I like a girl who apparently has no idea how much I like her. I've told her that I like her, but she has a boyfriend that is at bootcamp right now. She has been waiting the whole summer for him so obviously she won't break up with him for me. But she did say that she is attracted to me and would date me if she wasn't in love. I've known this girl for three years, but haven't really gotten to know her like I have since her boyfriend has been away. We have talked just about every single day for a few weeks now. We have awesome times together when we hang out. It seems like we have a strong connection together, and I would go way beyond to make her the luckiest girl in the world! I'm not trying to say i'm better than any other guys, because that's just ignorant. I just think that me and her would have the time of our lives together. What do you think I should do? I have never liked someone this much and I cannot stop thinking about her. Should I move on or wait?
2007-07-22 17:49:23 · 10 answers · asked by Senarine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well being in a situation where I am in love with a guy that is to most people not good enough for me, I can sort of speak from your crushes perspective. I would say if you really do like her let her go, if it is meant to be she will come to you. If she is in love with her boyfriend there isnt much anyone can do about it and not much you or anyone else can do to change that. To you, he may not be the best for her, but when your in love you see even the most imperfect people in a different light and look past any flaws you can so to her he is probably the best.
2007-07-22 18:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no one can really really tell you that. Ultimately, it is your decision, whether or not you want to move on or wait for her. To answer your main question, most people settle for less than the best because they are afraid of being alone. Everyone wants to be loved, and sometimes, I think, that people settle for less because they feel they won't find anyone better, so they force themselves to settle for whatever happens to pop up on their way. However, if truly you feel strongly about this particular girl, you should see what happens after she is reunited with her boyfriend after boot camp. Besides, just because you want to move on, doesn't necessarily mean that you'll find someone within hours after you decide to move on. Even if you choose to move on, it'll take sometime before finding someone you really like (chances are). This is what you should do, if you wish to respect her thought. On the other hand, if you are anxious to tell her all about how you have all this feelings for her, then you should be open and you shouldn't wait. After all, the worst that can happen to you at this point is that, she'll say this isn't an option at this moment. But, that won't be too bad because already you are single, right? So, technically you have nothing to lose if she rejects your wishes, but something to gain if she doesn't right?
I hope putting the information out on the 'platter' this way helps you to decide what you want to do, because it'll be your life that'll be impacted by this decision.
2007-07-22 18:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by jumba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of sick bastard goes after a guy's girl when hes a bootcamp? I was at US Marine Corps. bootcamp awhile back and I'll tell you what, all those guys with gf's back home all they hear about is how their girls is humping some guy right now. Drill instructors grind that crap into your head. I've seen grown men cry when they get the letter telling them that the girl's moved on. The dude is man enough to server his country, be man enough to find a single girl.(Hoo-rah)
2007-07-22 17:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by york_m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on... she is in love, she has a boyfriend.. out of respect for yourself, her boyfriend, and her... find someone who is just for YOU.. Dont waste precious time depriving yourself of that opportunity. Mark my words, you will feel like this about someone else ... more likely in the nearer rather than distant future..
2007-07-22 17:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haft go with what your gut says I'm not saying split them up that's a horrible thing to do you should just go with the flow if you really like her wait for her and if you move on don't regret your decision
2007-07-22 17:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by anny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because to her, you are not the best. She is not in love with you. She is very much in love with this other guy, so in love she is willing to wait for him.
Move on.
2007-07-22 17:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her sooooo much, wait. till shes single. if you dont feel like you wanna wait then dont. move on. she obviously sees something in her bf that makes her feel like hes the best. so until their over, your alone. unless you move on of course.
2007-07-22 17:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Gina Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. When her man comes back, if she has stronger feelings for you than she does for him, she will not be able to stay with him. But you have to let her go cause if she still has you in her life she will think she can have you anytime she wants you even if she stays with her man...Trust me...
2007-07-22 17:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already said she won't leave her bf for you. Maybe her bf is whom she considers the best. Move on.
2007-07-22 17:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by soniye88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase they always think that the can never have what they want.
That's what I call a Loser attitude...
2007-07-22 17:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by nuttynellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋