I just want to see what the general public thinks.
2007-07-22 17:40:53 · 15 answers · asked by Michelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'm not looking at this situation because I'm debating whether or not to go ahead with it. I was simply curious of what you thought about it. And I know it's not like the movies :].
2007-07-22 17:53:30 · update #1
I must say, I don't think I can choose a best answer. The majority of you answered my question very deeply and honestly and it is much appreciated. I'm glad to see that there are people still out there that see life beyond any physical aspects.
2007-07-22 17:56:32 · update #2
No , no sex before marriage. I believe marriage is a covenant where two people share a bond, special from any other. This world is really sick, these days... regarding this issue. Stay pure, true to yourself and do not be manipulated by any guy.
Also, the bible is pretty clear on this issue, fornicators of which group will not inherit the kingdom of god, also do not associate with anyone who is sexually immoral. I am kind of rigid on this issue, prepare yourself to go it alone if you have to...
2007-07-22 17:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited until I was 18, most of my friends had already lost their virginity. I was with the same guy for a long time before it happened and I don't regret it. It was very meaningful. I didn't want my first time to be a waste, it was with somebody I loved and even though we are no longer together, I still care for him as a person. After him I no longer look so deeply into somebody before we take that step...although I won't with just anybody. Only somebody who I care about and have been in a relationship with for a while.
Too many people with nasty STDs not to be cautious.
I was raised no sex before marriage and if you have the will power to go that long then good for you! I gave in though
2007-07-23 00:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thing is, I would like to be in a relationship with someone before having sex all randomly. I mean I want the whole 9 yards on it. That we are friends first, and we build up into a nice relationship. Doesn't have to be exclusive first. This is where the sex part comes in, we can both explore and experiment as long as we are in full agreement on what we are trying out and if it involves other people, agree to whom we wish to share our private moments with. And that we are still a couple participating in these sexual explorations. Not him going off and doing other women and me doing other guys, I think that is all wrong on its own. But before we involve others we would have to be together for a while and get to know each other in that way first. Also him getting any STD tests done. I'm a virgin still and don't wish to catch anything from my partner. Until we get his full bill of health back and there is no positives then we would start with that aspect of the relationship.
It would also have to be at my own pace, because I don't want to be having sex for the hell of it. I would want it to mean something. A sharing experience with my partner who is also my lover. And when we do become exclusive it will just be us in the relationship and no one else. That we are true to each other in that way. I don't like the whole one night stand mentality that just makes men and women way too easy and its very dangerous out there. ONLY IN THIS CIRCUMSTANCE WOULD I HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. Definitely had to put emphasis on that.
As for the meaningful part I say when you are with someone you trully care about it should be meaningful all the time. Because to say you love someone and then go off and have a open relationship and say sex is just sex is not right or fair to the love you are supposed to share. If you really care for someone the love making you share should be a physical expression of that love. Not just sex, that you do with everyone else as well. I think when people choose to go that route they are demeaning the love they have for someone else.
2007-07-23 01:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the emotional make up of both parties. They have to be mature when engaging in this connection.
Spiritually, it is not. But if you ask me, in this day and age, I think its ok. As long as you don't turn into a slut / manwhore.
There is also a possibility that two people who never had sex before marriage and suddenly had sex when they're married and find that they are not sexually compatible. But this is bull. I believe as long as a couple are passionate with each other and talk about their needs, both of them can do stimulating acrobatics :)
Sex is a healthy part of any relationship. For those who can have meaningful relationship without sex, I say I salute you!
2007-07-23 00:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by nuttynellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is it 'ok'...well depending on your religion it may not be. My religion said not to, but did I still do it...yes. Either way just make sure you are ready. You will never forget your first and you definitely do not want to look back and regret it. Does it need to be meaningful?? Why wouldn't you want it to be? :-) Sex physically the closest you can be to someone and for me it is much better when it means something. We have all had our one night stands and some of them might have been pretty good...but when you love someone, it is never bad. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with waiting. But I must say, their will power is MUCH stronger than mine will ever be. :-)
2007-07-23 00:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to wait a while and get to know the person, but yeah I 100% believe in premarital sex. I mean what if you married this guy and on your honeymoon you find out his penis is tiny?? How horrible would that be? Plus some people just dont have good sex together and you need to know that beforehand. Sex is never ever like it is in the movies though, so if you have that picture in your mind you need to get over that. Your first time is always weird and exciting at the same time, but it will never be 100% perfect.
2007-07-23 00:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is sacred. It's a beautiful act of love and commitment and is meant to unite two to one (marriage). When you have sex, you're not only giving your virginity to that person, but rather a part of your soul, saying "you now have my heart and soul -- and I have yours."
I believe you shouldn't engage into sex until you are married. However close you two are, or close to getting married in the future -- don't let that be a reason to jump ahead. If you wait until after you have given your vows and promise to love one another till death do you part -- that will be the most precious, special, and AMAZING sex.
Wait.
2007-07-23 00:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Novembre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex before marriage what will you have left to give your husband. Every person that you have sex with you are married to, that's how GOD sees it. A marriage is not complete until the two people have sex.
2007-07-23 00:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by Line Straddler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it right? That depends on your religion and views. Must it be meaningful? Nope. Just make sure your comfortable. Sex is VERY simple/ clumsy:
1. Insert tab A into slot B
2. Jiggle a bit
3. Viola
2007-07-23 00:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I got together with my significant other, I played the field. I wasn't looking for a relationship, I just wanted to get laid. The women were looking for the same thing.
My significant other and I aren't married...neither are we celibate.
2007-07-23 00:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by ozwol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋