My BF was going to take me on a trip, but now he won't because I cheated on him? Help?

Question

I cheated on my boyfriend for a second time a few weeks ago, and my boyfriend found out. The first time I cheated was over 6 months ago and that wasn't my fault because the guy sweet talked me into doing it, so my boyfriend gave me one more chance. Well it happened again and I got sweet talked again by a guy from work so we went to a hotel across the street from work.

Well the guy I slept with told another guy about it ... and the guy he told was a friend of my boyfriend and the bastard told my boyfriend. He broke up with me today and I'm upset because my boyfriend had been planning a trip for us to go to Santa Monica. He had booked an ocean view room at a hotel, and we had flight reservations and everything and I'm upset because he paid for it all and he won't let me go now. I kept asking him to please let me come and I said I would never do it again and he still won't let me come and he said he‘s taking his SISTER now. I was looking forward to the trip and now I can’t go.

I’ve never been so upset and I really want him back because I do love him and when I say I won’t cheat again I do mean it. PLEASE how can I get him back?

ITS NOT my fault and I'm sitting here crying, does anyone even care?

I WANT TO GO TO SANTA MONICA

Answer 1

Do you even feel bad or guilty about it at all? It is your fault that you cheated. F the sweet talk, fight the temptation. as for the trip, do you really care about it that much? shouldn't you worry about your bf's feelings instead? If he gives you another chance, take it and make sure you play it right this time, If he does, I must say He is a BIG MAN.

Answer 2

Jessie, I would generally tell someone to forgive their significant other for being unfaithful. However, you are not taking OWNERSHIP of this problem. You are blaming some guys "sweet talk" for your indiscretions? How about taking the consequences like a big girl? I don't think you really care about your boyfriend, not only because of the cheating, but, because you are not even the least bit humble, or sorry. The only thing you are sorry about is you are not going on the trip. Too bad you are upset, how do you think your boyfriend feels? I hope your boyfriend finds a nice girl, who can not be so easily talked into bed with every sweet talker that she converses with. I hope your soon to be ex and his sister enjoy themselves tremendously, maybe he will send you a post card! HAVING A GREAT TIME, GLAD YOUR NOT HERE!!!!!

Answer 3

You cheated on him 2 times? How is this NOT your fault? Im not trying to sound like a *****,but i'm surprised he took you back the second time. He doesnt trust you anymore, that's why he doesnt want you to come and he's taking his sister with him because he needs space from you. You sound selfish to me, No offence, but why did you cheat again? Sweet -talking?? You fell for that? Come on, I dont care if the guy gave you diamonds! You were the one who decided to sleep with this guy.. and i'm sure the last thing you were thinking about was your boyfriend too. You need to grow up. I don't feel sorry for you, i feel sorry for your boyfriend. Maybe now he can find someone who does really care about him! Deal with the problem that YOU caused!

Answer 4

ok, I didn't even read anything past the third sentence. Because nothing you can say after that would justify what you did. I doubt the guy held a gun to your head.

I don't blame your boyfriend. "He sweet talked me into it", what kind of excuse is that? You have have free will don't you? Is that supposed to make somebody go "oh! well that makes ALL the difference!" Nope. To be honest, I don't think you deserve a boyfriend who is going to be faithful to you, and take you on trips or do anything for you. You reap what you sew, and now you are.

You get treated the way you treat somebody, so congrats the guy you cheated with used you for some instant fun.

And if you want to go to Santa Monica, pay for yourself. Why would anyone pay for you. You sound like a spoiled brat throwing a tantrum because you didn't get your way. Better yet, ask the guy you messed around with to pay for you, think he will? If you really did love your boyfriend, you would of been faithful.

Not trying to be harsh, but this is the reality of it. No sugar coating here.

Answer 5

1st of all if u really loved him u wouldn't have done that no matter if a guy sweet talked u or what i believie in second chances or case 3rd chances (not that i cheated on a man) maybe you don't love him as you think or want to, if he cares about you that much he will come around and if this doesnt work out then u should try to get in another relationship and now u know what not to do and ask for ur trip unless u helped to pay for it - I can understand why he didnt want you to go

Answer 6

You are the sorriest, greediest, woman I've ever seen! You cheat on him, he gives you a 2nd chance, you do it again....You are a s*** because if you weren't, there would be NO MAN on this earth that could "sweet talk" you into cheating on what seems to be a pretty good guy. You deserve to lose him and whatever plans he had for the 2 of you. I would bet my last dollar if he took you on that trip once you got what you wanted and were back home you'd drop him again for whatever slime talked you into bed. You need to look yourself in the mirror and see if you like what is really there....You are really a terrible person. You are one of the reason us decent women have a hard time finding a good guy.

Answer 7

Seems to me as long as a guy sweet talks you he will be getting some snatch from you. Well I don't blame your bf for getting rid of you and I can see why he wouldn't take you on this trip. Especially if he went out , and the bellhop talk sweet to you and end up in bed with him. Well crying will do you no good and a second chance was given to you and you took it for granted. So next tiem when somene tell you you ahve a delicious body and a wonderful set of **** and your legs are a mile long remember what that got you into. SO hey I can talk sweet to you too, just IM me anytime and I can sweet talk to you.

Answer 8

Too bad, you lose. Why should anyone feel sorry for your missing out on a trip when you've clearly chosen to hurt somebody who trusted you not once but twice? Sweet talked you into it? Listen, if you're so suceptible to Jedi mind tricks that you can't withstand a little sweettalk you don't deserve to be taken anywhere of any significance. And you actually have the nerve to be upset about it. Bless your heart, you're a complete fool. Hopefully this will wake you up a bit before you completely mess your life up. Good luck, Lady.

Answer 9

Wow, where to begin... First off, you got extremely lucky the first time when he forgave you. Your situation reminds me of a quote I heard somewhere: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Now, obviously there wasn't any fooling going on, because you got caught. TWICE. But, in a way it is your boyfriend's fault too, because he should have dropped you the first time. And it sounds like you care more about this trip than any kind of reconciliation. If you care for this man at all, then you shouldn't try to get back together with him at all, because you will probably end up hurting him again.

Answer 10

purely leave. If he has been mendacity and cheating and is now doing something this ridiculous, purely leave. He would not deserve a while in explaining him, you're thank you to sturdy for him! purely wait till he is going on the holiday and flow out! Take all your issues and he could have relaxing along with his soreness whilst he gets back! delight on your existence and don't stay with all of us who has harm you!!!