Relationship, what should you do if your future wife mistreat you, as though you are a nuisance to her ?

Question

Hi, just want to know what should we do if your future going to be wife mistreat you, looked down on you (saying that you don't have security in life) and ignore you when you want to ask about her well being (whether she has arrive home safety at night). Forgets your birthday and saying you are bored. She critics you and question about the relationship, also tell you don't bother to send her to work (she will take the bus) Should you :-
1. Dump her (it's difficult because you put too much heart in
it. All the memories you fond together, difficult)
2. Scold her (tell her mistakes and hopefully she will change)
3. Look for another person just to make her feel bad
4. Play along , to ignore her
5. Others.

Answer 1

Honestly, if you dont' end it now, your going to get hurt badly anyways. From what you told us, it's seems as though she has a good thing, yet she decided that she wanted to destroy it.

Answer 2

All of the above can work but put them in this order:
1.Scold/talk to her (tell her mistakes and hopefully she will change) if she doesn't change then u can.
2.Dump her (it's difficult because you put too much heart but u have to do whats best for u.
3.Look for another person just to make her feel bad just to see what her reaction will be and depending on her actions u can.
4.Play along with her or ignore her completely.
good luck

Answer 3

You should never be with somebody that put you down like that. Why are you still with her? There are a lot of other fish in the sea. She doesn't deserve you. Nobody has the right to say and do those things to you or to anybody else. If I were you I would break up with her. Yes, it is going to be difficult because all of the memories. But are you sure those are good memories? It doesn't sound like you've had any good memories at all with her. It sounds like you let her mistreat you because you don't have self confident. She gets away with saying and doing whatever she pleases because she knows you won't say or do anything about it. Here is what you need to do: break up with her, build up your self confident, believe that you are a good guy and you deserve somebody who loves you as much as you love her, then get a new gf. Good luck!

Answer 4

Invest no more, No 1. Her time has come and gone, there is someone out there who will 1) love you 2) respect you 3) listen to you 4) allow you to take care of her and vice versa and 5) she is not a future wife, your future wife is waiting on you right now probably with an aching heart just like you.

Answer 5

If you honestly love her,tell her about what shes doing to hurt your feelings. Maybe she thinks you don't care. Talk to her and be upfront, if she doesn't change her ways, you deserve better and you won't stay in that kind of relationship.
You could also take her to see a relationship specialist. They will help you out alot on communicating. I think thats something you both need.
From what your wrote,i feel as though you should be do # 1, because you deserve more than what she is giving you. Is she honestly someone you want to spend your life with?

Answer 6

Tell her how you feel and give her a chance to change. And be firm! Don't be a girlie man! Chicks don't respect guys that they can push around and will put up with her crap. You tell her to knock it off or you are history. And mean it! I'm not kidding, either. And then the next time she forgets your anniversary or criticizes you or says you don't offer her enough security, get up and leave and don't go back.

Answer 7

You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with her. Say all of the things that you just told us and tell her how it makes you feel (besides the list of five things that you should do of course). If she still ignores you (in the way that you've said), then I'd seriously consider ending the relationship.

Answer 8

#1

Answer 9

2 first, if she didn't care, then proceed to No. 1. Once a women treat a man like that... it will be forever and will get worse and worse and worse.

It's not worth it for ur life and for ur future kids!

Answer 10

Dump her. If she's nasty to you now, it will be worse after you get married honey. She's on her best behavior now. Imagine what it will be like after she gets the ring on her finger.