I've been friends with this girl for a long time, she knows how I feel but doesn't want to ruin the friendship.
2007-07-22 16:34:04 · 8 answers · asked by Lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a loser who has been there more times then I care to count there is only one option, moving on.
Let me talk to you like a man, she is lying to you. Women far more than men are willing to throw away a friendship if she meets a guy she thinks is 'the one.'
The whole "friendship" b*llship is just her way of saying you are not boyfriend material.
The best thing you can do is move on and try to find some other girl or girls. 1st that is the only way you can get this girl to change her view of you, she has to see that you are a catch and other women want you. Girls get jealous when their "safe guy friend" starts spending all his time with another girl, then all of a sudden they realize he is actually worth dating. Even if that does not happen here, at least you'll be with another girl.
2007-07-22 16:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, if you are in the friend zone, then you might as well give up and get on with your life. As long as you keep pursuing her, then she will keep running away.
If you get on with your life, and start dating other girls, then there is a slim chance that she might realize that she has something to lose and she will come after you. If she doesn't, well, you need to find someone else to date so that you can get on with your life.
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2007-07-22 23:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, loser. :) just kidding
you're out of luck, man. pretty much. very small odds of success once you're in this situation. if she sees you as a friend, she's not going to see you as a bf/lover. that rarely changes. that's just how it is.
so stop wasting your time and try with another girl. you can remain friends with this chick if you want, but focus on pursuing other women and *not* her. in fact, if the friend *sees* you with other women, that may be one of the few things that could change her mind about you. guys who have women get more women cuz women go where the other women are.
2007-07-22 23:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by a c 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i understand... what i say is if fate has it to be then it well happen eventually. every choice you make in my opinion changes or alters your destiny. but all you need to keep in mind is that there is someone out there for you. take a deep breath... she didn't fully reject you, she merely said the friendship is more important. stick with her i know you can't change her mind or your love for her but the friend zone as you call it isn't all that bad. so keep your head held high and be her friend. one day she'll need you for something and you'll be there for her to turn to.
2007-07-22 23:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows how you feel and doesn't want to pursue anything, then I'd say move on and find other women to date rather than waste your time pining after a girl who's not interested. As my friend said "you can love a telephone pole all you want, it'll never love you back".
2007-07-22 23:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is beg a girl for it. That's sad. And trust me, she doesn't even want to be your friend...unless it's convenient to her. Drop this loser chick and find yourself respect.
2007-07-22 23:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her and go date ten other girls.
Now go read "The Game" by Neil Strauss.
2007-07-22 23:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u can't get her if she's already made up her mind about ur friendship
2007-07-22 23:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by lovelylady7950 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋