i only split with her a week ago, there was a man who was a friend of her sisters who was going round there and yesterday she said shes with him now, i get anxious and panicy and cant seem to get the thoughts out my head, especially at night, thoughts of them having sex and stuff, its killing me please help
2007-07-22 21:53:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anthony K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over it.
No seriously, I'm not trying to be mean here ... but you have to get over it before it drives you crazy. Realize that it's her lost and concentrate on you.
Do something to better yourself .. maybe start working out or take a college course in Computer Science, Knitting, Fishing, whatever!!! But get over it.
2007-07-22 21:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Big Feet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking so much. Anybody is entitled to live there life the way they want to. Things will change, that is a universal truth. Things change. If they didn't, life would stay the same. Let her go. It is difficult to see someone you care about, happy with someone else. But that is what you must do. You must move on. You will get over this. When ? That is the tricky part, and it is all up to you. This is now your movie, are you going to play a new part, or are you going to yearn over the old part that you have been playing. Trust me, you will meet someone else. How that begins, grows and endures is up to you and how you handle the ending of this relationship. Because it has ended. You just need to see that and move on. Good luck and be happy. Life is beautiful whether you are in a relationship or not in one. Everything goes in cycles.
2007-07-23 05:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women rarely leave until they have someone else to go to. It hurts, but you need to move on. If you really love/loved her, then you want her to be happy and move on with her life also. However it ended, look back on the good times and remember them with a smile and wish for her and your happiness. She's not beholden to you anymore and can do whatever she wants. If you worry about it and focus on it it will only make you miserable and probably end up with you doing something stupid and embarassing yourself or worse. You've got a lot of life ahead of you and it starts right now, don't waste it pining over a change. If you two broke up, it was for a reason and you weren't as happy as you should have been and can be if you are with the right partner. Life has many transitions, make the best of them, learn from them, get up and dust yourself off and it will be even better next time.
2007-07-23 05:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by StaticTrap 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude .. I get the same way some nights .
I would reminise on how me and my ex would stare into each other eyes and told each other we would be together forever and made love and stuff like that ..
then she has a new boyfriend .. and I get these pictures of her doing and saying the same things to him ..
It's hurts so much bro, and I just want to run back to her ..
but you have to respect their relationship and hope for the best for them .. as long as she's happy right ?
the only thing you can do is just think about how she isn't thinking of you [even though she probably does] . because it makes you move on easier ..
just move on and talk to other girls .. it's not good to be stuck on one girl .. she found someone else bro .. now it's your turn .
Take care and Good Luck !
2007-07-23 05:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by theGREATEST. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact of the matter is that you are jealous, even more than you regret to admit. You seem a little protective of her and it's obvious you care, which is very good. But it is very possible to care too much which could turn into obsession > Knowing when to love is knowing when to let go and realizing and accepting that all love can be lost > Did you love her? You should be happy for her and who knows < maybe thats why she is now your "ex"
2007-07-23 05:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Krade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. Disappointment is just part of life. You are not the only person in the worl that has been through a heart break. You will survive, and eventually get over it.
Hang in there. Take a couple of Excedrin or Advil, Tylenol PM pills so that you can sleep good at night until you get through it. I hate to see anyone go through it, but anyone that takes a chance on love usually goes through it at least once.
2007-07-23 05:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling. I have had crushes on girls in the past have had similar thought about what they are doing with their partners late at night. The best way to remove this thoughts is to keep busy and go out and meet new women!
2007-07-23 04:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. There is no real help. All that you can do is morn the loss of her. It sure is not easy. Many of us go through it and for some of us it took years to get over-if we were able to get over them. Do not dwell on her or them, you could end up in the slammer and ruining your life for ever. Call your mental health organization-First call for help-211- or go to web search and look up support groups or chat rooms for broken hearts. Just stay away from them. She is not worth your tears.
2007-07-23 05:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you about that she's a horrible person who's trying to hurt you so please try to go out with someone any one even a guy friend get your mind of things, try to leave the city for a while if you can and go to Las Vegas or something.
I know how much it hurts we all been there , the good news is that it will get better I promise.
2007-07-23 05:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by thecoldfire72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there at one time or another. She's your ex for a reason. Concentrate on why you're apart. If she was to blame, the new guy will likely get what you're feeling now at some point. If it was your fault, learn a lesson and move on. I'm praying for you.
2007-07-23 05:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋