i was raised in a christian home were everyone believes you should wait until your married to have sex. i also beileve you should wait. well my friend was like me.. raised christian, and beleived in waiting. well she met this guy who pressured her so much and she was completly in love with him and she eventully lost it to him. now this guy is in jail cuz hes a stoopid f***. and i asked my friend if she regreted losing it and she said that she didnt regret it. and now im begining to wonder, is waiting til your married a reasonable goal? or do we just to hope it happens? and also do people even wait anymore?
2007-07-22 13:01:34 · 24 answers · asked by hey.gurl.heyy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont let religion inhibit your life. plus, im 13 , and evan I know that sex is amazing!
2007-07-22 13:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by In love with Evanna 2 · 1⤊ 6⤋
People do wait, and on this site you'll find many that claim to have waited or are still waiting...along with plenty that chose not to.
It's an individual choice and each person must decide if it's important to them to wait or not....and why they feel that way.
I chose not to wait, and never regretted my decision. I've known others that chose not to wait, and say they wished they had. Some do wait and are glad they did...others do wait and then decide it would've been okay if they hadn't.
We don't really know for sure what the best decision for us is, until that time arrives and we find out how we feel about the event...all we can do is go with our feelings or gut instinct re: what we think is best for us, and then hope we are correct.
Either way, as long as a person takes the proper precautions against STDs and unwanted pregnancy, and the sex is consensual, then whether they choose to wait or not, or end up regretting their decision or not, it's not a life or death issue...it's just a choice that was made and may or may not have turned out as they hoped.
2007-07-22 20:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am christian & have been raised since i was born, but i started to believe on my own, that i wasnt going to wait until i was married. i am still a virgin but now i am scared of losing it yet i want to experience it as well. i finally decided that i wanted to lose it. i think that having sex before you get married can be a good thing because you can get an idea of what it is & can practice having it safely & when you finally do tie the knot, you'll be able to have a better sex life with your partner & it can make it much more pleasurable. i'm not saying to sleep with every guy you see, more that you should experience sex when you feel comfortable & connected with someone before getting married. it can be handly for the future.
2007-07-22 22:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by flacalatina89 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey well i may be only 17 but i know what u're saying...i am too raised in a christian family and i used to believe it taht way too!! my mum especially because of her sister who got pregnant before marriage is very afraid of that!! this year i changed school i am going in college and the year i have been there everything changed..my opinions..my views..everything!! i met new guys and girls who's opinions are different and made everything seem more simpler that it was!! i thought sex was a big deal!! i don't like sex who do just to make sex...sex without feeling i nothing!! i believe if u're with someone for more than 3 to 4 months and u love him for real..well i think it's not a bad idea to make love..you will not regret it if u love him!! just always take preventions!! but do as u like do not feel pressured by guys and do not feel pressured by religion and family!!! u have ur own mind and heart to think for urself so feel free to think and see what's best!! but if u want my opinion...the first time is very important and do it only if u really love a guy and he loves u back and feel that he's d one to make it with...remember with sex u r giving ur body and soul to your partner so be careful and not throw it away!! well goodluck!!
2007-07-22 20:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Desperatly_in_love 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would wait till u met someone you loved 100% you don't need t be married, but to be close like that, i bet it is emotional, and i the 2 of u break up it wil hurt more b/c it was with somene u loved and it didn't work out, at least wait till you know your absolutley sure u love each other, i mean it spoils the hunny moon sort of, but it's your life, itdepends on what u want to do with it. I mean to compare, i have freinds that have a kid, and they have no free time to do anything, i on the other hand have a college degree, and i a m pretty much free to do what ever i want to, most of my freinds tell me they regreted doing it so early, if th guy loves u he wil respect your wishes, if he dosen't get it , then, well, he won't get it will he?:)
2007-07-22 20:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by jt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 and still waiting for marriage. I look forward to meeting the women God gives me and sharing that with her. I would say it is a reasonable goal because once it is gone it is gone for good. When you have sex you give a little piece of yourself away and when that person that you shared yourself with leaves or you break up it is like tearing a band-aid off. It is not JUST sex. So much more goes into it. Let me know what you think.?
2007-07-22 20:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
some people do wait until they are married. but it's your choose and not anyone else. if you believe in waiting until your married then wait until your married. absent-ant is something a lot of people need to learn because now a days people are having sex and getting pregnant and not taking responsible for their actions. if your are with someone you truly love and you think he's the one you want to give it to then go for it but just make sure you are doing it because you want to do it and not because someone is pressuring you to do it. sex is great when you are with someone you truly love. waiting until you are married is a reasonable goal for anyone who wants to wait until they are married. you don't want to regret giving it up. just because your friends are doing it doesn't mean you have to do it too. I mean if your friends decided to drink and drive would you go and do it too? I'll admit I didn't wait until I was married and I did regret it. I was raised as a christian too. but the reason I did it was because all my friends were doing it. I shouldn't have done it because of my Friends I should've done it because I wanted to do it. so if you want to wait good for you and if you don't good for you to just don't regret it if you do. just make the right chose for yourself and don't let someone else make it for you. there is nothing wrong with waiting until you are married either.
2007-07-22 23:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there friend, may i say that i do believe that you should hold true to your beliefs. Don't allow the lies of your friend to deceive you in doing something that you will regret later..You mention that your friends Boy Friend pressured her to sleep with him, i say to you that i disagree..Your friend wasn't forced by him or pressured by him, she wanted to do it...Let me explain, if you don't eat carrots no matter how hard someone try to get you to eat them you just won't...I speak from experience when i tell ya...Another thing you should take into consideration is that when ever you have sex you actually producing something called "Soul Ties" The Bible says that a man should leave his Father and Mother and cleave to his wife". By having sex before marriage your allowing other men's souls to in twined with you..Just watch the emotions your friend will battle with for her saying she doesn't regret it...Hold on women of God, remember this a few hours of pleasure isn't worth sacrificing alife time of happiness. God made sex for men and women to enjoy but only in marriage. Stay encouraged and wait on God and trust me your boots will be rocked that right way...
2007-07-22 20:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by marinchrist1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, wait.
Trust me God made sex to be in marrage, outside of that its missery, even if it feels good as they claim.
The thing is...the people that didnt wait, cant say that waiting to share your first time and give it as a gift to your husband on your wedding night is one of the most romantic things anyone can do. and im sure that It is soo much more ammazing in marage beacuse God will bless it beacuse you waited.
Im still waiting. and im 20. Never dated, never been kissed.
First kiss will be shared at the alter with my future wife.
why give any peice of me away that cant be taken back if its only for some stupid fling.
Im not that desprate and my self control and morals will make sure I dont too.
2007-07-22 20:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by robertt223 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both my wife and I waited, I don't regret it at all, and if I had to do it again I would wait. I've been married 10 years and have had plenty of amazing sex. Don't be in such a hurry, you'll have plenty of time and it truly means so much more.
2007-07-22 20:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by jstusucks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people wait, and it is reasonable to ask for understanding on waiting. and good for you if that is what you want. don't let a guy pressure you into it if you think you should wait. it's better to loose it to someone that's for real. if a guy is pressuring you, he pretty much just wants sex. after he gets it, not much to keep him around if that was all he was after. sex is great. it's something that should be shared between two mature consenting adults. if you want it, do it. if not, then good for you. i don't think you would have to wait until married, but i think it best to wait for a mature person.
2007-07-22 20:11:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋