my daughter is hitting two very soon and has started having the most terrible tentrums its not like her and think its terrible twos anyone any hints on how to keep sane and try to get by without cracking up
stressed out parent
2007-07-23 00:17:34 · 9 answers · asked by shannonhf05 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your daughter is probably just as surprised by her new temper as you are. Don't over-react. Ignoring is a good strategy to begin with. When she calms down, tell her I don't understand when you're crying and screaming. You need to use your words to tell me what you want. Never give in to a tantrum, only to wishes expressed in a more appropriate way. And don't forget that "NO" is sometimes the best answer! You can't give her everything she wants.
I just made sure my son was in a safe place so he wouldn't hurt himself and let him yell it out. The first time he banged his head on the floor was the last! He quickly figured out that the floor hurts! This stage is part of parenting so don't stress over it. Take a deep breath and make yourself a cup of tea. Stay busy but nearby. Your child will be safe and you won't be quite so focused on the tantrum. She really will grow out of it!
2007-07-23 01:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by leslie b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring it is the best solution! Pick her up and move her to her bedroom - tell her she can come out when she can behave. If she messes up her room during her tantrum make her clean it up. If you can't take her to her room for some reason then you leave the room where she can't see you. If you aren't there to witness the tantrum she'll soon stop.
After a public tantrum explain that her behavior was totally unacceptable and that she'll not be able to go with you to the grocery store, shopping etc.... until quits with the tantrums. The hard part of that is following through since it's not always easy to go shopping w/o our children. If you can leave her home a few time she'll quickly get the message that her behavior gets her nowhere and hopefully she'll stop.
2007-07-23 01:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have a 2 three hundred and sixty 5 days old myself, the only thank you to relatively get them so they arent non provide up is ignore with regard to the habit. as a results of fact while they do it some circumstances and observe they get interest for doing it they're going to shop throwing tantrums. So merely walk away and she or he would be waiting to finally provide up. My son has very few tantrums now. They have been approximately 30-forty 5 minutes long in the beginning up and now they only final a couple of minutes if that. As for innovations on the dozing trend, i individually dont have any my son hasnt ever refused to sleep by utilising himself. Sorry! good success!
2016-10-22 10:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by hardage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore, ignore, ignore - it's what everyone is going to tell you. I have a two year old and when we're at home I do ignore him. However, when we're out in public, ignoring isn't so easy especially when everyone is looking at you with this 'do something' stares.
My suggestion - if it's at home and she can't hurt herself, ignore. In public, if you can stand it, ignore. If not, remove her from the situation until she calms down be it the car or the bathroom.
Negotiating during the tantrum isn't going to work. She's not listening and if you give in even a little she'll know tantrums work.
I also suggest for your own sanity to remove yourself as well. Place her in her crib and just take a moments of you time.
2007-07-23 00:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
patience, patience, patience. And I've heard that 3 is worse than 2! My almost 3 year old has her moments, but I know it's because she can't totally communicate, she has emotions and doesn't know how to use them correctly so she gets frustrated and throws fits. I read that 'til the age of 4 kids have no impulse control, meaning that they know something is wrong, but they can't stop themselves. This has made me a lot more patience. I sigh a lot, to a point that my little girl sighs when she knows I'm going to!!! Good luck.
2007-07-26 09:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by me&2kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my kids had the terrible twos. I put them in their rooms and let them scream it out. After a while, they stopped. I think the whole issue stopped about the time they were 18.
2007-07-26 23:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ever give in. Forget the answers that say to give in. If she throws a fit at home, ignore her and wait. Ask her if she is done in a few minutes. if it is in public, remove her from the situation (leave the store, take her outside, etc)and DO NOT give her what she seeks or else it iwll never end.
2007-07-26 20:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lonely Turkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she has tantrums, try to calm her down. Teach her to negotiate. If she wants something, don't give it to her unless she asks nicely - this way she will learn that tantrums don't come to anything.
2007-07-23 00:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by abcdefg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started sending my son to his room & it worked a treat (most of the time), if that didn't work I would take away his favourite toy & leave it somewhere where he could see it but couldn't reach it.
2007-07-23 01:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by jaytei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋