would you trust the person
or would you try harder to figure them out?
2007-07-22 15:40:51 · 4 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not entirely sure what you mean by "open up." Do you mean tell you all there is to know about them? Just because they want to keep some things private does not make them untrustworthy -- just secretive. I don't think you necessarily have to "try harder" to figure them out. Just consider it is their nature to be a private person, and that is their right. Accept them just as they are, and do not try to change them. That is the sign of a true friend. If you can't accept that fact of life, then perhaps it is time for you to move on.
You sound a bit controlling to me. I think you want to know "all," just so you can throw it back at them in anger some time in the future. "Ammunition" in a way. I think your friend may be very wise indeed to "hold some things back." I do not see how it could possibly be construed that makes them untrustworthy.
2007-07-29 15:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's difficult for a relationship, whether platonic or romantic, to really grow if the parties don't really open up. Sharing from both parties helps build the trust. It also helps them to know more about each other, find out more reasons why one is so private, and hopefully helps the other to make that person feel more confident and comfortable.
It doesn't mean though that this person is not trustworthy if he/she doesn't open up. On the other hand, it's really hard to truly know without actually "knowing" that person.
I guess try to figure out harder and find ways to help that person feel safe about sharing.
2007-07-22 16:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by smiley_meeh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just relax and let nature take its course. Some people are not open about themselves. Friends, not lovers, do not share every little thing.
Laugh - I did not know source of hubby's nickname until after 35 years of marrige. Why? Got me.
2007-07-22 15:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't trust that you will keep the things that they tell you to yourself. you have to prove that you can be trusted.
2007-07-22 15:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Line Straddler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋