If you are single by choice...what do you like best about the situation?

Question

What does it enable you to do that being a couple would not.

What is your favorite thing you have done single.....and why?

Answer 1

Mornings:
I wake up, get coffee, read, go check the computer for e-mails, go for a bike ride, watch the boob tube, do some work on line while watching the boob tube, go outside and read a book, whathaveyou.
(Nobody telling me to do stuff for her - no other agendas - nobody trying to make me feel like my sole purpose for waking up was HER wants and needs)

Gym:
I go to the gym and work out - talk to my favorite girls there. Every now and then we hang out after the workout - sometimes it's totally innocent, sometimes it's not.
(No guilt - nobody to answer to)

Coming Home:
Get undressed, throw my cloths on the floor, put on something comfortable. Go do e-mails, write, read, whatever. Then, before bed, put cloths away.
(Nobody freaking out about the cloths on the floor, where I just was, who I was talking to and what I'm going to do for her for the rest of my waking evening - the MOMENT I walk in the door)

Sleeping:
Some nights, I get the whole bed! Heaven. Some nights, I have a friend over. Sex with a new person is exciting, not always great, but definitely less of the "Honey, I'm going to lay on my back and read a magazine while you do your thing - so just be sure to clean up after yourself" kind of sex. I hate that.

*Also, I get to learn more about myself by being with others. It's like learning about yourself from many different angles as you reflect with others.

That's what I like

Answer 2

It all depends on the spouse. Some marriages don't bond away someone's individuality/independence. But I think that is the exception, not the rule.
Marriages tend to make ppl take things for granted which means there is a spouse regularly doing a spousely thing whether they want to or not. This is a major drawback to marriage.
Marriage affords you the convenience of a regular person to sleep w/ BUT it's suppose to be ONLY that person til death ... for most males I think this is a difficult part of the deal. Females seem to adjust to monogamy better than males.
A big part of the picture is whether there are children involved. Children dwindle parent's independence down to practically nothing.
I can't really pinpoint a fav thing done being single but I can tell you this ... whatever I did, I did because I was ready to do it, not because I had someone nagging me to get it done.
Personally, I don't see any reason for ppl to get married other than getting a loved one covered on your health plan or to have children. Even w/ children, they could still be raised by an unmarried cpl. The important thing is that they have a mother and a father.
Marriage is just a piece of paper that brings more laws into your life.

Answer 3

Single by choice for six years ... no negotiation or compromise ... no answering to another person ... wake up in the morning feeling clean ... no snoring to put up with ... no fighting over the remote ... not obligated to cook big meals or clean house to someone else's standard.

I had a great first marriage, but was widowed. After two more tries, I'm done. I don't really trust my instincts anymore (see your other question), so I think I'll go solo from now on .. I've always been something of a loner anyway.

Answer 4

I am single by choice, and I like the fact that I don't ever have to answer to anyone. I live my own life, without limitations or boundaries. It has enabled me to do many things that I feel I would have been too distracted to do if I was coupled off with someone.

Answer 5

My autonomy (I like being able to go when and where I want), and peace of mind. I don't miss the head games, manipulation, fighting, innuendos, cruel insults, lies…

Favorite things I've done single… I've decided what I wanted to do with my life and where to live. I am also growing, something I could Not have done otherwise.

Answer 6

My sister is getting married in a month and with all of the hassle it has been, and still is, I think I am going to be single by choice, or elope.
We have had to do a ton of work on the house and I am a bridesmaid and there's jewelry and my mom wants us to sing a song. It's just too much hassle and too much money.

Answer 7

I guess I'm single by choice. My gf wants us to give our relationship another try. But I chose not to, because I wanan give her the freedom she wants. She can go to parties, clubbing, and hang out with her guys friends until like hella late or early haha in the morning. She doesn't like me being so jealous and now I don't have to be anymore. For me, I'm not enjoying life right now, I'm miserable. That is all.

Well, my friends introduced me to a girl yesterday, but I wasn't interested. I miss my gf.

Answer 8

my living space is never invaded. I mean, I don't even ever have friends come over. I get the whold bed to myself, and don't have to feel that I should be ashamed if I snore.
I can do anything I chose to do, at my own time, and don't have to consult with someone else, or get approval.
my favourite thing that I have done is to raise my dogs, because there was no one around to interfere with that.

Answer 9

well, i really hate weddings, i really hate them, and once your married they start thinking about having a baby and i really hate babies, also if i get married i will have more obligations, like having a house for example, and i like living in rented apartments so sometimes i have to move from one place to another, and i dont think thats appropiate with two married persons, i also like going out with my friends a lot, if i get married i wont be able to go out that much, so i like a lot of things about being single, especially the part about the wedding, i hate weddings

Answer 10

I do whatever I want, when I want and how I want and no one to give me any hassles about anything. My fav thing is to remain single and for all the above reasons.