Am I worthless if I choose to live my life alone?

Question

Am I worthless if I choose to live alone without helping anyone and without getting help from anyone in the world? after suffering in school, sufering at work, suffering from verbal abusive father, friends who are not close enough/real friends and a terrible terrible relationship with no mutual respect. I'm 37 separated man with a daughter. Thanks.

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with living alone. Some people prefer and do better living in solitude. You do have to have someone to reach out to, though, at least once in awhile.

Answer 2

Hello Mr. Thinker,
We think a lot alike. I've been verbally abused by family and friends because I suffer from depression and am bipolar2. Sometimes it's debilitating. I've gained weight so I guess I'll be living alone too. I also have a son that I try to be strong for. If you ever want to chat AS FRIENDS only, as I couldn't mentally handle anything else, feel free to IM me. You are not worthless although I feel the same way so often. I wish you a peaceful day.

Answer 3

Everyone should have the right to chose to live their life their way as long as they do not break laws or hurt others. But you cannot totally hide from the world because you need to have an income, albeit a job, to pay for things.

But you have a daughter and that would not be fair if you dropped from the face of the earth. From what you describe I would say you are experiencing one of several issues - mid life crisis, depression, or a physically illness. Go see a licensed counselor through your insurance or through a state/county mental health program to help you discover the root of the problem and appropriate solutions.

Life is good. Many people work and then chose to go home and not socialize. Each person has to make that decision for themselves. But from the way you describe yourself, I don't think you want to be socially isolated, just happy with friends and respect.

Answer 4

No there is nothing wrong with living alone if you are happy and content with that. The fact is, that many people who do NOT live alone do so because they don't have the guts to do it because they are so worried about what other people will think. What is important here is that you love yourself, and become your own best friend, and be there for yourself when all others fail you. If you can attain that value, you have far exceeded those who live their lives dependent upon others for survival. Learn to converse with yourself, and learn to answer yourself freely. You may be doing this already and not even realize it. It is you communicating with yourself to a greater degree than most people ever achieve in a lifetime. Congratulations! You are indeed, by every standard, a true success.

Answer 5

The thing is you may not be worthless if u choose to live your life that way.It all depends on yourself you may appear worthless to rest of the world yet you feel worthwhile to yourself.Well sufering is always with us and we have suffered for as long as we've lived so my dear just be yourself and do your best in all you persue. My advice is "NO MAN IS AN ISLAND, NO MAN STANDS ALONE"

Answer 6

I apologize, but this is laughable. LOL. Cheer up sir, this is only life. You are not alone. Its the human condition of sufferage.

Anyway, it seems you are depressed like the rest of us. If there is someone not depressed now, then they will be later. Expect it. Deal with it. Enjoy your life. Be kind, respectful, gentle, helpful where you can be. Volunteer. Here's a quote for you:

"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Keep your chin up! No one is worthless. Imagine how a simple smile can make someone's day. Have you tried religion? Visit your nearest church. You'll discover hope there.

Answer 7

Dear Mister Thinker,

You are not worthless if you choose to live your life alone.

You are only worthless IF YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE WORTHLESS and that has absolutely nothing to do with whehter you live alone or with other people.

You choose not to get help from others in the world because you believe that you are worthless and not worth other people's time and effort to help. "I suck anyway, why waste their time??"

You believe you are worthless and therefore no matter where you go, you do not feel good and keep "SUFFERING"...

You believe you are worthless and that is why you allow your father to throw verbal abuse at you.. while you hate it on the outside, your belief that you are worthless has actually made you AGREE with all that he is saying about you deep inside... so you continually allow him to do that because, "he is right you know... I am ****..." that's what you really think..

Your misguided belief that you are worthless has also made you feel you are not worth of friendship.. that is why you never made any good friends.

Your misconception that you are worthless made you decided that you should have a terrible relationship with no mutual respect. "That way, I can prove that I am really worthless.. I am so worthless even my wife dun respect me... and I am so super worthless that SHE HAS DECIDED TO LEAVE ME!"

But it is all a misguided negative self belief about yourself.

The good news is that you can rectify it.. by MAKING A CHOICE!

You can choose again.. to be WORTHY and PRECIOUS. If you can, close your eyes and think back on all those things that made you feel worthless... imagine yourself throwing it down the rubbish chute and then tell yourself, "I am willing to let go of that. That is not true about me. I am not like that. I am precious."

Next, list down all the people and things that made you feel you are worthless. One by one, close your eyes, think about them, what they did, and FORGIVE THEM. When you find that you can forgive them 100%, you send love to them and tell yourself. "I forgive them. I am precious."

That would help.. if you need someone to talk to, you could email me at [e-mail]

Remember, you are so very precious.. your mere existence is important to many people around you (eg, your daughter).

I will be sending you lots of love ;)

Answer 8

so you want your daughter to be like you? alone and only concerned with your own pain? it sounds like you have had some good things in your life too...are you in a wheelchair? are you blind? are you deaf? you choose friends worthy of you---did you choose wisely? can you look outside yourself to those worse off than you and show compassion even though you were shown none?
if you want to live alone with no impact on anyone else move to a commune or become a hermit but you have a child and must think of her and what kind of world you want her to grow up in.....one where she kicks others when they are down or one where she helps others up....or maybe one where she has no idea that there even are other people besides herself?

Answer 9

Your world is very insular. There are so many possibilities for you in the world. You have a daughter who needs her father and his input into her life. Worthless, I don't think so, frightened a little, perhaps. But, you are loving and have been loved. Try to recover some of your self image. It may be a tough journey, but self-discovery can be one of the hardest to conquer. Good luck.

Answer 10

Crawling into a world of self-isolation will only make the situation worse!! You have a child that needs you!! Regain your focus and take a stand!! Life can s*** but, your negativity will only cause more harm than good. You cannot control other people and their actions!! You are not the only person that has had or has this problem.