urgent advices pls anybody??

Question

have a bf of 10months. but its seems he is so secretive. his family dont even know me.. only his mum... but wat abt siblings...n his child... i fear im not a part of him, he even went overseas for a a holiday, he changed our pic in his wallet. then the mother of his child -to be with the kid, and i dnt wanna be left here with a wandering mind... and wen im surrounded with his mates. he doesnt tell them who i am... or if not... they ask wheres your gf.. he answer shes busy at work... is something wrong with me?? hes getting mad that i ask him abt our future holds, or things like wil u go back with ur ex, he just laffs abt it. im not happy the way my bf is treating our relationship, cos he spends most of his time with mates and going to partys.. im thinking he may be influenced with them, regardless that im in his gf. where do i stand?

Answer 1

first of all if y'all are under 25 then drop him and keep it moving. if you are adamant about this relationship working than you make him know what you expect from the relationship. Other than that keep it moving and don't look back. Why do women always ? if something is wrong with us? It could possibly be that the guy is an A$$H0L3 and he is dead wrong and being insensitive. But if you feel it is you than you need to be by yourself anyway to make YOU a better person.

Answer 2

I have 2 options. 1. u should straight up ask him does he love you if he says yes, tell him to prove it to you by announcing that u are his gf to all of his buddies. 2. if money is not a big issue for you or you can find someone cheap, you could higher a private investigator to see what he does when you are not there.

i know i said 2 but heres 1 more when ur around his frnds or someone else close to him introduce yourself as his gf and see how he reacts. if he reacts funny or gets mad hes doing something behind your back he didnt want you to know about

Answer 3

you should asked yourself this question:

• Is this relationship worth the work and pain I suffer to maintain it?

• Does he/she make me feel good about myself when we are together? Do I like who I am when I’m with him/her?

• Is this relationship affecting my health and well-being? Is it decreasing my effectiveness at work and disintegrating my self-worth?

• Am I receiving as much as I give? Am I getting my fair share of love and material benefits?

• Can I deeply trust him/her or am I constantly suspicious and doubtful?

• Am I holding on to the relationship out of habit and emotion-blinded memories of the past?

• Do we still properly communicate or have we drifted too far apart that the distance is hard to bridge?

• Do I still feel love in this relationship?

• Is this relationship causing me pain, heartache, and insecurity?

• Should I stay or shall I go?

After evaluating your relationship, look for these signs which indicate that sooner or later you will have to end it:

• You are being physically, verbally, and/or emotionally abused to a point that you can no longer tolerate.

• He/she says things like, "I need some space; I need more time to think," "It’s not you, it’s me," or avoids you completely.

• You are giving more and feel that you are being shortchanged; your physical and emotional needs are not being met.

• You have given him/her many chances, yet the situation and how he/she is remain the same.

• Talking to him/her is like talking to a wall. It’s useless because he/she just won’t listen.

• You’ve changed many of your core values to adjust to his/hers, hoping he/she would change but hasn’t.

• You have a growing feeling of frustration, inadequacy, and emptiness.

• You can feel your health and well-being declining.

• You have become withdrawn and have distanced yourself from close friends and members of your family.

• You feel despair and self-pity, and see no hope in the relationship.

my advice...

When someone makes you feel ugly and unneeded, say goodbye to him...

Answer 4

set him straight or leave him....he is treating u badly and ur just gonna get hurt and im sry when it happens...ppl usually only bring ppl to meet there family when they mean a lot to them so when he is hiding u from everybody and not introducing u to ppl that is a sign that he thinks u r not important or that u wont be with him long so there is no point in having u meen anyone....im sry i hope this is not what it looks like.....Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 5

Ask him straight. What are you to him. Talk things out. If the situation is handled well, good for you. It is also best to weigh the situation you are in. He might be just lying to you for all this time.
But if I were you, I'd leave him.

Answer 6

Her is lying to you about something. Are you sure that he is not married? Sounds like he may be. You need to do some investigating. You may just be the other woman.