im called the skol s l u t?

Question

ok well i often get called a s l u t becuz ppl think i've had sex a ton of times and done all that stuff but i've only done one thing and so i dont think it rly makes me a s l u t doesnt a s l u t have 2 b sum1 that does stuff all the time?

im 14 and i've given a guy a bj

Answer 1

feel bad for u. u know its stereotype. when a man sleeps with 1000 women, he is a hero, but if it was a woman who sleeps with 10 men she is a slut. get over it.

Answer 2

You're right a s l u t is someone that sleeps around a lot. In that aspect you're not a s l u t, but what you did was slutty. There is a difference. You put yourself in a bad position and now you're paying the price for it. You're so young and have your whole life ahead of you. Was that bj worth all the anguish that you're going through now? Put the sexual activity stuff on hold until you get a lot older. Wrap your mind around books and not your mouth around boy's d*cks and you should be able to ride this thing out.

Answer 3

Here are some possibilities.

1) The person you did that "one thing" with told a lot of people to make himself look cool, and probably exaggerated about whatever it was you did.

2) Other guys who wanted to look cool started saying they'd been with you too, because they thought it sounded believable since you'd been with the other guy.

3) Another girl is jealous of the attention you've been getting from somebody she likes (again, maybe the guy you were with) and is spreading stories about you.

What's kind of sad is that the same girls who like to use the "s" word as a weapon are usually the same ones who let guys use them for the sake of popularity. Don't buy into it. Sooner or later somebody else will have their turn with the reputation you've gotten, and they probably won't deserve it any more than you do.

Not that there's anything wrong with having sex. Just know why you're doing it, keep yourself safe (from pregnancy AND diseases), and don't let anybody you hook up with get you drunk or high--they just want you vulnerable so you won't object to things you probably shouldn't be doing. Stick with people who respect you.

Answer 4

Maybe you can change your behaviour and the way you dress and talk? In any case, it's unfair of other kids to call you names, but often names are called just to hurt, not because there's anything behind it. Then again, maybe they're jealous of your good looks and charms with the boys? Ignore it, or just tell them they're childishly jealous and to get over it.

Answer 5

My first question to you is how old are you exactly? One thing people are judgemental and even if you do "one thing" only, rumors start, causing even more rumors. My bes advice to you is to keep your head high because that's lets thos shi** talkers know you are not a slut! If it continues, confront them. Say where exactly DID you get ur info because I'm here to tell you differently. Just keep smiling :-)

Answer 6

14 is kinda young in my opinion to be doing that(my 1st encounter with that was when i was 19) but im not gonna pass judgement. i've heard of girls doing more at earlier ages.

i dont think you are one for doing that but as you get older you'll learn not to care so much about what other people think

but at your age alotta things are about popularity and status so people are gonna talk and spread rumors to hurt other peoples names and improve theirs

Answer 7

Hey Kassie, you are wonderful, unique, exceptional and fantastic. Love yourself, honor yourself, respect yourself and accept yourself as you are, without judgment. You can never stop others judging you but you never have to accept their judgments. If you can accept yourself without judgment, then you will choose only those who honor you as friends. Those who don't know you have no valid basis for any opinion. Thos who know you will accept you based on their own issues. You, you learn to accept yourself and honor yourself and recognize that you are really great.

Answer 8

which kinda like means that the one think you sorta did....you told someone who told the rest of the school.....silly you!

Deal with it... now you're a skank irrespective of the truth....you had a big mouth...but I bet you'll keep it shut from now on right!?

Answer 9

Maybe it's not too late for you to transfer to another school where nobody knows you.

Answer 10

well you dont have to belive the people what they think about you its what matters what you think of yourself.

so just block the negativity out.