin all the facts,maybe she is so knocked out by your cookin that she thru a dinner party to show 10 of her freinds how brilliant u r !
2007-07-23 01:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , if you want to go , then just come there , perhaps she needs a woman to help her for cooking , you can denie to do that and just come there as a normal guest , because cooking is often helped by people in her family , if you feel unpleasant then bring something to that dinner like a wine , flowers , baked pie . . . anything but at least enough for 10 ppl there , you can denie also because you dont know her well .
2007-07-23 02:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you said "Oh no, I'm afraid that that's just beyond the scope of my skills. But I'll be happy to bring a bottle of wine."
Or
"Here are my rates for catering an event for ten people."
Hey, if she's gonna treat you like a caterer, charge like one.
2007-07-23 03:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like she was asking you to come as a guest. Do you cater? Maybe she's asking you do to that. If not, no this is not acceptable behavior, an if she does want you to cater, I still wouldn't do it (unless you need the money) because she's rude.
2007-07-23 03:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was nice of you to even ask what you could bring to the dinner; she was outrageously rude to "invite" you to work to entertain her guests.
I hope you said, "No, thank you".
Just a question--I'm curious--what kind of things do you cook and how did she know you cook so well?
2007-07-23 01:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by LC 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋