I am really in love with her. Although I'm 33 I look and feel younger. I really like this girl, it's not about sex, I wouldn't even think of having sex with her until she reaches 18 , 19 or when ever she is ready.
We look forward to hanging out together, her parents and my parents are really good friends.
Last weekend we had a family and friends gathering. I completely ignored her because I don't want others to think I am interested in her. I think she felt like I ignored her, she wanted to hang with me but I refused. She was very cold to me saying good bye.
Usually we hang out and talk and laugh. I love her so much but society is sick and always thinks the worst. I am not a pervert, I really care for her.
I feel that if I don't tell her how I feel I will loose her. If I keep ignoring her everytime I see her.
Should I tell her that I love her? Maybe she does not feel the same about me but I really need to know. Please help. Should I care what others think?
2007-07-23 00:36:44 · 7 answers · asked by yikes_its_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont take this the wrong way....But I think youre sorta entrapped by her youth and freespirit right now. She 's young free can go anywhere do anything.....the world is her oyster and I'm sure she make s you feel years younger and her infectious personality just rubs off on you. How do I know these things??
I was in a relationship like this one. I was 18 he was 34. He was entranced blah blah blah he loved me blah blah bah. Society was cruel and blah again. Well after I got pregnant and was no longer a free spirit without worry or care (or previous engagements) it was over. He wanted someone that didnt look to him for answers because of lack of experience, he wanted someone that he could take in public without being looked at as a pedophile. He didnt want the young woman w/ the bulging belly...she was everything he didnt want...responsiblity, rules, expectations. So he got rid of her. And I havent spoken to him in 3 years.
So trust me.....find a nice girl that can legally get into a bar and you'll save yourself the stress and save her a broken heart later on.
2007-07-23 00:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by MIss J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately the society would probably say that's a bit wrong, you know. But seems like you really care for her and stuff. I personally think the age doesn't really matter as long as the love is strong enough.
Although I do not see a point in telling her that you lover her now. Just think about it. If you tell a 17 year old girl(Who doesn't make a living to pay for everything-she's still under her parents' control), even if she likes you back, you two won't be able to officially date. How would her parents feel? If if they love you as a good family friend, you are still much older.(I'm not trying to be mean or anything, I'm sorry) Therefore, I think you should wait till she turns to 18. (only a year or maybe less away!) And IF she doesn't feel the same about you, she will just get scared if you just tell her that you love her, don't you think? You should take some time.
You shouldn't be ignoring her though. It's not weird that you two talk or hang out in front of family. Just be like really really good friends for now. Share thoughts and have a good time together, you should build a very close(maybe even closer) relationship for now. So when she is 18, and when you think she's ready to know the truth, you can tell her that you are in love with her.
Good luck!
2007-07-23 00:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. You'll not know how she feels unless you ask her, most girls that age won't take the first step in a relationship. Be prepared though, many at that age are not emotionally mature enough to handle a "real" relationship.though that depends on the individual. Start slow with telling her how much you care for her, wait for the "I'm really in love with you" speech until shes 18 out of respect for her youth and her parents. By truely loving her though you need to ask yourself if this is truely the best thing for her? Best wishes.
2007-07-23 00:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by no longer here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I might thumbs up Jenna approximately 10 extra occasions I could. It's wholly usual for a young person to be infatuated with an older guy, nevertheless, to him you're a CHILD. He will have to now not be watching at you in that approach in any respect. He's now not correct. I'm telling ya. *I'm now not in opposition to significant age gaps, simply significant age gaps whilst one man or woman of the couple is a baby.
2016-09-05 15:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Care what others think? No.
Care about what is ethically right? Yes.
Sexual relationship notwithstanding, just how do you expect her to grow into a well-rounded person when she is hooked up with someone almost twice her age?
She needs to be with people her own age, having fun, doing teen things. She needs to experience proms, graduation, college all with an open mind and free heart.
Do what is right and walk away from this. Find someone closer to your own age who has already had some life experience.
2007-07-23 00:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally feel that ur old 4 her......but if she feels the same way abt u then it doesnt matter....cuz its wut u think that really counts! dont alwayz care abt wut others think....cuz they ususally follow one another........if u two really fall in luv then ev1 will accept it later on..... but u wont get support in the beginning that can cause a problem n make ur relationship more difficult.....
make sure that u have sorted out all ur feelings b4 telling her anything.....u'l have 2 be more mature n must b able 2 think like her at times.....
i think that u should tell her.....cuz wuts the worst that can happen? she'l say no? u'l get over it....dont worry...be brave
gud luck
2007-07-23 00:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dateline NBC??
He's coming for you.
http://www.itsevansville.com/img/attachments/justin_williams/hansen_chris_2005_sm.jpg
2007-07-23 00:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Malcolm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋