Do you think best friends can ever become more?

Question

I see some of my friends ending up with their best friends but it leads to a break up which means losing your best friend and boyfriend/girlfriend. So what i'm asking is, can best friends ever become more and work out?

Answer 1

If it works, it's the best thing in the world.

Also, any breakup means you're losing your best friend and boyfriend/girlfriend anyway. It's best to at least try it and not think about the ending. There's no way to know for sure what direction it will go. Anything with a high risk is worth chancing.

Answer 2

Yes. I married mine. The only true way that you can have lasting love is if you have developed a real friendship with your significant other first. At first, all new relationships are hot, passionate and filled with irresistable animal attraction. After a couple of years though, that fades and what is left is only what you have been able to develop through the caring and respect that you have for each other. In other words, great relationships only survive in the long term based on the strength of the friendship that two people share. So, best friends can absolutely become more.........and probably should.

Answer 3

It can occasionally work out, but it often doesn't. Just because most relationship don't end up working out. It's just a statistical likelihood that the relationship will end.

I credit Adam Corolla for pointing out that most male/female relationships start with one person being at least slightly romantically interested in the other. So if the relationship developed as a friendship in the beginning, rather than dating, it seems there was probably a reason for this. In my experience, when friends start dating it often seems like one party is way more into the other, and that's why it doesn't work.

Answer 4

Yes, I have know best friends who became lovers and have been together long-term. However, if the romantic relationship doesn't work out, most often there is no going back to the original friendship. Sometimes other types of associations cam happen if the romantic relationship doesn't work out. But, yes it does mean risking the friendship.

Answer 5

It is risky. I lost my best friend by dating him. The thing that I didn't realize was that I really liked him but there was no physical attraction. I found out to late that I didn't want to kiss him or anything else. I broke his heart and we are no longer friends. I do however believe that it is helpful to be friends before dating, but not to spend to much time in the "friendship" phase, because it makes for a difficult transition.

Answer 6

I think it depends a lot on your age and maturity. If you are still in high school, probably not, but most hs romances don't last forever. If in college or later, definitely. I married my best friend. We were both 25 yr old. We had known each other for 7 yrs, but never dated. I had just moved to her city and she offered to be my tour guide. 5 weeks later, we were in love. She proposed to me. Been married over 40 yrs. We think it is great. We see people doing things to their spouses that they would NEVER do to their best friends.

Answer 7

Yes, every guy who is a good friend to you probably wants to be with you. The more attention they pay to you without crossing the line, the more they like you.

Answer 8

This article came out in a local paper.
"Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding and confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty, through good times and bad. It survives dark moods and makes allowances for frailties. It settles for less than perfection, for none of us is perfect."

Answer 9

yes they can become more and work it out but everytime I've seen someone get with their bestfriend then it ends up bad.

Answer 10

It has happened,but you usually end up with the one you can't stand.