how do you manage parental pressure?

Question

here's what they're doing to me

-school grades
-extra music classes
-not perfect enough (even though i have an average of 85%)
-taking care of annoying little brothers
-crazy *** neighbour whose constantly on my back (my parents worship her, she's the next person to God)
-and people at church think i'm a disgrace because i spoke to one guy

help me

Answer 1

First off, you have every right to feel stressed because parental pressure can be immense (I am a teacher and I see it A LOT). I do not have kids but do know that when I do I only want the best for them, which may come across as something a child may seem as silly or impossible. Nine times outta ten the parents all have the best intentions and if they are doing something that is making you feel the way you do their is only one solution...COMMUNICATION! Tell your parents how you feel, but try to remain calm and mature about it. Tell them that you need to have a serious "sit down" talk which will def. get their attention and when they find out what it is they will be happy to know that is something that they can fix. For the people at church, well, they shouldn't be judgemental, so just pray for them to act more Christian like (or whatever religon you are) and don't worry about it! And for the crazy neighbor, kill her with kindness, even though you want to kill her, and she will be shocked and not know what to do with herself. Hope this helps!! P.S. Keep up the good grades:)

Answer 2

I wish I could help you out, but I thankfully have wonderful parents who've never pushed me toward anything I didn't want. I wholly believe in being true to your own self and your own interests. If you are interested in music then do it. If you are interested in making friends, even if male, do it. BUT, above all, DO NOT lie or deceive your parents as that only makes you look devious and immature. I'd think about what you seriously want for yourself and your life and tell your parents in a calm, composed manner (without anger, yelling, or tears). Explain why you want what you want and that you welcome their guidance and advice, but you want to live life and make your own mistakes.

However, also keep in mind that parents are often operating from extreme love and do, you have to admit, have more experience than you and would like to give advice (or pressure) that would save you from bad and negative experiences that they themselves experienced.

I don't think this is all that helpful at the immediate moment...but I DO KNOW that being true to oneself is above all the most important thing!

Answer 3

how old are you.try to isolate yourself from them,but don't piss em off more than neccesary.hang out with friends as often as possible.adopt what I call "the fed up husband" method.just kinda yes em to death and do whatever to shut em up.You can see this technique employed in many televison shows by characters such as Mr. Roper (Three's Company) Geoffrey (the Fresh Prince of Bel Air) and Abner Kravitz (bewitched).it does work believe me.just try not to care what they think

Answer 4

The only thing that will make your parents stop fussing about u is to build a strong bond of trust with your parents. if they trust u not to do anything wrong or anything they fear about u
they will not fuss over u at all. Creating trust within your parents may even mean to prove yourself up to them that u r capable of life on yr own. I would suggest that u ask yr parents before any thing u do to what they expect of u from it and it helps u alot. they will not stop u from doing anything bad but u will have to choose the things u r not suppose to tell them.

I am only sixteen but trust me. Because its all about TRUST ain't it?

Cheers!

Rudraksh

Answer 5

OMG i know how you feel! I'm trying my hardest in school and i made only one B in my report card so as soon as they saw that one lousy B they threw me in this gay-*** tuition center. i know how you feel about not being perfect enough! GEEZ we're only trying, cant they give us a break?

Answer 6

waa !!!waa !!!! someone please call a WAAmbulance
just tell them how you feel that they put so much pressure on you that you had to ask a million starngers how to deal with it. all parents want the best for their kids. so much so that they dont realize that they need to also praise them for the good things going on. i talked to my mom and she backed of a lot. :D

Answer 7

tell your parents that they are expecting to much of you and you are trying as much as you can also tell them that some of these activites and that your stress bar is overwelming and hope they understand

Answer 8

Take a Miller-Lite, and just chill. Sometimes, Na I'll just have another miller-lite.

Answer 9

Relax, things Can and Will get worse--especially if you act like a cry baby----

Answer 10

I told dad to go **** himself, I can't say I remember much after that...