2007-07-22 13:26:12 · 24 answers · asked by Nay Nay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i want to get married in the graveyard my grandmother is burried in. so that way it'll seem like she's there. she always wanted to see me get married...but sadly she cant.
2007-07-22 13:33:33 · update #1
I don't know why it wouldn't be legal. I think it's a neat idea. Would you wear a black wedding dress? That would be cool. Not many people can say they got married at the cemetary.
I just asked my dad about it. He works at the cemetary. He said sure why not. He has never seen it done. But if you gave the cemetary a couple of bucks it could probably be arranged.
2007-07-22 16:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by danadeville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may depend on your city or state. Your best bet would be to contact the graveyard office of where she is buried and ask them. They should be able to tell you if they allow it and what the regulations are. My only fear is that it will cause your other guests not to come. Many people don't care for graveyards. You could always place a nice portrait of her in a prominent place at the wedding to get the same feeling that she is there. If you have her in your heart, she will be there no matter where you have your wedding. I hope things work out for you.
2007-07-23 07:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kim C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss, but I really think that there are different ways to have your grandmother "there" then to get married in a graveyard. Is there a church near where she is buried? Or you could have a "chair of honor" with a picture of her and/or some flowers. I think you would regret the decision to get married in a graveyard later in your life... a wedding is supposed to be a happy day, not one where you and your guests are reminded of a grim or unfortunate event. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-22 20:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure....I guess it would be OK, since people do get married in the Forest Lawn Cemetery, they have a chapel there. But if you want to marry in a graveyard that is more private, then.......I don't know....As long as you are respectful and understand that you have to follow their rules if they let you, then you should be able to. I think the idea of getting married in a graveyard is beautiful, creepy and morbid all at the same time...I just want to know why you would want to marry there of all places?......but people get married in drive thru window weddings in Vegas, and everyone thinks its cool.....Go for it!! I want to be invited! Good luck and congrats if you are getting married
2007-07-22 20:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by lavendergrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check with the caretakers of the graveyard, or the cemetery association in charge of the graveyard. There is usually a phone number on the front gate, or on the caretakers or maintenance building. Best wishes!
2007-07-22 21:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can legally marry anywhere you want, as long as you get permission from the property owner first, and keep it all in good taste. I think this is a sweet idea. I'm sure anyone who you invite will be more than receptive to the idea...if they care about you then they will realize how important it is to have your grandmother nearby. Anyways, we teach our children to be individuals all their lives....then as they grow, we criticize their choices to be different, it's just human nature, so ignore all the negativity. Go figure...
2007-07-22 20:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by Madre 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is illegal, but i don't think the grounds would allow it either. You would have to ring up and ask.
It's a little odd to want to get married in a grave yard even if it is because you want to have your grandmother there. Perhaps you could have a place set for her at your reception and mention her in a speech? It does't matter where you are, she will be looking over you.
2007-07-23 00:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to get permission from the caretaker of the graveyard or some other authority. The caretaker will be able to give you the info.
2007-07-22 21:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the people saying 'why would u wanna do that?" - duh, she says in the question why she wants to do it, and its not because she's a sicko or anything!
I dont think it would be illegal, but contact whoever you need to about the particular graveyard you're grandmother is in to find out.
And I dont think its that bad of an idea, its kind of nice to want to include her even though she's deceased. Most people just have a thing about cemetaries.. they need to get over it..
2007-07-22 20:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by zimba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're getting married, that's all that counts in your world, eh? And if a little dishonoring of the dead goes along with and a few people with loved ones buried there get pissed, so what? It's your big day, and to hell with anyone else in the world, eh? It isn't a question of legality, it's a question of character. Do you have the ability to comprehend that there are other people in the world besides yourself?
2007-07-22 21:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋