NOW BEFORE I START I WOULD JUST LIKE TO TELL YOU THAT I WOULD REALLY LIKE IF YOU WERE NOT DISRESPECTFUL WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION........
O.K. I AM A 16 YEAR OLD FIRL WHO HAS NEVER DATED AND I LIKE SOMEONE THAT IS OFTEN MISUNDERSTOOD AND I KNOW IS A GOOD PERSON SOMEWHERE DEEP DOWN BUT JUST MAKES DUMB CHOSES. HE SAYS HE LIKES ME AND I WANT TO BELIEVE IT BUT AT THE SAME TIME I AM WONDERING IF MAYBE LIK EVERY OTHER GURL HE HAS GONE OUT WITH THAT HE JUST WANTS SOMETHING FROM ME. I NEED HELP BECAUSE I AM SO CONFUSED I HAVE SUCH A BIG HEART YET DONT TEND TO FALL FOR PEOPLE AS QUICKLY AS MOST TEENS NOW A DAYS AND NOW I DO LIKE SOMEONE AND I HAVE NO CLUE IF HE IS PLAYING WITH ME
PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-07-22 17:56:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH FOR THE ADVICE SO FAR IT IS REALLY HELPING ....AND TO THE PERSON WHO ASKED I'VE KNOWN HIM FOR A WHILE AND I DONT LIKE HIM JUST BECAUSE OF HIS LOOKS OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT BECAUSE LIKE I SAID I AM NOT LIKE MOST TEENS...BUT THANKS FOR ASKING ...YOU GUYS ARE GREAT HELP... IT WILL BE HARD TO PICK THE BEST ANSWER
2007-07-22 18:26:39 · update #1
The majority of the time, the way in which he treats you when the two of you guys are around his friends kinda determine whether he is really into. For an example, if he still treats you with the same respect and kindess when he is around his friend the he is a keeper, but if he act dump as though you don't even exist, then it's either he is not matured enough to act a certain way around his boys, or if he is really like that.
2007-07-22 18:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by LuvMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
You sound precious,, and he would be lucky to have you first off. There are two issues here. You have a big heart , and you need to protect that heart of yours... be cautious who you give your affections to. I would observe him, with other women - does he flirt - does he act the same way,, or are you special. You want to make sure that he thinks you are special, because you think he is. If he generalizes women - and does not really see the wonderful friendship you are offering him, try and keep your heart protected until such time as someone feels the same way about you.
You are so young, but I know that protecting your heart and choosing boyfriends wisely can affect how you perceive relationships in the future.
2007-07-22 18:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt take your time and adopt a wait and see attitude. Dating is kinda like taking a good friendship a bit further than just being casual aquaintenances. It gets more personal and feelings can be hurt much quicker. If you haven't developed a good friendship with this gentleman, then take the time to be just friends first, then good friends, then if possible best friends, and learn more about each other before getting really serious about dating. Save the dating for only a best friend as they will respect you, your feelings and appreciate you for the kind and caring person you are.
Hope this helps........
2007-07-22 18:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you met that guy? Do you know him well enough?
Well, you have said you dont tend to fall in love as quickly as teens these days, so the first thing i gotta ask you is how long you've known that guy to like him. Sometimes people think they've fallen in love with some one, but sometimes it may also be infatuation? well, you definitely can love a guy just because he's really cute, or he's the captain of the basketball club.
It'll depend alot on your understanding of his personality and character dont you think?
Perhaps you can get to know him better first to decide if you want to get together with him. Of course, dont put in a 100percent of your devotion if you're afraid of getting hurt.
2007-07-22 18:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by nanana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be afraid of the unpredictable, especially if you are used to having control over most situations in your life. My advice to you is to put your fears aside for a minute and really ask yourself if you can imagine yourself with him. If he's the guy you really think he is, and are willing to take the leap and give him a chance, then go for it, and if it turns out like you feared, then you learn and grow from the experience. But then again, there is also a chance that it will turn out to be the way you hoped, and you won't regret your decision. It all depends on if you are willing to put yourself out there and take a chance. If you're not ready, you're not ready...
Good luck!
2007-07-22 18:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Babycakes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... you're too young to be in love at the moment. Concentrate in your study. You'll have plenty of time to fall in love but right is not the right time to do so. You'll get hurt as boys at your age is not serious as they have not see the real world and out there have many more prettier girl.
Protect yourself... don't let anyone hurt you.
2007-07-22 18:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait a while and see if hes really into you. like go on dates and to the movies or just hang out at the beach or mall or something like that.. see if he trys anything with you other than kissing and if he does then he might just be after one thing. if he doesnt try anything for a while then i think its gold. wow i should listen to my own advice lol.... good luck
2007-07-22 18:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on his track record. If he has a reputation of being a player and having short-term relationships, then stay away.
If he's a good guy, then give him a chance. If you know any of his friends, ask them...or ask your friends what their impressions of him are.
2007-07-22 18:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are still young. My advice to you is follow your heart, but trust your instincts. If it turns out that he just wants sex or whatever, then drop him.
2007-07-22 18:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by rhyno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just relax and let time tell.
2007-07-22 18:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋