I have to pay for what I did???

Question

I cheated on my boyfriend when i was a crazy teenager and i also had a crazy night with a married man. Will karma get back at me??? will i have to pay for what i did??? what if right now im good??

Answer 1

Karma is a very spiritual philosophy. If you believe Karma exists then you have to believe in a spiritual world governing us all and providing justice... in which case you must also believe in morality. If you were moral you wouldnt have done any of that in the first place. Being the selfish, hedonistic individual that you are, you dont believe in karma... because that would inconvenience -you-


Do you acknowledge the fact that you did bad things? Do you regret? Do you feel shame? Most people only feel regret when they suffer as a consequence, and not before... most people feel shame only when other people judge them, not when they judge themselves. Which are you?

Answer 2

karma is a human invention. There are people that do very bad things all their life and nothing ever happens to them. If your boyfriend or husband cheat on you then it will be because he decides to and not because some mysterious force force him to do it so that you would pay up for some mishap in your past.

Note that the opposite is also true. There are very good people that have bad things happen to them. Where is Karma in all of this. All KArma is is a way for people to feel better about the bad things that happen to them because they belive that the person who did them wrong will pay in the future. What really happens is that the persons behavior gets them in trouble not some mysterious force. For example if you steal then at some point you will go to jail. Is it Karma or is it the justice system? Some people steal something when they where young and never got caught and nothing bad will ever happen to them. Bad things happen to both good people and bad people and it may not be attributed to the actions in their past. That is just the way life is.

The thing is that if you are a bastard your actions may come back at you because its an odds thing. At some point someone will not put up with it and thats when you'll get it. Also, if you where mean to others in the time of need they won't help you. Anyways, there is no karma as you understand it. It is simple sociology. You threat people with respect then you may get some respect back. You don't and they won't either. No secrets there.

Answer 3

THE LAW OF KARMA

Once an action is done, the result is never lost.
You will harvest your own result from the harm you have caused others.
What is done in secret is always brought into the open.
Similarly as above, things do not just disappear into nothing. Your result it is usually done by someone who has no idea of the harm you've caused.

WHAT DECIDES THE SEVERITY OF THE RESULTS?

The severity of the results of our actions depends on various factors:

1. Our intention or motivation:
the intention is the most important aspect by far,
as karma is mainly connected to the intention of the action, be it positive or negative
be it to deceive or control, be it to manipulate or betray; all of these things produce negative karma upon you.

2. The nature of the action:
obviously, gossiping is no less severe than killing. You can kill one's character or hurt them, just by words.

3. The actual deed:
whether you do or say something in self-defense or sadistically torture
verbally or nonverbally, it is of no matter - what is done in secret is always brought into the open -
the harm does not make a difference.

4. The basis or object:
it does not make a difference whether you harm our mother, an ant, or the character of another.

5. Repetition:
how often do you repeat the action, which reinforces the habit, and makes even the harmful deed feel less negative.

6. Doing the reverse:
if you behave negatively to others and never try to repent to them
and do them good, your consequences will be severe.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, yes, you will have to pay for what you did. Karma has it's way of coming around, even if you desperately try to clean the slate before it happens. It's alright though. Think of Karma as your parent. If you do something wrong, your parents do have to discipline you. Ironically the karma that usually comes around puts you on the other side of whatever you have done wrong, and you see what things feel like on the other side. Take what you learn, and don't repeat your mistakes. You will come out a better person in the end if you let yourself learn from your mistakes. Good luck ;-)

Answer 5

Sweetie ... let me explain ... See it works like this ... Everything you do in this life is your creation of your own self destiny. Whatever you do and when you do it whether good or bad, now or then ... will come back to bite you on the A** ... there's nothing you can do about it! ... This is life and this is the way that God intended for things to be and you'll have to just deal with it because this is reality! ... Even though you are good now, being a cheat and being dishonest with anyone is a sure sign that you still carry the characteristics of this societal norm within you and it can easily come again due to sin and the temptations thereof ... So with that being said, you will have to pay for whatever you've done regardless of whether you are good or bad in this life. In the Bible it clearly says, "that you will reap what you sough" and there's nothing that's ever going to change that factor. But what you can do though while you're good now is to start respecting yourself, start loving yourself, and stop being a cheap woman about how you do things and how you carry yourself ... nothing in this life is worth the embarrassment of being a loose woman and then expect nothing to happen to yourself later on for the hurt and/or the pain that you may have caused someone else. Continue to be good, but start to learn to pray and to accept your wrongs for your rights and strive forward onward to inner peace within yourself ... and for God's sake ... don't hurt anyone else ... because the more you do, the more demons you bring into your life ... now that's Karma! ... Don't play with it!

Much Love
Peace & Happiness

Answer 6

It isn't about karma haunting you, but your guilt feelings about something that you did which haunts you now, and in that case, you will create karma which you try to run away from!!
Unless you understand why you had such need to betray your boyfriend at the time and accept that, you can't even talk to your boyfriend in regards to this event and place it to rest!
Sometimes unless you make such a mistake, you do not learn, and obviously you seem to have learned from it or perhaps the fear of losing him may have evoked this now. Perhaps your feelings for him at the time where not strong enough at the time and you felt the need to experiment.
Sometimes it is not best to expose such mistakes to the person involved, for it can work either way. If you have learned to accept yourself for those mistakes or learning experiences, your guild may resolve. Place all your love on him now and learn to respect your bond which takes years to form and for the qualities you have learned to love in him and focus on that instead, and that should make it right!
Everyone makes mistakes at young age which they come to regret as they value their partner more and their relationship, so learn to accept yourself in the now and stop beating yourself!!

Answer 7

Nah, karma has nothing to do with it. Karma is only superstition. But yeah there are consequences tof sin. If we don't repent to God and turn from our sins.

Amd, yeah it will only hurt you if you keep doing it.

It's mostly about your heart attitude, devotion, and your boundaries.
Which some you probably learned from your parents and/or others.

You have established a weakness in you. Once you cross a forbidden boundary, you create an open door to temptation and sin and are likely to do it again unless you repent of it to God, urn from it in your heart, willingly, consciously, whole-heartedly choosing to, and burn the bridges and don't look back.

It's about devotion and faihfulness. And if you do noy know God, and are not firstly totally devoted in heart to Him, you will probably do it again.

There is no security whatsoever in sex outside of marriage!

If you don't wait till marriage it will only hurt you.

You say right now you are good. Which means that there is still an open door. "Right now", at the moment, until temptation comes again. At the moment you can't say it will NEVER happen again, cause you are weak. Cause you have not decided, committed in your heart to be faithful. Thus, you are still unfaithful in heart, still guilty. Your devotions still blowing in the wind. Nothing secure.

Regardless of whoever did you wrong, betrayed you, etc, or what your parents did, you have to determine for your own self what your boundaries are and will be, and whether you will be faithful or not. Until you marry and say "I DO" to someone, you have to kinda be married to God, Him being your 1st love, and be devoted to Him, and be faithful to Him alone. If you are faithful to Him, you will be faithful to everyone else.

And, you are to be faithful to Him, regardless of what anyone else does. If someone is unfaithful to you, or has in the past, you are still accountable for your OWN faithfulness. You will only be judged for YOU and all your actions and sins, not for anyone elses. You cannot use anyone else as your excuse. Only you control your own devotions and actions.

Love is a choice.


Sex outside of marriage will mess you up. Your heart.
And causes devided devotions and conflict of interests.

Love is a choice.
You get what you choose.
Choose well.

Answer 8

God will forgive you. You need the sacrament of penace. Some day you may go to purgatory though. You should not be doing you know what with your boyfriend either.

Also I think the poster above is your boyfriend so you might be having some bad karma for awhile.

Answer 9

i'm sure karma got back to you when your i'm guessing ex found out and when the married man's wife found out. try to keep up the good deeds before you come across as a slut (even though you may not think you are others might)

Answer 10

Dont even worry about it everyone makes mistakes and most of us have cheated at least once the best thing is to just try to do the rigth thing next time stay faithfull and dont mess with married men