Date on Tuesday...Should I tell him?

Question

I have a date on Tuesday with my friends cousin whom i've never met before. Anyways , we've been talking a lot and seem to get along great.I only have problem, I'm wouldn't consider myself very fat , but I tend to be self concious with my size.( I wear an 8 or 10) Its a problem i've always had and something I'm trying to work on. Anyways back to my question , I feel like I need to warn him or something that i'm not super stick thin, he's seen lots of pictures of my face and only 1 or 2 of my body, which you cant see much in anways. Should I not say anything and see how it goes, or should I let him know in advance so hes not expecting something different? I know I'll probably get some negative answers about my weight, but thats the price you pay for using the internet. But thanks in advance for your advice!

Answer 1

If this guy doesn't like you because of your size then you shouldn't be dating him anyways. I don't think a size 8 makes you fat at all. Maybe a little thick, but in a good way. The kind that guys usually like. You have nothing to explain to him. I'm sure he's not perfect either. Noone is.

Answer 2

Relax, it's a date. Rest, be healthy and look your best. Then just relax, be yourself and enjoy your evening. Something you can't do if you are worried about how you look.
If you click with this man, and the two of you decide you'd like to see one another again, your being a size 10 or 12 or 2 or 20 isn't going to matter.
I know we all notice people with physical beauty and divine proportion but if you look around you, most of us don't have physical perfection. It's a date...have fun, enjoy your activities, make great conversation, then whether it goes anywhere or not, at least it was an evening spent having a good time and not just an occasion to feel self concious.
And NO don't warn him, it's a date, not an interview with a modeling agency.

Answer 3

I think you should keep quiet about your weight for two reasons. One, since this is your friends cousin, she/he has probably talked to the cousin about you already, and if she thought your weight was a problem, she probably would have told him. So there, one, he probably knows, and then Second, if you say something about your weight, it will make you come across as unconfident, and that will more negatively impact his first impression. You are fabolous, own it! If you walk around like you are the best, people will see you that way! Plus, if he really is that snobby to not like you because of being a size 10, he's not right for you anyway, so no big deal. Lots of luck! And be confident!! :))

Answer 4

the only reason I could see someone making fun of you because of your size is because you lack self-confidence. Honey, I was mad cause I used to be a 3...half a year later a 5...now I feel more comfortable in size 7 pants. But you want to know what. I still get attention from guys and I think its because not every guy like a stick girl, they like curves. But also when I feel confident about myself, hell no one can bring me down. You need some of that. I wouldn't say anything to him about your size...that will make it more awkward for him. If anything, he may not be attracted to you, and you can still be friends this way. But honestly, go for it. Dress all up so you look gorgeous and confortable. Just be yourself. Besides if he doesn't want to see you again after he sees what size he is, not only is he a selfish arrogant prick, but he's just looking for a piece of a$$...you guys already clicked with your personalities right, condsidering he's planning on meeting up with you Tuesday. Go for it. What do you have to loose? You will have an amazing time. I dont think that your friend would set you up with someone that would hurt you and judge you for your size.

Have fun!

Answer 5

Heck no. Hon, an 8-10 is totally normal! And if he's going to pitch a fit over that, he's definitely not worth having. Please don't think you have to be a size 2 to be attractive. Don't say anything ahead of time because that just shows that you're super upset over your weight and, most importantly, not very confident in yourself. Guys look for that confidence, and if you think you're beautiful, no matter if you're an 8 or 18, you are.

Answer 6

sometimes i think it's better if a person decides to go out on dates when they have not seen the other,but that's only if they have done what you two have done.you got to know things about one another first.sometimes people tend to misjudge others by their looks.they can not only pass up a great person but they can end up being alone.well,if he saw a picture of you and apparently he has taken some kind of interest in you.afterall,he still wants to go out!i think you should go!and please don't be so worried about your weight,you ever heard that only dogs want bones?well i say that b/c i am not a skinny minniie either!i love my size!just see how it goes,maybe he .likes meat on bones!if not then the hell with him!

Answer 7

let it alone. if you start apologizing for your weight right away, you're going to come off as insecure.( i hate to say but, you kind of are.) no one wants to feel like they have to boost the ego of their new date. an 8-10 is great. guys i know, even my son, don't like stick thin at all. those girls look emaciated. this is another time when a girl has fallen for the media hype of what a woman should look like. don't believe everything you see and be happy with yourself.

Answer 8

I wouldn't tell him (and you're normal size in my opinion). If he really cares THAT much, he should ask. Which would be really rude of him I think... Anyway, don't say anything, if he cares that much, then he's probably not worth the time.

Answer 9

no don't bring it up just let life take its own way! If its meant to be it will work out-- if not it wont-- and if he has a problem with your weight hes too shallow for a women like you anyway!

Answer 10

he's not going to care. size 8 or 10 isn't fat at all. you have nothing to worry about