My 18 months old dont listen to me when i teach him?

Question

Hi,

My son soon going to be 19 months , he knows only some part of his body parts , im trying hardly to teach him shapes , colors , alphabets but he is not listening to me , he is a very active kid and How do i teach him all that . My son he loves to read book by himself , if i read to him he will pull the book and bite it . So that's the reason i let him see / read the book :) .

What toys will be useful in teaching shapes/colors and also alphabtes . Im a stay at home mom , feel sad that im not able to teach him .

Someone pls advice me .

Thanks

Answer 1

You must be kidding!18 month old and you want to teach him what they need to know only before entering kindergarten????
Play with him,read to him,show him the world-explore together and leave this teaching stuff for a later period in his life.He will be interested and able to learn quickly, when he will be ready for it(usually 3-4 years old).

Answer 2

You are teaching him every day that you sit with him and play with him. In everything that you do, you teach him. Don't feel sad because he's not sitting and listening to you and learning. I can guarantee you that he IS learning. It might not be in a manner YOU recognize as learning, but he IS learning.

The things you are trying to force him to learn are things that most children don't have down yet by the time they are in preschool, sometimes even kindergarten. Just give him the toys and let him learn what to do with them on his own. And once in a while, if he wants something he can't get to on his own and you need to get it for him, as you are handing it to him tell him what it is. Say what it is as you get it, say what it is as you hand it to him. That's the best type of teaching you can do. Don't FORCE him to repeat it back to you.

And remember, too, that at 19 months, they will not sit still long enough for you to read two sentences, let alone a book. Just give him playbooks and let him experience on his own. At this age, it's more about textures, cause and effect.

Answer 3

The number one thing I would suggest to you would be to get some child development books. I have never met an 18 month old who wasn't active and all over the place. At that age, they are into exploring and learning about the world through their senses. Don't even worry about letters, numbers, etc. until they show an interest in learning (like 3ish). Your little one just needs to be active to learn things on his own. Give him some independence. Keep reading and talking to him about things. Instead of making him respond to you, what you should be doing is responding to him. Let him look at books to his hearts content. Make sure they are nontoxic of course : ) It sounds like he is going through the biting stage too. Talk to him about the toys he is playing with, the books he is looking at etc.

It's also important to know when to be quiet and just let him be. Kids will let you know what they need. Just learn to listen to him. And eventually he will start picking up on what you are saying to him about colors etc. Just please don't stress out about it.

If you are planning on enrolling him in preschool, then think about it this way. You don't want him to know everything when he gets there or he will be too bored with school. Also remember he is a boy. Boys will almost always have trouble sitting still, at least until later in grade school.

I highly suggest enrolling with Parents As Teachers through your local school system. If you can't find the number in the phone book, just call the elementary school. They will point you in the right direction. P.A.T. are excellent in general; they help you to understand what to expect from your child developmentally. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 4

We just describe and count objects in every day life. If we are playing with a ball we will say "Ooh what a pretty red, round ball"...he loves tractors and trucks so we say "Let's roll the yellow truck down the hallway" or whatever. We count his fingers, eyes, ears, and toes while playing, etc. We draw letters or write his name or draw different emotions "happy face", "sad face", on the magnetic drawing board and he erases them and we write something else. If he is looking at a book we ask him to point out objects in the pictures "I see a blue bird, where is the bird".

No need for "formal" teaching at this age, they are absorbing the information just by spending time with you if you keep up the chatter. Also, they are still learning basic concepts such as names for things, expecting them to understand adjectives along with the nouns is too much, in my opinion. Doesn't mean I don't use them, but if he gets "ball" that is more important than "red" ball or "round" ball. If he gets "eye" that is more important that "blue" eyes.

Answer 5

You are doing too much. What do you do now???
Count concrete objects with him- climbing stairs, counting out cookies, toys, etc.

Teach him his name and what it looks like. You could also label things in his room- door, bookshelf, bed, dresser, blocks, truck, etc.

Read, read, read.

You can teach him his colors now- start with green, red, and blue. Do one color at a time. I taught our son using M&M's- I have a green one- can you find a green one like mommy's? Etc.

It's too soon for the alphabet and numbers.

Shapes- start with the circle and move to the square and triangle. When he is 2, you can add the others.

Make it short- and make it fun!

Good job doing all this- you are doing a good job- just too much for his little mind right now.

Answer 6

He's just not ready. Boys sometimes take a little longer. Please don't ever compare your child to other children, and don't let other mothers make you feel bad. I always say, when they get to Kindergarten they start with the letter A, and end with the letter Z. If your child goes in knowing it all, he still has to sit and watch while the others learn it. He will be fine.

Answer 7

He is still young. He has plenty of time to learn. If you push him to hard, then he will push in the other direction and not learn anything.

I think the best thing you could use with your son is time. Also, don't expect that much from him.

Answer 8

Uhhhh, he's 18 months. It's not that big of a deal for him not to know all that stuff. How much do you really expect the average 18 month old to know. If you force this stuff on him, it will make him hate learning - and it will backfire on you later on in his life.

Answer 9

He isn't listening because he is not developmentally ready to learn the concepts you are trying to teach him. Learn something about developmental readiness so you won't sour him on learning by pushing him to do something he isn't ready to learn.

Answer 10

Wait until he get older. (sorry) Just don't try to push to hard at this point. Whatever you do, try to make it fun for the kid.