With out sexual intentions. This happened to me in school, my guy friends knew that I was married, but they still kept their friendships with me. However my husband don't like guys aproach me since he told me all they want is sex.
I want to prove my husband wrong by posting this question on Yahoo
2007-07-22 16:44:59 · 14 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have some friends that are girls that are married. I like them they are nice and funny and good people. I am not out looking to sleep with them or anything! I mean they are married, so why would I wast my time trying to flirt and get with a married woman. That's like beating you head against a wall, it's pointless. Yes I have approached women without sexual intentions before, I am sure every man has, heck I am sure every woman has. Know do not get me wrong there are some men out there that don't care if a woman is married or not, they just want to get with her. The same is true about some women, I have seen women specifically go after a man that they knew was married. So to answer your question, yes. If she seemed nice and we were doing something that we had in common like if I had a kid and I saw a mother waiting for her kid yes, I would talk to her and say hi and get to know her. There is nothing wrong with that. I get the feeling that your husband has some jealousy issues and low self esteem.
2007-07-22 17:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I hope that your husband is not the jealous type. That could imply that either something is wrong with your relationship, or else he is really insecure. Maybe you need to find out why he doesn't trust YOU. After all, it doesn't matter if those other guys have bad intent or good intent, the real issue is whether your husband trusts YOU to do the right thing irregardless.
But to answer your question, some young guys might have bad intent, since many of them probably think that having sex with a married woman is a good way to get no-strings sex.
On the other hand, if I'm bored, I'll talk to anyone who happens to be around -- male or female, married or single. I'm not trying to hit on anyone, I'm just trying to kill time. And sometimes I'm speaking to someone just to get directions to the toilet -- nothing else. And some of these guys might not have realized when they first approached you that you were married, but they don't want to be rude and just walk away after they see your ring, because that would be awkward. So they keep talking just to be polite (has happened to me -- oops). So it depends on the guy.
And some guys, just for the heck of it, will practice their approach skills on married women just to get over their fear of talking to strangers (confidence building exercise) so that they can hit on single women later on (no joke -- this is how some guys get over their fear of rejection since they don't really care if a married woman speaks to them or not -- they have nothing to lose).
So it depends on the guy, and the situation.
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I almost forgot; some guys will talk to a hot girl, even if she is married, just to make themselves feel popular. They are not looking for sex, just affirmation in the form of attention (and they might be trying to get some other girl jealous).
2007-07-22 17:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know you asked for men's opinions on this, but I would like to comment as well. I have been the type where almost all my close friends have been predominantly men rather than women. I have just always just gotten along better with men than women before and after marriage. My husband is similar where he has more female friends than male. This has never roused an issue in our house, even if we are talking to our friends about their current relationship problems or what not. I do not believe that sex is the only or the predominant motivating factor for these relationships. We both have many long time friends that neither of us would think of trying to restrict or prevent the establishing of new friends based soley on their sex.
2007-07-24 06:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Pia L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there are two trains of thought on this. Some men think you can not be friends with a women, and some know that you can. It depends on the individual and how they perceive women. Some men thing womens only or most valuable commodity is sex, other men enjoy the company, and true friendship without having alterior motives. The latter is a greater respect for women.
Secondly, I think your husband should allow you the freedom to choose your friends, without feeling threatened.. there should be trust between you, and you for having written this question, indicate you love your husband and are devoted to him.
Lastly, though = I would be sensitive to my husbands insecurities, but know that this is not your problem rather his.
I would reassure him, of my love quite often, and let him know how special he is to me.
2007-07-22 16:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An approach can be about anything...what if I needed the time and left my cell phone at home? what if I needed to know some info on something in my environment I wasn't too sure about. I've approached married women before that's nothing. Now, when it comes to approaching them for the sole purpose of a conversation...um...no. I respect that they're in a relationship.
2007-07-22 16:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Class 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 12:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect Marriage. Any resnoable human being should. I approach married womans to be freinds, nothing more. Imagine the guilt one would have if they knew they broke apart a marrige.
2007-07-22 16:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would approach a married woman, but not for sex or a relationship; I can respect that she already has one.
2007-07-22 16:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry!!! but as u know that trouth is always bitter.........it is only 1% friendship but 99% the goal is sex......n that's it..
2007-07-22 22:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Mishra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, They probably only want sex. Your hubby is right!
2007-07-22 16:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by judy06 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋