Obviously we ALL have things that have shaped who we are....BUT....have you sworn to do things different than your parents did with you, or are you happy to keep it going and live how they did????
2007-07-22 14:45:44 · 24 answers · asked by Michelle o 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Do you ever find yourself saying THE SAME THINGS your parents did and think....OH MY GOD!!!!....i`me turning into them!!!!
2007-07-22 14:52:53 · update #1
It obviously must have an affect but it's good if we keep the postive aspects of our upbringing & discard the negative. I've had a good upbringing & I thank my parents for that.
We all make mistakes, our parents did & we will also. That's life
2007-07-24 01:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question ...I had a good upbringing but it maybe could have been better, although in saying this it has in a way, like you say shaped how I am today, I am confident, strong, and opinionated, I'm not afraid to tell others how I feel and in return I expected others to be the same with me However, I am completely different with my children to how my mother was with me and I always make a conscious effort to not do things they same way she had done with me. So in answer to your question I think that we all take parts of what we have experienced and we then add to them in a way that we, now, as adults see as being an appropriate way for us to deal or handle something it doesn't mean that it is the wrong way its just a way that makes us more comfortable with who we are.
2007-07-22 21:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...I am not going to go into my childhood. But lets just say that i will not raise my children the same way as I was raised in any way, shape, or form. I think my upbringing scared the heck out of me to not be like my parents. Sometimes I do end up saying some of the same things as they use to though...like because I am your mom that's why and because I told you to.....common stuff. Only by God's grace was I able to be the Mom I am today. I am the black sheep in my family. They are all (lets just say very negetive) and I am not like that. Thank you God!
2007-07-22 22:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Love not hate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont necessarily think that my upbringing has really affected my life, but my dad has affected the way I am. He was always very controlling and played a lot of mind games, and he still does, even though im nineteen and have left home. I get nervous when I talk to him now and never stand up to him, which makes me feel like a weak person as I allow him to get away with being a bully still.
When I am older and hopefully have children I will make sure they are loved and cared for properly, the way my mum was with me and my brother. She loved us so much and she is my best friend, I feel blessed to have her. I will make sure they are bought up knowing they will always be good enough and I am proud of them.
2007-07-22 21:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always swore that I would do things different to my parents, but now I'm a parent too I find myself doing things the way they did and saying things that they said to me!
I think we are all doomed to turn into our parents whether we want to or not!! LOL!
2007-07-22 21:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does until you take responsibility and control for your own life.
"You are not responsible for the programming you picked up in childhood. However, as an adult, you are one hundred percent responsible for fixing it." ~Ken Keyes, Jr.
Isn't it scary when you suddenly realize you're acting just like your parents? That's not necessarily bad; still, the realization can be spooky.
In the case of religious beliefs, I hope your parents let you zero in on yours without interference.
2007-07-22 21:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by Seeker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the the same respect for your parents as I have you"d never even ask the question. Of course my upbringing
is relavent I owe so much to my Mum and Dad they will
influence me forever!
2007-07-23 00:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned a lot from my parents....I learned that when you get drunk you are a jerk and you yell and do terrible things to people and then forget and never apologise. I learned that to be rude to others is to have no friends, I learned that you do not have to impress everyone as it is impossible to do, basically, I do everything the opposite of what they do. I think that is learning.
2007-07-22 22:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by bck2liberty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were good people, but they were bigoted! I am not bigoted! I hated when they spoke the way they did! So I did not pass this on to my children, and they are not bigoted!
You have a brain! It is up to you to decide which of your parents' teachings you keep, and which you throw in the trash!
2007-07-24 15:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by jaded 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE! My parents raised me right, and I am very grateful for that. However, if a person's parents gave them a horrible example, they still have the choice to do what's right.
2007-07-22 21:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jennie t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋