is it better to have a boyfriend that isn't a christian, and lives a negative life, and try to help him get straightened out, or just let go of him and go for another boy that likes you, and is a good christian and has the same values and faith as you...?
2007-07-22 16:53:11 · 12 answers · asked by ---- 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I've never met a woman who didn't think they couldn't straighten out their mate. I also have never met a woman who did.
2007-07-22 16:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Fish <>< 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first guy said it right. People can change, however since you have options...(he is still just a boyfriend)... RUN! How do you know that he won't drag you into his kind of life. Can you live with that? Can you live with the fact that he may never change? Or like a man I know - pretend - until he has you then revert back to his real self.
This is what I tell girls that I talk to: Never date anyone that you wouldn't want to be the father of your kids, and never date anyone who doesn't love Your Father as much or more than you do. It is hard enough to make a relationship/ marriage work in nowadays society, even when two people believe alike. It is next to impossible when one person doesn't believe, and/or wants you to let go of or compromise your values...
Listen to Gods leading, and remember, what He is saying will always line up with the Bible. Sometimes we want Him to say that our desires are ok with Him, when He has the bigger picture in mind, and wants the best for us.
2007-07-22 17:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by savannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first choice is what some Christians call "missionary dating." My youth pastor and parents taught me that dating is what leads to marriage (i.e. you won't marry anyone that you don't date). Be friends with the guy, but do NOT date him. Many of my friends have walked this road, and the differences between you will grow wider, it doesn't lead to him getting better or any kind of happy ending. Go for the 2nd choice - the Christian guy will be able to share your faith and your standards. Read 2 Cor. 6:14.
2007-07-22 17:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats kinda like my subject... My boyfriend isn't a Christian, yet i'm and that i do have an lively faith. What i might advise: ask him what he thinks. If he exchange into raised in a Christian family members he might understand. permit him understand you would be dragging him alongside to church each so often ;) and attempt to no longer do what all and sundry else tells you in simple terms because of the fact they permit you recognize to. when I first started going out, my acquaintances quickly heard those style of nasty rumours approximately my boyfriend, like he'd cheated and easily have been given with women to work out how far he ought to bypass, yet they werent real and we've been going out for 6 months now :) So, in end, have an extremely stable pray approximately it :) Weigh up the professionals (like marrying the guy you adore) and cons (no longer having the ability to proportion you faith with the affection of your existence) of staying with him. desire you're making the properly suited selection, i would be praying for you :) <3
2016-09-30 12:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with somebody so that you can "fix them" is so incredibly condescending and rude of you. Who says he wants to be "fixed?" What a vindictive, controlling attitude you have.
Maybe he's happy not being Christian. Maybe he doesn't think he has a negative life. Who are you to judge?
If you judge people that quickly and on things that are so meaningless, you're not really ready to be dating. Not only that, but you're not a real Christian.
My boyfriend and I have different religious views, but that doesn't make one of us right and the other one wrong. We're both right, because our beliefs fit our personalities.
Relationships are about compromise. You're not always right.
2007-07-22 16:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a sad thing to say, but you can't change someone who chooses to lead a negative lifestyle. He's more likely to change if he sees he can't be with you until he cleans up his act, than if he thinks he can be with you if he sweet-talks you a little. Go for a Christian guy every time. He'll help you on your way to God, and you can help him on his way too. The other guy will only drag you into trouble with him, despite your best efforts to help him.
2007-07-22 17:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by csbp029 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him go. the bible does speak agains close relationships with unbelievers like somebody said before me. And think about it. its like when a woman gets married with someone and says " theyre going to change" but they dont. Its more likely that they will pull you in eventually. theres alot of temptation that they can put infront of you. Its better to wait for someone who is living for God like you.
2007-07-22 17:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by hellooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bible does teach you only date christains. maybe the other guy is going to get u in trouble. its really hard to change a guy. maybe just be friends with him. and show him how to live a pure life.
1Ti 4:12
Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
2007-07-22 17:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go because you might wind up pulling yourself down while trying to lift him up.
Go with the one that likes you and shares your beleifs and values, cuz he'll make you stronger, the other will make you weaker.
2007-07-26 08:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by standintherain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Mormon we have a rule that you have to be 16 year of age to date does not mean you can't flirt.
2007-07-22 17:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by pulotu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋