i have been with this girl for 3 1/2 year and about 3 month ago she told me she wants some me time and thinks we got 2 serious 2 fast so we went on a break for 2 week which broke my heart, so i told her i carnt live like this so i told her to do her thinking in her own time and il get on with my own life till she decides what she wants to do. so far we havnt got back together but we see each other all the time i take her out for lunch and for long drives, drinks in out town centre and so on but recently she has been txting me and saying things like "i carnt wait till we go out again" or "im really looking forward to the meal tommorow" this is leading me to belive she still has feelings for me and that she is thinking about me and her getting back? am i reading 2 much into it? any advice on how to play it or how to get hr back will be taken on board
cheers.
2007-07-22 20:13:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If u really love her then Trust Her
2007-07-22 20:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by yogesh v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to get ahold of herself emotionally, because she is falling for you and you had sex too fast. She is seeing if you are able to be there for her on all levels. She doesn't really know the real you yet, she feels'. You need to tell each other how you feel you are loved. If either of you can't try to do those things, then you are not into each other.
To be loved, you have to love yourself, and like to be alone with yourself, happy with the person you are. If you are not ready, it is because you don't know who you are or what you want.
Marriage lasts' for secular people when you both agree on a five-year plan and a ten year goal on where you are going to be and what you will have accomplished together.
For Christians, it is serving the Lord together and to start a family that will change the world for Christ.
Your pride is getting in the way. If she loves' you, you would know by now. Women need to feel emotionally secure. If you don't listen, and hug her and want to plan time with her- every day communicating about that goal, she will feel abadoned, even though she has been told you love her. Acceptance and little things mean everything.
She's been told by her friends to move on, believe me. Tell her you two are on your own schedule, that doesn't include them. If you don't ardently pursue her, all is lost. Be there for her, be affectionate, and positive.
You sound moody, so maybe she IS better off thinking about this.
2007-07-22 20:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Charles E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 04:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If too serious means marriage or moving in together never mention it again. Let her bring it up. At first I thought she was having an affair and needed some "me" time to spend with another guy. But if she certainly seems to miss you so maybe she was momentarily distracted but is surer about your relationship now. Are you successful? Do you have a future? Maybe she loves you but is insecure about your future, i.e. can you support her and a kid? However much you earn show her that you can manage your money and that you are thinking about the future.
2007-07-24 04:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have been patient with her so far, but you need to know where you stand. Tell her that you will give her another 3 months to make up her mind, but after that she will either have to come back or you will move on with your life. Tell her that you can not keep your life on hold forever, not knowing whether she will be back or not. Don't let her just keep you on the side until she finds someone to replace you. Actually, you should not even be taking her out, if she is trying to make up her mind what she wants.
2007-07-22 20:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably did something to scare her or make her feel rushed. She just had to get over it. If you do go back out, take things slow. And to answer your question, she might just want to be friends, she could still love you. She's probably afraid things will go too fast again, and she doesn't want that.
2007-07-22 20:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her how she feels about you, she may still love you or she may just want you for the meals out etc.
2007-07-22 20:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For so many years you were knowing to each other and still you are guessing your love.I feel this very odd.If you feel her otherwise why hanging on look for new flowers.
2007-07-22 20:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by ahws437 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is telling you she wants back. do it to it. just tell her what you want. with the tex she is doing . is a go. she loves you
2007-07-22 20:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do still feel that spark when you look at her?
2007-07-22 20:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋