how do i control my depression?

Question

okay i have been diagnosed with clinical depression for about two years now. only problem is that my mom doesn't believe in the the disease so she won't put me on medication. I have been a self injurer for a little over three years now and for a little while now i have had it under control. but lately everything is getting really hard to handle. All i want to do is sit in my room and cut. my mom won't take me back to therapy and i just don't know what to do with myself to get cutting off of my mind PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Answer 1

You need help. I'm wondering why your mom won't take you for medical help. Talk with her, and if she won't respond, try other venues. Try talking with a school counselor or someone in the clergy at your church. If they were to tell your mom about your needing intervention for depression, it would maybe be more effective than a self-report.

The last thing you should ever do to cry for help is cut yourself. Please don't do that - promise me that you love your life enough. I know it's hard, but I know that you can have the strength to at least pull yourself to a place where you can get help. There are suicide hotlines if you ever get so depressed you don't think you can handle it. You can even go to the emergency room. I even went there once when I was so depressed I didn't think anybody cared about my life - so why should I - and stopped myself from doing something harmful and went to the ER. I left because I was afraid of being billed, but they found my doctor and he called me later.

Things will get better. Hang on tight, things will go easier for you.
Promise you - you can pull through this.

Answer 2

I also used to cut and I know exactly how difficult curing the obsession can be. It's been over a year since I last cut and I still think about it. There is no sure-fire way of magically curing it.

The best advice that I can give you is simply do not allow yourself to do it. When the urge overtakes you, take three seconds and think about how you are going to feel after you're finished. Will you honestly feel any better, or will you simply feel guilty? Sometimes, taking those three seconds can mean all the difference.

If that's not enough, try to stay busy. Or, I always tried to inflict a lesser form of pain. Go for a run. Run until you can barely breathe. Not only will you have been busy enough to allow the cutting urge to pass, but you have also run off so much energy you will feel more at peace.

Or if those just do not work for you, find a way to take out your aggression. My form was a baseball bat to an old tree stump. Find something that just fits with you.

I know you don't want to hear this, but there is no magic wand that will fix the problem. Medication does not mean taking a magical pill and automatically becoming "cured." I hated being on medication myself. Over time you simply learn to live with the urges. When you overcome the urge, pride yourself on being a strong and beautiful person.

As cliche as this sounds, I have faith in you. I know you can do it if you simply do not allow yourself the weakness of cutting.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Firstly... u have to know u are not alone. A lot of people suffer from the same disease.... I don't know if u believe in God or whoever, that would help u 'cause u centre your energy and your thoughts on someone else. If don't, try to talk to someone who believes you, some relative or friend. It's useful to do things, u can go out with friends or just be in contact with people and nature, u can also start an activity u like and use it as therapy. The important thing here is that you avoid thinking all the time negatively. Try to see a specialesed doctor although u have to do it secretly (That is if you can't convince her about your desease)
Good luck....I'm here if u need me. I know what u r talking about for sure.
(Sorry for my English I'm latinamerican)
Bye

Answer 4

hi!

- find a pleasurable time pass, hobby or employment. try to find a good friend and share your worries with them.

In my case, the home environment makes thing worst from the moment I get up from Bed. I try to run away with the simplest excuse and it does not solve the issue.

Try the trick of ignoring the issue/people which get you depressed. I tried counselling / drugs . It was a waste of money and cannot afford.drugs become addictive.

there are whole lot of websites on treating depresssion. read it for the time pass sake.

An alternate, is to watch the comical movies and having a hearty laugh.I find that I tend to forget my worries

Is is like seeing your palm yourself. You are the reason for the problem.You need to find a solution. change your attitude. the world does not change.

Sorry, If I have bored. I thought I found a person who has similar issues

Answer 5

Okay, I take it that you're a minor... and unfortunately that makes it tricky. But, this will only escalate if it is left untreated, so you may not be able to wait for your mom to come out of denial.

If you go to your school nurse, a teacher or any such person of authority, they are required by law to report your threats to harm yourself to the state (the fact that you already harm yourself should give this a much greater sense or urgency) A social worker will then be assigned to you to see to it that you're being properly helped.

Also, if you go to a hospital without your mother and show them the self-inflicted wounds, they are required to treat you under implied consent laws until a parent can be reached, and if you have made a threat to harm yourself, they will most likely admit you with or without parental consent to save your life.

These are all short term fixes, however. But doctors and social workers will have to try to change your mothers mind, she's clearly not listening to you.
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Answer 6

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

Answer 7

That is a shame that your mother doesn't believe that depression is a disease. Unfortunately, it is and can be very awful without the proper medication. I suggest that you talk to someone within your church, school, youth group, social group that might be able to help you get to the doctor asap, explain to the doctor how your mother feels and that she won't let you go to therapy, they may be able to speak with her about this more to try to change her mind about the way she looks a depression.

Answer 8

either seek help on your own at the health department, get a trusted friend or relative to take you to a doctor, or do your best to take care of yourself. As hard as it is, think positive. Try and remind yourself of the future you have ahead of you. Spend time with people who care about you, lift you up and make you laugh. Get a pet, the love my dog gives me helped me out of depression. Excercise, eat healthy and sleep plenty, your body cannot function right if you don';t take care of it. Pray- God is more powerful than any medicine or doctor, and He loves you. He wants to bless you, just ask for Him to give you strength and peace. I hope everything gets much better for you soon, I know how hard it can be to go through life feeling that way

Answer 9

I had a similar problem. The answer is easy, it took me ages to figure out, and you won't believe how silly it is!
Most people think that music is good for the soul and the peace of mind. Well, it is, but only during listening. What happens actually is that when you're listening to music, various parts of your brain work as if they were synchronized with it, so you feel nice as long as it lasts; and when you stop listening for any reason, your brain starts loosing that pattern slawly until you find yourself messed up and confused.
Try not listening to music for a week and see how amazing its going to turn out!

Good luck :)

Answer 10

Alright

Two ideas in case of temptation-

RUBBER BANDS: Snap them on your wrist instead
ICED WATER: Numb or freeze your hands instead

Ways To Let Out Your Depression-
(i have depression too)

MUSIC- when I'm feeling sad I listen to music to keep my mind off of things and sometimes take a nap.

WRITING- I write the best when I'm feeling the emotion I want to express I write a lot of dark poetry because I only write when I'm stressed. It really helps to write everything you're feeling. You can try writing stories, lyrics, or poems

EXERCISES- Maybe you exercises to get any anger, sadness out of your mind.

WALKING- When things are really tough just take a long walk. I'm only 5 mins away from a lake, I like to just walk and think there.

PETS- Keep yourself entertained or busy but washing or playing with any pets.

ART- (my fav.) Express EVERYTHING through drawing or any form of art. Instead of cutting yourself draw it on paper. Try to do details in your drawing by the time you're done the temptation will be gone.


As for you mom: Maybe google depression and show here that you have all the symptoms and that you'd be a much happier person once on medication.


I hope thing turn out okay.
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