My boyfriend is constantly hanging out with other girls. He has gone out to dinner and over ones house when it was just the too of them. I know I should trust him because we have been together for 2 years but it bothers me. He has even ditched me a couple of times for them. I have told him how it makes me feel but he keeps doing it. I don't know how to control my jealously or what to do. Please give me advice.
2007-07-22 10:24:44 · 21 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If these are girls he grew up with and knew before he met you, AND he was NEVER involved with... I wouldn't think anything of it. He's probably just "hanging out with friends that happen to be girls"
But, if he met them recently, or WAS involved with them in the past... Then this not a good thing at all... He's basically going on dates, looking single. Dinners out, and such at home, alone is not a good thing with these women. "Alone outings" should be restricted to 30-60 minute "Let's meet for coffee" type occassions and they should not be frequent or regular meetings either. And it should be a "meet" not an "I'll come and pick you up" deal...That's when it crosses from a "meeting" to a "date"!
Would he approve of you behaving in the same manner with other guys?
My rule with regards to the opposite sex, when you're in a relationship is this-
You and your partner should always behave as if your partner is standing right beside you.
2007-07-22 10:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by ✿Donna❀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's blowing you off and not even considering how you are feeling, don't let him take advantage of you like this anymore!
My ex and I were together for over a year. Yeah, I trusted him too. It came to the point where he wouldn't go out with me as much anymore and would make excuses for his behavior. Sure enough, I found pictures of him all over a girl. I ended it right away.
Don't wait till he cheats on you to end it. You deserve a hell of a lot better. Don't play games with him by going out with GUY friends.... he's not even worth your time anymore.
God does not take something away from you without giving you something better.
2007-07-22 17:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I would end it.. he obviously is not caring about your feelings because if he did then he would stp period... thats crazy that he has ditched you for them.. what does that tell you.. you really arent an importtant factor in his life right now and as much as you may not want to hear that..its the truth... its not worth being hurt over.,.. you deserve better than that.. but if you insist on staying then go out with some of your guy friends and let hiim get a taste of what it feels like.. i hope things work out for you and you find the way you are destined to go!
2007-07-22 17:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by libbynstanlo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just one of his girlfriends and not his favorite one.
Wake up girl. He's dating other women. You don't have an exclusive relationship. If he's "playing the field" you should be doing the same. Just because he's known you for two years that's not a reason to trust a cheater. It means he's bored with you. If you are giving him sex then the other girls are too or he wouldn't waste his time on them. If you're not doing it after two years he has a good reason to date others.
You shouldn't be jealous you should be angry. Dump him quick.
2007-07-22 18:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the one hand, it's cool for a guy to have lady friends and do stuff with them. You have been cool to let him do this. My husband's best friend is a woman and I trust the two of them completely.
However, your bf ditching you to be with his friends, girls or guys, is not cool. That's just plain disrespectful. He is taking your trust and tolerance for granted.
Give him an ultimatum. Either he remembers that you're his girlfriend and that his priorities with you should be higher than with his friends, or you will move on.
Don't back down. You deserve to be treated better.
2007-07-22 17:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to have friends of the opposite sex. I work with many more women than men so my social circle includes more women. i have always had more women friends though. i;m also a flirt with many women.
I have been married 25 years and have never cheated on my wife. i have had lunch and rinks with women friends as she has with male friends, but that was all we did.
trust is just that. she knows I LOVE her and that the others are friends. jealously is not good for relationships and I would NEVER have stayed with a woman who did not trust me or tried to make me be different from who I am.
2007-07-22 17:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no!
Sorry, had to let that out. I understand the whole friendship part of this story, but ditching you for them? That's taking it way too far. Trust him, okay, fine, but I wouldn't put up with the other crap at all. You've already told him how you feel and yet he ignores it, time to let him know it's them or you, be prepared for him to walk away.
In my opinion, it's not worth it.
2007-07-22 17:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, I don't think there is anything wrong with maintaining friendships with the opposite sex, but it sounds like he goes too far. If he has ditched you for another girl on any occasion, then something is wrong. You need to get out of the relationship. Find a guy who has similar feelings to yours about friendships with the opposite sex.
2007-07-22 17:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't care about you emotionally! So it's up to you to decide on whether or not you can accept this behavior that he has, or you're willing to let him go and let him realize that you were being honest on how it makes you feel when he treats you like he does.
Stand up for yourself, don't let him ignore you, it's not worth it. there's more fish in the sea!
Two years, it's not that long, dump him! he's not a good catch- let him hang out with all the other girls he wants, you're just not going to be his doormat! so again the choice is yours!~!~
2007-07-22 17:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by babysteppin2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you trust a b/f whop dumps you to hang out with another girl/Why not surprise him and show up where they are at?You are crazy for sharing him with other girls, they WANT him and he is eating it up.Dump him and find a guy who is into you and not into all the other girls.
2007-07-22 17:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋