How do I deal with my ignorant biased Christian parents on my girlfriends abortion?

Question

I'm 15 she's 14. She is a no certain religion and I'm pagan. I never even told her to get one. When she said she was pregnant she decided she wanted an abortion. I said I'll pay for it. I don't know how my parents found out but they are starting to get on my nerves with their telling me I'm killing my child BS. It's HER decision not theirs. I've tried ignoring them. That doesn't stop them. Everything they say has to do with her abortion. It's starting to drive me crazy, How do I tell them to SHUT UP??

Chosen by God 777 can you not read? I'm PAGAN not buddhist.

Jessyfiend. Nothing is 100%.

89 she hasn't gotten the abortion. Which is why they are complaining.

Chosen by God you willingly clicked on this question. I have not murdered anybody. Me nor her can support a baby now and I support her choice to get an abortion. Your forcing your beliefs on me. Grow up. Christians have murdered millions. So I wouldn't be talking.

Faith. They may be responsible for ME but they aren't responsible for HER

Answer 1

Just keep reminding them that it's none of their business. She isn't their daughter. They have NO say whatsoever in her decision. Period.

Hopefully, if nothing else, their nasty behavior will give YOU incentive to make sure you never risk an unwanted pregnancy again.

You could also remind them that their God drowned and slaughtered millions (more than Hitler), conspired to have HIS own kid brutally beaten and executed AND he repeatedly commanded his followers to hurt and kill THOUSANDS of other people of all ages, INCLUDING pregnant women. God clearly does NOT value human life at ANY age.

The Bible also gives instructions on how priests are to perform abortions on unwanted pregnancies.

Numbers 5:12-31 (see your Bible for the entire thing)

" . . . If any man's wife go aside, and commit a trespass against him, And a man lie with her carnally, . . . and she be defiled, . . . . Then shall the man bring his wife unto the priest, . . . . And the priest shall take holy water in an earthen vessel; and of the dust that is in the floor of the tabernacle the priest shall take, and put it into the water: . . . and the priest shall have in his hand the bitter water that causeth the curse . . . and say unto the woman, . . . . if thou hast gone aside to another instead of thy husband, and if thou be defiled, and some man have lain with thee beside thine husband . . . . And he shall cause the woman to drink the bitter water that causeth the curse: and the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter. . . . . . And when he hath made her to drink the water, then it shall come to pass, that, if she be defiled, and have done trespass against her husband, that the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter, and her belly shall swell, and her thigh shall rot . . . . And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean; then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed . . . . ."

Answer 2

I would think that your parents would want what is best for you and your girlfriend. You are both so young, and you have made choices that people older than you shouldn't make lightly. An abortion is an action your young lady will live with for the rest of her life - as will you. Because the child inside of her is part of you too. Now, I'm not saying don't do it. If my kid was 14 and pregnant, that's the first place she would go, and a loving parent would do that. A kid having a kid...well, it is certainly something that requires a lot of deep thinking. The path to choose, what is right and wrong - the line is blurred and the choice is hard, but it is the mother's choice. Tell your parent's that you understand where they are coming from and that you respect their opinions on the subject. Inform them that it is no longer open for discussion and that you would appreciate it if the respected your opinion. Remind them that you love them, but it's not your body that the baby is in. It's hers, and therefore, it is her right to do with it what she will. Good luck to you, Jay.

Answer 3

You need to stand up to your parents. As a grandparent, I am aware that not all parents use good sense when dealing with their kids. Heck, I wasn't a perfect parent either. But your parents are doing more harm than good. You need to take them to http://www.prolifeismurder.com and show them the facts. It is an absolute fact that bringing an unwanted child into the world causes the death of 12 loved and wanted children. So if they think they are doing God's will by "saving" a fetus, then they are wrong. God does not support the pro life movement.
Please take them to that site. And remind them that God made a complex world where simple answers are not acceptable.
Next send them to the childwelfare site I list below. They will find that there are over 100 million children in the world that need adoption. So discourage them from adoption.
Stick to your guns. Just as many racist parents tried to force racism on their children and were rejected by their kids, you should go with what is right. As a Christian myself, I know that sometimes pagens have a better insight into god than some of my friends. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, your parents (from what I can tell) are wrong and right. They are wrong in that are simply hitting you over the head with this. They are correct in that you and your girlfriend killed your child.

Abortion is murder. It is quite simple. Take a look at the video on the front page of http://www.AbortionNO.org

I'm sure you didn't see that before she had the abortion. Yes, you killed your child. However, you were most likely ignorant of what you were doing. Maybe you weren't, but id you were you are still somewhat guilty. Ignorance is no excuse, you do have the resposibility to know what you are doing before you do it. It is, however, understandable.

So, you killed your child. That is murder. You know the ten commandments, or if not you deffinately know "Thou shalt not kill." Well, you are guilty of this. Breaking a commandment from God is a sin, and the wages of sin is death, granting you eternity in Hell.

You are guilty of murder (as well as a few other things I am sure). I am guilty of all this too, though. Why, then, am I telling you this? Because you have a way out. Jesus died to take all the guilt of your sin. He said that if you will accept him as your saviour and repent (attempting to stop your sin and asking for forgiveness), he will heal and forgive you.

Yes, people calling themselves Christians have killed countless people. Yes, your parents are Christians and they are (according to you) not acting in a very Christian manner. Regardless of that, a true Christian is one who follows Christ's example. When you look at Christianity don't look at it's supposed followers, look at it's head: Jesus.

Answer 5

Why not consider adoption?

The following information os from babycenter.com (not prolife, just an educational resource for pregnant women on line)

How your baby's growing at 7 weeks:
Your baby still appears to have a small tail (actually, it's an extension of his tailbone), which will disappear in the next few weeks. But that's the only thing getting smaller. Now almost half an inch long — roughly the size of a raspberry — he has elbow joints and distinct, slightly webbed fingers and toes. In his oversized head, both hemispheres of his brain are developing. His teeth and the inside of his mouth are forming, and his ears continue to develop. Eyelid folds partially cover his tiny peepers, which already have some color, and the tip of that nose you'll be tweaking someday is emerging. His skin is paper-thin and his veins are clearly visible.

Your little one also has an appendix and a pancreas, which will eventually produce the hormone insulin to aid in digestion. His liver is busy producing red blood cells, and a loop of your baby's growing intestines is bulging into his umbilical cord, which now has distinct blood vessels to carry oxygen and nutrients to and from his tiny body. You can't feel his gyrations yet, but your baby is like a little jumping bean, moving in fits and starts around his watery home.

Answer 6

first off, telling your parents to SHUT UP won't solve your problem. Ultimately, whatever lifelong mistake your girlfriend wishes to make is none of your parents business. The best thing you can do is treat your parents with respect and maybe listen to their concerns. You might learn something. Next thing would be to consider NOT having sex until you are ready for the responsibility of parenthood. You are still a child and you are not ready for such grown up issues,

Most important, don't pressure your girlfriend to go through with an abortion if she doesn't want to. I'm sure she is very confused and scared right now so just be supportive.

You know there are other alternatives to abortion that are not dangerous. Abortion hurts in more ways than one.

Answer 7

Are pagans not meant to respect living creatures?
You dont have to be religious to be against abortion just you dont have to be religious to be against murder.
Why are you not considering adoption?
It is your baby too. Perhaps your girlfriend feels you wont support her if she has the child and this leads her to wanting an abortion?
It is your parents grandchild and if it was born they would be expected to be concerned for its welfare so why not when its unborn and its life it threatened?
Has you or your girl friend actually seen the reality of abortion?
Perhaps showing her pictures of what she would be going through would dissuade her from it?
http://www.prolifeamerica.com, if you go to abortion reality link then youll see what the horrific reality is.

Answer 8

You asked this question again....

And after reading what everyone wrote both times, I wanted to a) apologize for my earlier answer & b) change my advice to you.

If she wants and abortion, let her get one. It IS her body. You are willinging to help.

As for your parents, they will never shut up about it. But hun, it is YOUR life, and your GF's life. Not theirs. You both need to make the decision, not them.

Hope it all works out for you.

Blessed Be

Answer 9

this may sound stereotypical teen but this issue has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR PARENTS. they will not be ruining their futures by keeping your child....YOU 2 will ruin YOUR LIVES if you keep the baby! you 2 are still babies! way too young to take on the responsibility of parenting! tell them its between you and your gf since this is about the both of you deciding the better in your futures and the babies! i doubt you can give your baby everything you want to give them....i have a friend who gave birth recently (gave birth at 18) and they are struggling just to have stuff in their new apartment....there is almost NOTHING in their apartment....they can only afford a bed, baby bed, some fast food, baby food, a small tv on the floor and a comp and that's pretty much it. they have almost nothing and cant provide as much as they would want to. sure your parents will feel better if you keep it but its not their life...its not their future to gamble on. my friends are still lucky to have what they have...but not everyone is able to provide...plus...they were already around 18 so the dad could get a job...you only 15...who will hire you seriously? good luck.

Answer 10

I'm not going to lecture you but I do have to say that if I were your parents I would be more concerned about my 15 year old having unprotected sex than about the abortion.
With that said, there's not really much you can do besides ignore them. My parents are very religious as well, and whenever they say something ignorant around me, I just leave the room. If you do that eventually your parents will see that talking about it isn't getting them anywhere and they will give up
In the future though, use protection