why do kids disobey?

Question

why are kids so bratty? how do you make them not to disobey i do not know help me out here






struggler of 2 kids so bratty

Answer 1

For a proper way to behave, from early stages do's and dont's have to be imbibed in them. No child disobeys with a clear intention to break peace of others. Responding to the kids according to the needs, at an early age, requires a lot of time and care, which the present day mothers' don't have.
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Answer 2

Oh, how sad. If you call your children "bratty" to their faces, that would be probably the main reason they disobey. It's called a stigma. People believe what they are told about themselves. Call a kid "naughty" or "bratty" or "bad" , etc and you can almost guarantee that they will be.

The original reason they disobey is to explore their autonomy. They develop their own mind and use it to figure out what they want and try to get it. It's very natural. It's what we do with this that helps them grow and develop into responsible, respectable adults.

How to make them not disobey? Lots of different techniques out there. If my assumption (yes, I know what they say) is correct and you do somehow let your kids know that you think they're brats...I think your best approach is to begin to verbally reward (praise) the behavior that is good. This will work wonders with all ages. You didn't mention the ages, so it's hard to say. Good luck.

(edit) Also, consistency. Mean what you say and say what you mean. I sometimes see where parents sit and say 'no' repeatedly while allowing the child to continue the unacceptable behavior. Not good. Say no once and then get up and stop the behavior. You didn't say anything about doing this, but it's a pet peeve of mine so I mentioned it.

Answer 3

If they're over 3 and this is a problem, you've let it go on too long. You may need professional help. Yes, you may feel dumb. I did, taking my 4 year-old to a therapist. (My husband only went along out of respect for my position as his wife and the child's mother--he didn't really agree.) But, the therapist took 2 sessions, one with the child and one with us, to tell us what was wrong and that we could make things better. After 4 more sessions, I had a whole bag of tricks that I could use to make homelife and taking him out bearable.

The "consistency preachers" are absolutely right, but it may take going to an "expert" to give you the incentive you need to change what you've been doing.

As for why they disobey, it is human nature to want what we want when we want it. If it were up to you and there were no laws, wouldn't you just walk out of stores with your favorite clothes? Wouldn't you have sex with your spouse/lover whenever the mood struck you? Wouldn't you ignore all traffic speed signs? (Well, if you're American like me, you probably already do. )

Disobeying is natural. It's obedience that is amazing and has to be taught. Even dogs go to school.

Answer 4

If you tell your child to do something, you have to get up and make sure they do it. A lot of parents keep telling kids over and over and wonder why they don't listen or why they back talk. They know you don't mean business. After a few times of being strong and guiding them to the task, they learn you can't be "fooled". Also when you say "no"-when they ask again just tell them you already answered the question. They are trying to trick you into saying "yes" or "maybe" or "we'll see". Don't feel you need to explain why every time-Kids are really smart and the reason they usually are brats is because we aren't consistent in what we are doing. Your kids take advantage of that fact. Good luck

Answer 5

what you may want to try doing and you may have seen this on an episode of nanny 911. It is called 1-2-3 magic. What you do is if the child doesn't listen to what you ask him/her to do tell him that is 1 if he/she does it again say 2 or 3 by number 3 if they haven't listened put them in a timeout and make sure the timeout is in a place they don't like and make the timeout 1 minute for every year they are so if they are 3 make the timeout 3 minutes. I am currently working on it with my son and at times it works (if I am just here by myself)

Answer 6

Sweet Pea please don't call the babies bratty, I LOVE THE KIDS. I have 3 of my own and sometimes you have to sit down and either play with them or talk to them. Take out time find what they like and do not like. Listen to them. Conversate with them. Show them that mommy cares about everything that goes on with them. If you are not spending the necessary time with them it will show. They disobey because they don't know any better. It's up to the parents to find that door to open with them to learn how to control them. Yo have to spend TIME with them because kids look for LOVE in TIME spent not Money spent.

Answer 7

To test limits. If you are firm in your limits they learn that if not they learn that. I have two boys who are very well behaved for me because I correct them everytime and I don't put up with bad behavior or daudling. There father they terrorize because he ignores the problem then yells but never Does anything. You want to hear the really funny part they like me more too. I think parents today want their kid to like them and want ot always be the good time parent but kids want you to set boundaries they are smart enough to know that they aren't able to keep themselves out of trouble and need the security of an adult teaching them how to behave.

Answer 8

In my opinion they don't have respect for you. Kids have to learn at an early age to respect their belongings as well as people. Also kids need a strong structure and stability so they can look to you and learn. You are your kids best teacher.

Answer 9

I agree with COLE...you have to teach your children from the time they are young that you are the boss!! That doesn't mean yelling and screaming, but don't threaten and not do anything and don't let bad behavior go unnoticed. Take care of it RIGHT NOW! Do not let them disrespect you.

Answer 10

Because today's parents are scared to punish their children. The schools have parents believing if they punish their children - then it's considered abuse and they will lose their children.
Today's parents; both work and have no one-on-one time with their children so they leave their children to raise them selves................. what a shame!
Children need both parents, love, care, guidence and discipline!