or should she stay home and make her kids her priority?i say her kids need her more than uncle sam does.if she wants to be a hero she can do so by raising her kids right. nevermind playing soldier! comments please.
2007-07-22 20:11:42 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Ask her how she thinks her kids will feel when they come to the house of whoever she dumps them on, to notify them that their mommy is dead.
They will always think she didn't love them and was willing to die to get away from them. Feelings are not rational and they would suffer the rest of their lives is she were killed or maimed.
Sounds to me like she is unfit to have children in her custody. Any woman too selfish to put off her own wild hair ideas to raise children she birthed is repugnant. I have no respect for such a woman. Her children and family have my sympathy and my prayers.
I hope the children have a father who loves them and can care for them. There is no substitute for a mother's love. But this mother sounds like she is fresh out of love for her kids.
2007-07-22 20:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It amuses me to read that the military is such a high risk that death is just around the corner. People need to do some searching, and they will discover that driving your car is more dangerous than being deployed to Iraq. Any number of jobs are MUCH more dangerous than the military, but they are deemed 'safe' by the masses because the news doesn't keep a tab on everyone who gets injured or killed.
Imagine if your local news reported every person that was injured / killed while driving in the US every day. In the US in 2005, roughly 119 people died in traffic accidents PER DAY.
**Now for the original question at hand.
As a recruiter, I would NEVER attempt to enlist a single parent. (I am assuming the poster is a single parent as there is no mention of her husband) The rules for enlisting a single parent are basically, they must transfer custody to someone else and NOT get custody back while on their first enlistment. (After they re-enlist they can get custody back)
This means that while the children will have medical care, the soldier will be treated like a single soldier. No quarters, no special pay.
As a parent myself, I would never transfer custody to anyone under any circumstance.
If you are married, this is a decision you husband and you need to make yourselves.
2007-07-23 01:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by chanvgap 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I must say I do not normally agree with much of what the guy above me writes but this time he seems more or less spot on.........
I fail to see why ANY mother feels the need to go off and do a job that in this case carries a high risk of her getting hurt....basically just dumping them off, regardless of the parenting plan or whatever they wish to call it..I still see it is as dumping them off and letting some else raise their kids...after all we all know that the service member does get down time and they will be able to live the life of a single person as some one else will be watching her kids...
Just for this case I think admirable as want to join is the actual MOTHER needs to be doing her job [which is raising her kids] to the best that she can.............
It is different if the member is already in and then has a family
2007-07-22 20:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by candy g 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you dont have a family care plan you cant join with kids anyways. Meaning, if you come down on orders to deploy you will have someone you trust take care of your kids when you leave. I was a soldier for 5 years, been done 2 months now and served overseas 2 times. I agree that parenting is most important, but if a woman feels that she needs to serve in the military thats very admirable as well. The kids will even grow more respect for their mom. Its this persons choice ultimately.
2007-07-22 20:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by woodchipper890 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
You crossed paths with Eve for a reason. yet you apart from could crossed paths mutually with your spouse for a reason besides. There maximum have been something approximately your spouse which you fashionable or you does not have married her. i think of you're greater incorrect for thinking a former lover mutually as married vs.incorrect for leaving Eve. Sorry you're in a quandry :(
2016-09-30 12:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that her kids probably need her more than her country does, but you didn't mention if there was a father involved.
Thousands of families of military personnel have children involved, and thousands more have lost fathers and mothers to the war. There is nothing pretty about war.
If the woman wishes to join the military, and she has a trustworthy person to care for her children, I would fully support her decision.
2007-07-22 21:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by CAUTION:Truth may hurt! 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You shouldn't be joining the army if you have young children that you need to be taking care of.
2007-07-22 20:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can't see any Mother with kids under 18 (let alone YOUNG kids) wanting to go off and risk her life and risk her kids having to grow up without a Mother. I'm sorry but that seems selfish to me.
She must be pretty bored. If that's the case maybe she should consider going out to work in a normal job and putting her kids in daycare or hiring a babysitter-at least she will come home to them at night and on weekends-alive and in one piece.
2007-07-22 20:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by MAK 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I would say the priority needs to be her kids.
2007-07-22 20:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by sociald 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
if she is a single parent, she cannot enlist anyway. she cannot give up custody for the sole purpose of enlisting, and she may not regain custody at all during the first term of enlistment..which can be up top six years long.
2007-07-23 00:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋