How can I get out of this dilemma?

Question

I guess you've never heard something like this before. I have a special interest for dramas and I do play them well. Sometimes I test people by pretending that I've done something real bad and they always believed. Overall it wasn't so bad untill yesterday, I wanted to tell my man who has been very close to me, whom I love, that I slept with my ex-boyfriend the other day. He didn't get shocked because he knew I was a very sexual woman, but then he honestly replied that he wouldn't want to be intimate with me anymore and just remain close friends. I was so much into the drama that I begged him to give me a chance and finally agreed. We went out for dinner and were happy.
But then later that night I sms him that I had made all that up and he replied to me " I don't understand , this is too weird for me, I don't know when you're telling the truth anymore. We'd better just go in seperate ways" ..I am really sad and don't know what to do since he is so pissed off.Is this the end for me?

that was not a joke, I did have feelings for my ex-bf, that's sort of what made my drama seem so real. But now I feel so bad like I have no chances to be with my man again. If I see him again, should I explan to him that it was only a test, or tell him that it was true and I was just too scared to admit that after all?
I know this is too complicated, I just hope you tell me what you would think is the best way to do now if you were me. thanks a lot!

Answer 1

When in the UK I enjoyed amateur dramatics for 6-7 years but never felt the need to take the acting into my personal life.
Now as for you and this guy, if it was me that you had did this to I probably would feel the same and give you a wide berth for a couple of weeks.
Now in my opinion, if I were you I wouldn't go chasing him as he will only become more angry. I would, as he will, give him a wide berth and then in say 2-3 weeks call him and give an apology another try.
If he accepts your apology and you start dating again, I would forget about the drama school for fools and idiots if you really want to keep your man.

Answer 2

Oh dear,

Why would you tell him such a thing if it were not true, it is like you are trying to sabotage a good thing for yourself. The guy responded appropriately - I would not be involved with anyone who was knowing intimate with another so in that he is normal. Also, his response to the fact that you made it up is also appropriate, since relationships are based on trust.

Listen, you made a mistake, do not worry about it. Learn from this, really... dont test people and always be honest in relationships. You will be sad over this for a while, but this is a life long lesson for you. Also, I would really dig deep and find out why you did this in the first place, it could be an inner problem not yet addressed. Dont be so hard on yourself, every painful mistake is an opportunity to learn, about ourselves and others.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if this is the end, but the drama thing isn't smart to do with your boyfriend. Well at least saying that you slept with your ex wasn't smart. Something else might have been more appropriate.

Answer 4

well its not the first time ive heard of this it is a form of of lieing really that makes you feel good if you can pull it off but when you go to far you hurt trust and that is what you have done and hurting a mans trust is very hard to fix if he cant beliveve you when you may or may not have done wrong how can he believe you if you say i love you?

Answer 5

You call it playing dramas.... it's called YOU'RE A COMPULSIVE LIAR. The guy should be thanking his lucky stars he dodged this bullet. Why don't you look into getting therapy to see why you have to seek so much attention. Are you afraid that you are so boring that people won't like you without your lies?