im 14 nd so is mi boyfriend we have been on nd off for a year nd hes friends r sayin tht we needa hav sex but i dont want to bcuz i wana wait until im married wat do i do?
do i break up wait him?
or do i stay wit him nd hav sex even though i dont want to?
2007-07-22 15:48:06 · 22 answers · asked by BEBA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't do it. I had the same problem when I was 15. My boyfriend said if I didn't he was going to break up with me. So I got on birth control and I did everything he wanted, and he ended up cheating on me anyway. Not only that, but when my parents found out, they made me move to my aunts house in another state. So my boyfriend pushed me to have sex, then he cheated on me, and then I had to move away and spend the rest of my high school years without my best friends!! I totally regret it! (not only that, but highschool boys are REALLY bad at sex). Now that I am married, sex is sooo special and sooo much better! Wait, if not until marriage, definitely wait until college.
Also, as it turns out, my moms boyfriend pressured her too in highschool, thats how she ended up getting pregnant with me. Can you imagine being a mom at 15 years old? Its not fair to you and it's not fair to your child.
2007-07-22 16:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by sprikles_777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is very important and not something to be rushed into, especially if it is not something you are comfortable doing just yet. If you believe that waiting until you are married is what you want to do, you should not allow someone else to pressure you into compromising those values. If he does pressure you, than he is not worthy of that special gift you can only give once. In addition to sex being an extremely special experience between two people, it can also have several consequences that you are not ready to deal with (STDs, pregnancy, and the possible social label of a "whore"). Basically, you can only lose your virginity once, and you are right in taking time to think about this. Please talk with an adult you are close to that you consider trustworthy even if you think they may not be too open to your plans. They might surprise you and have some valuable insight for your predicament.
2007-07-22 16:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he really loves you he will honor and understand your decision. That you just aren't ready to have sex . Do not have sex if you aren't ready cuz lots of times when you have sex that young the boys have sex with you then afterward they dump you . If you had sex now it's doubtful you'd stay together til you get married , I ent through a similiar situation and after we had sex i ended up getting dumped it was not fun and i felt really down on myself cuz i wanted to wait til we got married. I have regrets now but, I can't undo what's been done and i will always wish i'd waited , so please make him wait it's the right thing to do!
2007-07-22 15:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Emily R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14's a bit too young, and you shouldn't have sex with someone if you don't feel ready. Especially not if the main reason is "because his friends think he should". Sex should happen between two mature people who care about each other, not because of peer pressure.
2007-07-22 16:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a girl who thinks very mature dump this guy
because if you have sex he will eventually dump you
because that is all he wants now to make himself feel like a man or to brag to his friends dont stoop to his level wait untill marriage you will be happier with your self dont waiste your time on him
you are better than that.
2007-07-22 15:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by youngheart_51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let any guy force you to do something you don't want to do. Does he know you don't want to? Have you told him? His friends can say what they want, but do you really want to risk getting pregnant at the age of 14? Ask yourself questions, talk to him about it. I'm not going to tell you to dump him, and I'm not going to tell you to keep him. Talk to him about it and do what you feel is RIGHT in the end.
2007-07-22 15:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to until your married. He should respect your decision, but if sex is something he seriously must have then you two simply aren't going to work out.
2007-07-22 15:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Number 74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your boyfriend is kinda sick! He is 14 and wants sex??? When I was 14 I started looking at Penthouse :) Seriously do not lose your virginity to this loser. Lose it with your future husband.
2007-07-22 15:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew Milano 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to wait to get married then wait until you get married but that doesn't mean just break up with him unless all he wan'ts you for is to have sex then ya you don't need to be with him
2007-07-22 15:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy11311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stick to your convictions and don't have sex at 14. I admire you for wanting to wait until you're married/
If your bf gets mad, let him. If he really cares about you, he'll come back around.
And I hope you really don't spell as poorly as you did in your question.!
2007-07-22 15:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by susandiane311 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋