He said when we first started seeing each other that he didnt want a relationship but lately he has been saying things like hes falling in love that he wants only me and stuff like this but when i say something about he says yeah im sorry i need to control myself
2007-07-22 18:43:18 · 13 answers · asked by hcj25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By sending you mixed signals, he is playing hard to get. Guys sometimes like to tease girls and use the old 'stick and carrot' routine to lead the girl on.
As with many young men, it may mean that he does have a crush on you. You need to ask him what he is feeling. Otherwise, he will continue to dodge his true feelings and dodge you.
2007-07-23 07:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by txofficer2005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to control the pace of the relationship. If that is OK with you, then no problem. How do you feel when he says he is falling in love? if you feel happier, then you too have more invested in what you have but he can't dictate the terms. It takes two like minded people to have a good thing going. He might also enjoy controlling you and that is what you should be mindful of. Good luck.
2007-07-22 18:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kirsty E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE YOUR DUDE IS NOT READY FOR YOU TO RECIPROCATE YOUR FEELINGS TO HIM. QUESTION: WHEN DOES HE SAY THAT HE IS FALLING IN LOVE? IS IT ONLY TO GET INTIMATE, OR DOES HE SAY IT WHEN YOU ARE AT THE MOVIES OR IN PUBLIC. IS HE AFFECTIONATE WITH YOU IN THE EYES OF OTHERS? SOMETIMES, IF A PERSON CHOOSES NOT TO HAVE A 2-WAY CONVERSATION (AS OPPOSED TO HIM JUST SAYING I LOVE YOU)WITH YOU ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER, IT USUALLY MEANS HE IS NOT READY TO COMMIT. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME TELLING HIM IF HE DOES NOT RETURN THE SENTIMENT WHEN YOU INITIATE IT. HE SOUNDS LIKE A CREEP. TAKE A DEEP BREATH, SIT DOWN BY YOURSELF, AND REALLY LOOK BACK AT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS FELLOW. IF YOU SEEM TO BE PUTTING IN ALL THE WORK, IT MAY NOT BE WORTH IT. IF A GUY REALLY WANTS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, HE WOULD HAVE ALREADY DONE IT, SINCE YOU ARE GIVING ALL THE SIGNALS YOU WANT TO, BUT HE STILLCHOOSES NOT TO RETURN THE FEELINGS.
2007-07-22 18:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kristina R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he dint want a relationship at first, probably still dont, and he is just telling you that he is falling in love with you, in hopes that you will give it up to him, then when you say something about it, he sais sorry i need to controll myself, because he knows what he is trying to do. and probably dose not want to hurt you.
2007-07-22 18:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Andy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on when he is saying it. If it is only right before having sex, he is probably just using the line. If he says it often, he may be truly falling in love. You need to check your feelings in that case. If you don't want love, you need to back him off when he says things like that.
2007-07-22 18:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely sending mixed signals. The best way to find out what he is trying to say is to just ask him, because only he truly knows what he feels!!
2007-07-22 18:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he is really confusing you.. and that you don't want to play games! If he doesn't give you a straight answer find a man who knows what he wants
2007-07-22 18:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by bickeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best if you sit down and have a heart to heart with this fella. Express your concerns and listen to his.
Move on to what the next step is, whatever it is.
2007-07-22 18:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to play it cool and making him sound less desperate and making you sound really desperate. Don't be too angry with him, but just fight fire with fire; if he's playing it cool, then you play it cool. See who can play it the longest.
2007-07-22 18:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's playing games with you!
2007-07-22 18:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋